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This question has 9 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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5 April 2012: Since my satirical article on how to get a boyfriend (With the real advice on the bottom) seemed to be well liked, I thought I'd write one for the opposite gender! Like the last one, please don't read the first half and then leave. The first...
The reason why so many relationships fail
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30 January 2012: I've come to realize recently that there are so many relationships that fail, so many guys and girls that break up with their boyfriend/girlfriend, and so many broken hearts. You may say it's because of the increased population, but I say it's b...
"how do I attract boys?"
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23 January 2012: (Note: The good advice is at the bottom. Read through for a laugh) I see this so often nowadays. mostly it's girls who want their first kiss, or a boyfriend, or whatever, and they ask us what they need to do to get a boyfriend. So I'm...
Shadow's View on LGBT and the like.
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8 December 2011: It's recently come to my attention that a lot of people seem to think that they can simply BECOME gay/bi/etc. And that being so is wrong. I'd just like to write down my words, and hope it helps people. First off, I'd like to address the firs...
Pointers for a meaningful, healthy relationship.
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27 October 2011: I dont claim to be a relationship guru, but I've got a few pointers that have worked for me. These are the five points of maintaining a meaningful, good relationship, and both males and females can get some use out of this. 1. Honesty- A relation...
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My boyfriend cheated on his girlfriend to be with me and now I am having a hard time trusting him!
Q. Hello. How do you learn to trust someone? My boyfriend cheated on a girlfriend to be with me. He left her for me. Now we are a couple. We have been for about 6 months. He claims how much he cares about me and treats me well over all. Spea...
A. 4 December 2013: It's not your fault at all. While typically it is morally unacceptable to knowingly date someone in a committed relationship, it's not the reason why you can't trust him.
The reason you can't trust him is because he's cheated before, and he is st... (read in full...)
How do you keep a man happy?
Q. This may be a stupid question but how do you keep a man happy? What makes a relationship work and last? I've been with my bf for 7 months and I really care about him and don't want to lose him, I want to continue to make him happy and make o...
A. 4 December 2013: It all depends on your boyfriend's likes and dislikes, really. If he likes playing flag football, then don't tease him for liking it... If he likes romantic walks on the beach, then take that boy out for a romantic walk on the beach.
He'll... (read in full...)
Whenever I try to flirt with him, he stops replying to my texts!
Q. Hi! It's me, an aunt that hasn't been on in quite some time! (Oops, sorry!) And now I have a problem... I've never been good at flirting. In fact, you could say I'm even pretty clueless when it comes to flirting. I don't normally flirt, bec...
A. 11 November 2012: Sorry about that. I forgot.
Well, I only recently started getting enough confidence to flirt a few months ago...
I'll just talk to him about it next time I see him...... (read in full...)
Whenever I try to flirt with him, he stops replying to my texts!
Q. Hi! It's me, an aunt that hasn't been on in quite some time! (Oops, sorry!) And now I have a problem... I've never been good at flirting. In fact, you could say I'm even pretty clueless when it comes to flirting. I don't normally flirt, bec...
A. 10 November 2012: Well, I should mention that this is my boyfriend if two years.
Don't know why I didn't add that, but hopefully this bit of information can make this make a little more sense.
Since I'm not like, cornering some guy I like or anything. (When ... (read in full...)
He's my ex. I accidentally saw him out wearing the shirt I gave him. But he ignored me. Why would he wear THAT shirt?
Q. okay so i havent seen my ex since his birthday last month, where i gave him a shirt. we've only spoken a couple of times since then and they were not pleasant conversations. he started dating his ex before me and i moved on. ive never felt so reli...
A. 20 August 2012: I think you're reading too far into it. You got him a gift, and even if you two aren't dating, it's still something useable, and obviously, he's using it.
It was most likely just luck that you happened to see him wearing that shirt. ... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 13 August 2012: Were I single and this was asked of me, I'd say no, because it's not like all women want in life is to get married.
I'd need to date someone before I married them, to get to know if we're compatible! ... (read in full...)
Is 18 a good age to start dating?
Q. Hi, Im 18 years old girl, and never been in a relationship before, so now i think it the time. Bt im scared and my family keeps on telling me that i should focus on my studies. I dont know if im making a right decision here becouse i always had a ...
A. 13 August 2012: You should start dating when you feel you are ready to be in a relationship.
So many children in my old middle school would date, even though I knew for a fact that those sixth graders weren't ready, because they believed that was the predeter... (read in full...)
Can a woman be impregnated by precum?
Q. hello just wanted to get a few opinions on my situation...I slept with both my bf of 3 years and some other guy around the time i got pregnant. just to be clear i hooked up with the other when i was single and we didnt use a condom he also said he ...
A. 13 August 2012: Yup. there's sperm in there, so it's possible!... (read in full...)
How does an atheist overcome inter-faith dating challenges?
Q. Hi, I was wondering what your opinion is on inter-faith dating, specifically for atheists. How do I meet girls who are atheist or agnostic? Do you think girls care whether I’m atheist? My issue is that I really prefer to date girls who are li...
A. 13 August 2012: I'm "Aethiest" technically. I don't believe in a god. And my boyfriend is a churchgoing christian.
It's ok to talk about it if you both agree to not debate or go into too much detail, but for the most part, just let it be.
I think the only p... (read in full...)
I found the perfect wedding dress, but it is white!
Q. Hello! I am getting married next spring. Excitment! The other day I went window shopping and I've seen the prettiest little (and very cheap) dress ever. But... it's white! I'm in my early 30s and I'm not a virgin anymore and all the people at my we...
A. 7 August 2012: Wear it!
White is just one of those old wives tales.
Did you know, Queen Victoria was the first woman to wear white on her wedding? Before that, regardless of virginity, girls would just put on their best dress and get married.
So ... (read in full...)
I want to stay with him but...Will he ever grow up?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and although we do love each other... I've come to realize that there are quite a few things we disagree on. Mostly, it's just the fact that he's...Immature to say the least. He doesn't ...
A. 7 August 2012: Thank you for that advice on how to play hard to get! Hopefully it works....
I'd honestly be fine if he wanted to play games and not talk to me while he plays them. I understand that need to finish this level or defeat that boss, because I fe... (read in full...)
I want to stay with him but...Will he ever grow up?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and although we do love each other... I've come to realize that there are quite a few things we disagree on. Mostly, it's just the fact that he's...Immature to say the least. He doesn't ...
A. 7 August 2012: Yeah, I'll give him some space, but I really don't know how to play hard to get... I've never been good at flirting or any of that stuff, really...
And to Thay:
The conversation was more than just "how are you "Bored", I just shortened it so ... (read in full...)
I want to stay with him but...Will he ever grow up?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and although we do love each other... I've come to realize that there are quite a few things we disagree on. Mostly, it's just the fact that he's...Immature to say the least. He doesn't ...
A. 7 August 2012: Thanks for the advice.
We weren't really long distance until about a month ago, when he moved further away than is possible for either of us to just drive down whenever we feel like it... We always tell each other we care for each other, and that... (read in full...)
I want to stay with him but...Will he ever grow up?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and although we do love each other... I've come to realize that there are quite a few things we disagree on. Mostly, it's just the fact that he's...Immature to say the least. He doesn't ...
A. 7 August 2012: I really don't want to just leave him, though... He can be sweet, and kind and awesome, but sometimes he just frustrates me.
And then he gets offended when I get frustrated with him! It hurts to think about life without him, but I just don't wa... (read in full...)
I left a letter for a rep confessing my feelings, but the wrong rep responded!
Q. I am 19 and male, and recently had a family holiday to Spain. As everyone does, I felt very romantic and fuzzy on holiday, and fell for our holiday rep, who was a cute, adorable blonde girl a couple of years older. I'll codename her Katie. I was ...
A. 7 August 2012: I think perhaps somehow the other rep may have gotten a hold of your letter and thought it was meant to you. Perhaps she didn't see that the letter was for Katie. Maybe she thought you liked HER, and either liked you back, or wanted to give you a ... (read in full...)
Is rimming weird or fairly common?
Q. Hello fellow Cupid-ers, I have very much enjoyed reading your site, and contributing in my own small way. You all seem like wonderful open-minded people. So to ask a taboo question to as sympathetic an audience as I'm ever likely to get: ever ...
A. 7 July 2012: To quote my little sister (Don't even ask) "That is an exit, not an entrance"
So for me, anything to do with my ass is weird when it comes to sexual stuff...... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 7 July 2012: Everyone says I should go to college, but one, I don't know what for, and two, I'm honestly not confident that my grades could even get me anywhere. I'm not that great at any particular thing, and that's what hinders me in doing anything major or ... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 4 July 2012: I've been told that I need to get a job, no matter what...
I was thinking about selling custom made stuffed animals, since I'm good at that.... But I doubt they'd count that as a job...
... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 3 July 2012: Oh, and also, I could use a bicycle, but that'd take a bit of working up in terms of stamina. I don't exactly have the best stamina, because I've only ever had to walk to and from school, which is like, extremely close by.... So that would take a ... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 3 July 2012: Thanks for all the advice.
It's definitely scary/stressful to be doing all that at once, and it's stressful trying to think about doing all that well enough to get into a car and drive.... It sucks. I really wish I wasn't so scared. I wish I c... (read in full...)
The ugly guys get the girls!
Q. What's the deal with gorgeous girls dating ugly guys? I'm a 20 year old male and VERY good looking. I'm not big headed about it, just stating what is an objective fact. I can say this and still claim to not be big headed, as I don't feel proud...
A. 3 July 2012: All I've got to say is, just because you say someone is "ugly" , doesn't mean that EVERYONE ELSE thinks that way.
Honestly, I wouldn't give a damn about that Taylor Lautner guy. He's not my type, and his muscles just don't fit well with me. He's... (read in full...)
Can toothpaste get rid of pimples?
Q. Iv starting developing pimples. iv been using a cream but it bleach my skin too much so iv decided to put an end to it even though it helps me. I heard tooth paste can also get rid of pimples. But i dont know how to go about it. Can tooth paste get ...
A. 30 June 2012: And to avoid returning pimples, I've found that drinking lots of water and avoiding high starch/grease/fat foods, I can have clearer skin. I only ever get very miniscule pimples on my nose during my time of the month, other than that. Nothing. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too sensitive, and I'm tired of being so cautious around him !
Q. This is a very weird question...and I've been trying to write this properly since ages but I just can't seem to find the right words. So please bear with me! My boyfriend lives abroad and works in shifts. He can only call me when he's on a break,...
A. 28 June 2012: Don't worry, Jinxx, I fixed it for you, but if you have a better title in mind, feel free to change it to that.
And to the OP, I wish you luck, and perhaps you should try a tentative approach, like, something small, don't try to lie or anything... (read in full...)
I find it it weird and disgusting that my mom posted an old pic on Facebook, of her breastfeeding me while I was a toddler!
Q. My mom posted an old pic of her breastfeeding me while I was a toddler on facebook. What should i do? I logged in on facebook today and saw on my home page that my mom had uploaded that pic. The pic was not in her album but on some facebook pa...
A. 23 June 2012: You should just tell her that you don't like that, and hopefully she understands. I guess if she doesn't take it down after you asked, you could report it. Not sure what they'd do, but it may work. Just ask first. ... (read in full...)
Is getting pregnant at 15 the right thing to do?
Q. Well, im 15... And me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months, now heres my issue, when we hit a year... My boyfriend wants a BABY..... Okay look, I absoulutly ADORE babies, I LOVE them. And I have no problem with pregnancy at this age.... ...
A. 23 June 2012: Like everyone else said, it is NOT a good idea to have a baby at such a young age.
You have not stopped growing yourself, and you've got your whole life ahead of you. Why would you throw away your education, your life, your everything, just to ... (read in full...)
I feel great while masturbating but as soon as I have an orgasm, the first thought in my head is, what would my family think?
Q. Is masturbating wrong? Some people may say morally yes or no, I am a 23 year old female who loves sex but loves to masturbate. I feel great while doing so but as soon as I have an orgasm, the first thought in my head is what would my family think?...
A. 23 June 2012: Well, just think of it this way... It's not really anything for your family to think about! It's not wrong at all, and studies have shown that orgasms help a woman relieve menstrual pain! And orgasms can come from masturbation, so why would it be a ... (read in full...)
I'm only 14 and pregnant and I'm afraid to tell my b/f or family
Q. Hi. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, but 2 months ago we had sex. We did use a condom but I had many symptoms of being pregnant. I finally took a test 2 weeks ago and it was positive. I haven't told anybody except for my bestfrie...
A. 7 June 2012: Unforutunately, you took that risk, and now you have to pay the consequences.
The only thing you can do is tell your parents, and tell your boyfriend.
Your parents can help you, and if you decide to go through with this pregnancy, then your... (read in full...)
Does this constitute sexual trauma or am I overreacting?
Q. For two years - from the time I was 17 to 19 - I was involved with a man 20 years older than me. It was strictly an online relationship and I never saw him in person. Six months ago I finally saw him for what he was and dumped him, and haven't ...
A. 2 June 2012: I would think so. I'm not an expert, but he emotionally manipulated you into doing things you did not want to do that were sexual in nature!
I'm so sorry you had to go through that, and I'm very glad that you are not in this situation anymore!... (read in full...)
Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?
Q. If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...
A. 27 May 2012: Unfortunately, that's kind of how the dating game works for everyone. Virgin or not.
It just takes some time!
You know how many guys I went through just to find my boyfriend?
Quite a few.
It's not that you're any less of a man or that... (read in full...)
Why are people so upset by the fact that I cant drive?
Q. For the longest time i have been fearful of the art of driving. as a teen i was never excited to get my drivers licensee like everyone else. I have always been baffled how people could go through life driving and ultimately putting there lives in ...
A. 26 May 2012: I'm like you. I hate driving too, and it scares me, to be honest!
But I think the reason why it's so important nowadays is because that's the only way we can get around! ... (read in full...)
Is it a turn off/negative thing for a male to be a virgin?
Q. Hello. Is there a limit on how long you should be a virgin? I'm a male, turning later this year. I've never had intercourse before! What worries me is if that will put off a potential partner down the road? I'm not sure if that's a negative ...
A. 26 May 2012: I can't speak for all women, but I do know that I personally would have been turned off of my boyfriend if he HAD NOT been a virgin.
I like that we were each others firsts, and I'm sure there are a lot of girls out there like that. Most of the t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't want sex anymore!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 18 months, and we have been living together for six months. When we started the relationship, sex was very good and quite regular at least one or two times a week but over the last seven to eight mo...
A. 20 May 2012: Tell her how you feel about this. She could have started taking something that has changed her libido, like a new birth control, or she's just been feeling out of sorts. If you talk to her, then she might admit that there's been a problem. Maybe she ... (read in full...)
I think about sex all the time!
Q. so, i am 13 almost 14 and cant stop thinking about ..... sex, i know i am to young but keep thinking about sexual things me and my ex used to do(like kissing, and playing about). i dont know if it is right to think of this. what should i do, i ...
A. 20 May 2012: It's your hormones. This is the time in your life that changes your body and makes you think about that kind of stuff differently. Your hormones will only continue onwards through high school, and once you become an adult, it might or might not ... (read in full...)
How do I get a girlfriend?
Q. Since my satirical article on how to get a boyfriend (With the real advice on the bottom) seemed to be well liked, I thought I'd write one for the opposite gender! Like the last one, please don't read the first half and then leave. The first...
A. 14 May 2012: Douchebags do tend to have a girl or two, but they tend to be easy or self-conscious and don't think they can get better, which is terribly sad :(
Every woman can do better than a douchebag, don't you forget that ladies! *looks into the camera a... (read in full...)
Does personality matter?
Q. If a guy is just average looking or even a little ugly (not like hideous ugly), but they have what you consider to be a really funny personality, you get along with them really well, you love to talk to them for hours, they have a cute personality, ...
A. 14 May 2012: I'd date a guy with a personality before a boring guy.
That's why I love my boyfriend so much. He's awesome.
Personality is extremely important. Especially for long-term relationships.
And honestly, Great Personality + Time= Look... (read in full...)
A man wearing pink skinny jeans?
Q. First reaction/ thought that comes to mind when you see a male wearing red/pink skinny jeans???...
A. 14 May 2012: A grown man in skinny jeans?
Gay. Most likely flamboyantly homosexual.
Of course that doesn't make him a bad person for being gay, but I've never seen a straight adult male in skinny jeans, regardless of color. Pink just kinda takes the cake. ... (read in full...)
My friend says he dreamed he kissed me. What does that mean?
Q. I have been loving a guy for a few years now ( at least 2), he's one of my closest friends and he identifies as straight.. He flirts and stuff but he never says that he is even curious about guys. Well we was talking the other night on the phone, I ...
A. 14 May 2012: I think he may just have been concerned that this meant something.
Or if he does like guys, maybe he made it up to see your reaction. But from the information you've given, I highly doubt this.
Most likely, he was wierded out by his dream and... (read in full...)
How can I be more romantic?
Q. Hey this question is directed at girls mostly but if any guys have tips dont be affraid to give advice. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year now and im tottally crazy about her. Not many problems in our relationship but i would like ...
A. 14 May 2012: Some romantic things to do are:
Just tell her how pretty she is, or how much you love her, out of the blue.
Set up a candle-lit dinner for you two.
Take her out on a date.
Give her flowers or a flower out of the blue.
Cuddle her.
T... (read in full...)
What should I wear for the first date?
Q. Hi everyone I recently asked a question of how often you saw a fwb and how they treated you and got some great answers now I have ended the fwb as I realised how badly he treated me so now I have another question I have a date a week on saturday and ...
A. 14 May 2012: Something flattering to your body type, most definitely. Nothing too promiscuous though, unless your plan is to sleep with him on the first date.
Chose colors good for your skin tone, although since you'll probably already be wearing clothes from... (read in full...)
If a girl dry humps a male virgin, does it mean she has taken his virginity?
Q. Hello. I'm nervous on asking about this, on here. But, I guess my question is appropriate, to ask on here. When a girl dry humps a guy, does it mean he can no longer say he's a virgin? Like, for example, does it mean he's had sex, and, as a result...
A. 11 May 2012: Dry humping doesn't count as losing your virginity. If it did mean that, then every teenager that has ever danced on a dance floor is no longer a virgin.
... (read in full...)
How do I get a girlfriend?
Q. Since my satirical article on how to get a boyfriend (With the real advice on the bottom) seemed to be well liked, I thought I'd write one for the opposite gender! Like the last one, please don't read the first half and then leave. The first...
A. 18 April 2012: Hello, Fatherly advice. Not sure what you mean by that, not getting advice on women from a woman...
I'd think women know their gender more, and the same would be true about men.
... (read in full...)
How do I get a girlfriend?
Q. Since my satirical article on how to get a boyfriend (With the real advice on the bottom) seemed to be well liked, I thought I'd write one for the opposite gender! Like the last one, please don't read the first half and then leave. The first...
A. 7 April 2012: xD Oh goodness! I didn't think of it like that!
But since it is part of the humorous side, yes, by all means, go to the restroom on her leg!
O.O My dog did that once as a puppy....... (read in full...)
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