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I am very simple, always in problem, every time I get out from 1,I am falling into the other.Sometimes giving it a good fight, some times toiling over it, some times blankly thinking how to get over.This is how I came to be the member of this site trying to solve my own.
Whenever I used to get into one, always I had (and even have sometimes) my mom telling me you are the one who created it and so I get it okk I am the one who can solve it.Nowadays when I get into sum problem and my parents are not around me, I think in the same way.It doesn't work always but most of the time it does even in the situations when I have been entangled with hundreds of it.
I have tried and will try to answer and respond to questions in my way,I can only say what I could have done in your situation but I will request you people to analyze your own problem in calm and cool mind from all direction.
Thank you and best wishes.
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He's been the perfect boyfriend so why do I dread hearing from him?
Q. Im so confused. Ive been with my boyfriend for six years, in the beginning we had huge problems, he cheated a number of times and because he was my first love i forgave him. however for the last four years hes been the perfect boyfriend we've gotten ...
A. 31 August 2013: I agree with Dorothy Dix, regarding this.Its all about Do u see a future with him??Its your age to consider this,you started it in a much young age and this was not the concern at that time.May be because you see all blank before you with him in ... (read in full...)
How can I get to know new people when I can't even tell them what job I do?!
Q. My job is highly confidential so I can not really discuss it with people. Nothing illegal dont worry! But when you meet ppl it is the first thing you get asked! I dont know what to say as I dont like lying. I may say I freelance to which they may ...
A. 3 August 2013: Tell a white lie...make story..Like you are an it professional,working with different country.....yes...if you come close and you think in future you can be good friends or more than that,then only admit what your lie..else go on with it.... (read in full...)
My ldr says I spend more time with my sister than with her. What do I do?
Q. guys am in a long distance relationship with some chick,she introduced me to her sister some months back,weeks after the intro to her sister we had a misunderstanding that led to a breakup,i used 2 call and chat wit her sister during our breakup,we ...
A. 21 March 2013: Better if you get answered by a man because most girls are going to say you to stop talking to her sister.Its not that you have some bad intentions but the thing is that this thing can reduce your girlfriend's confidence to a great level(even if she ... (read in full...)
I wish my boyfriend would chose me over his mother for a change!
Q. Im 22 I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years I moved in with him at his parents house 3 years ago. And I don't have much to do with my family. Well we work at the same place but we drive buses and we dont interact at work . Well he works all the ...
A. 21 March 2013: Well no don't be so impatient,try to get along with his mother,she will say something and you may become sad.Let that happen,don't worry you will be paid off.
When she asks about his son,just say her firmly 'Let your son be' Ask her 'how was hers... (read in full...)
He has become 'best friends' with a female co-worker, they text all the time and go to lunch together. If I get upset about it he calls me insecure, but don't I have a right to be in this situation?
Q. My husband and I have been married for six years and he has always had the same job.. Well recently he has started talking about a coworker all the time telling me how great she is. He goes to lunches with her alone and they text back and forth ...
A. 21 March 2013: Say him the truth that you had been hurted by their lies or jokes.Ask your husband to keep it in office and don't bring home.
Its not an issue if they are having lunch regularly but messaging at 6 or joking like dis is out of question.
If it f... (read in full...)
Fiance did something stupid to "intentially hurt my feelings?"
Q. I've been with my FI for 4 years, newly engaged about a month ago. Living separately with our families for now, until I finish school next month. My FI is usually very sensitive and never did anything in the past to intentially hurt my feelings...
A. 11 March 2013: Take a deep breathe & relaxxx....it happens sometimes....May be because you are engaged,he wants you to be more committing and thats not possible because you are committed in your own way.
Be calm,have a talk about what he really wants from him... (read in full...)
How much fighting is normal between parents?
Q. My parents fight about 4 times a week. Two out of those four times will involve yelling/ insults. Is this normal? My parents are both great people. However, my dad treats my mom like a child and makes decisions without her. They don't understand...
A. 4 March 2013: ur dad make decisions without ur mom,dts d main problem.isn't it? i dnt no about insults but yelling can be very normal in some cases.i knew an old couple who used to quarrel a lott but as 1 of dem passed away ,other became very lonely.so they lov... (read in full...)
Please can someone explain this man's behaviour to me? So confused!
Q. Hi, I really need the advice of someone objective! Basically I really liked this guy, and he told me he liked me too (more than once). He used to message me, offer to walk me places and would talk to me whenever he got the chance telling me how b...
A. 3 March 2013: Well he is a good friend,be with him and make sure you both are comfortable.I agree with janniepeg sometimes girl gets too clingy and boys don't like that but the way he pays attention,he can be a good friend and that's it.There is nothing more i ... (read in full...)
Is it a communication problem? Guys do ask me out, but whenever I date it never leads to much more than the first date.
Q. I am 23 years old, Whenever I'v liked or been attracted to someone,that person has always asked me out.. I'm an attractive girl and these men compliment me a lot,but I don't know why it never leads to relationships! Its just a date and then I f...
A. 26 February 2013: i had gone through the same phase until i really found whats wrong with myself.i lacked feelings and caring for that particular person and though i was communicating verbally, i was unable to communicate by mind.i could not understand that person's ... (read in full...)
She gives me butterflies. is it normal when we think of a particular person for quite some time without even making an effort to think of them?
Q. Hi friends. is it normal when we think of a particular person for quite some time without even making an effort to think of them? I occasionally seem to think of this particular girl I met a couple of times before and she STILL seems to cross my ...
A. 26 February 2013: That's an awesum feelng u no...u shud not let it go..just say her if possible...i dnt no if all get that thing or not but when you get be sure its a true and very hearty feelings.... (read in full...)
He's too independent, but I don't want to suffocate him. How do I handle his rejections?
Q. Hello everyone.. I´ve been with my bf almost two years. We´ve had some problems as every couple..but we love each other..At least I think so..He´s very kind to me,says he loves me all the time,he´s gentle, he surprises me, i have so much fun with...
A. 26 February 2013: just accept it,there is no issue in it.Even if you are calling or making plans as long as you people are enjoying.You can develop few hobbies for your time too..so that you can evaluate that there is no problem,and he would pick you and relationship ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with our second child but now he's hardly talking to me
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for two years ad we have a daughter who is currently one. We had her kinda early in our relationship but we both agreed that was fine. Now pregnant again and after I got pregnant he stopped wanting to touch ...
A. 24 February 2013: As u mentioned u people don't have stress in your lives,i think there may be some other issues.Ask him whats wrong.As its a little early for your age and relationship to have 2 children ,discuss with him if he is ok with it.If he is not,want to know ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with relatives that are so cruel and jealous?
Q. I have been reading recent posts and I couldn't help but wonder they are soo many relatives out there,who would do anything to bring the morale of their own down,I thought I may be among the few realised their many..I would really like if some of ...
A. 24 February 2013: I just want to tell you relax, the only way you can handle is just avoid them and be happy.If they are complaining to you ,just say you don't want to hear. If they are complaining to someone else,do not try to clarify.Don't share anything and thats ... (read in full...)
How can I ever believe anything my partner tells me?
Q. Ive been with my partner for 10 years. He is 12 years older than me, and we have two children together 5 and 6yrs old. 6 years ago he told me he didnt love me. By this time we had a 5 month old baby and another on the way. We seperated. After the ...
A. 22 February 2013: No don't believe a person who can't deliver what he says or doesn't want to show chat history to his partner.... (read in full...)
Guy friend has asked me to meet his family. Is that a good sign?
Q. This guy and I had a little fling few years back. Now we getting close again an hanging out all the time. Besides being flirty an talking lots. Nothing physical has happened again. But I feel with time we could actually start something more. Going ...
A. 20 February 2013: You know what I feel,meeting different people,for long tym or short tym is not bad.So if I was in your place I wud have said yes for it.
On the other hand,you don't want to give d slow thing a big break,that is also to be considered.
You kno... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is emotionally distancing from me due to fights over insecurity issues
Q. I've been with my bf for 2.5 years. We've had our ups and downs like every couple but things have changed. Over the last few months there's been a real distance between us. I'm mostly to blame due to jealous and insecurity issues that started caus...
A. 17 February 2013: You know what? don't let distance take a toll over your relationship and yourself. You break up just as a game, you will never know how these things can affect a relationship. Don't make it an issue to get things done your way,that's destruct... (read in full...)
Single mom finds it hard to date again.
Q. I'm scared I will never meet anyone. Not in a hurry, currently getting out of an abusive marriage. However, I'm scared that I will never meet anyone now. I'm 31, I have a child, and I work out of my home. I've never left my child with a sitte...
A. 17 February 2013: Well don't push yourself at first. There are many single moms in this world,don't get scared about that. Try to do things on your own without getting help from others(I am not saying about being single for the whole life). Trusting yourself ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend lies about his past with ex
Q. i have been dating my current and first boyfriend for half a year now. everything has been going well except for several lies and behaviors surrounding the issue of his only ex-girlfriend who he dated for 7 years (albeit 5 years of that was long ...
A. 25 December 2011: Find out if he is lying about his ex only or stuffs about her or he lies usually about other aspects too.Many people has got the habit of hiding themselves without any reason and they lie to hide things which we are going to find immediately.
I... (read in full...)
Is it asking too much to want to be loved?
Q. Hi. I think I need some help. I'm a lonely 24 year old guy. I have a few close friends but thats about it. I want someone to love me though. I was with someone 8 years ago, but after that ended i haven't been with anyone. I have fema...
A. 29 May 2011: No not too much and I agree with caringGuy , you need to be strong.Not that girls don't want emotionally weak guys but no1 wants that.To be in a relationship(at initial stage), one should know to take the risk, to put oneself in adventure knowing ... (read in full...)
Why did he say he didn't want to hurt me?
Q. This guy i really like, we have been talking for a while and he has told me he likes me and all that. The other day out of the blue he told me he did not wont to hurt me...what does that mean?...
A. 29 May 2011: It happens with lots of guys that they like some girl when they are talking with them but with time and may be after some thoughts this thing changes.So this second thing is of concern i.e, he doesn't like you no matter what he said at first. It hurt... (read in full...)
I've just left university, but a part of me wants to go back for the girl I like! What should I do?
Q. I really like a girl - My heart is saying yes, but my head is saying no. I've just left University. In my final year I had a girlfriend for 4 1/2 months. We were very good together and we both really enjoyed our time together. We broke up in Febr...
A. 29 May 2011: If you people were just doing fine,I will suggest you to keep in touch with her, but definitely will not ask you to damage your finances, because it seems that you want to be emotionally attached with this girl. Let her know what you feel for her ... (read in full...)
If the first time you meet a guy he talks about sex, is that all he wants from you?
Q. I have a couple of questions. If you meet a guy in a bar, and he mentions sex the first time he meets you, does that mean he is only after sex, or could it also mean that he finds you sexually attractive but could possibly want a relationship with ...
A. 29 May 2011: Yes dear you have just rightly understood his intention. He is after something else not into you and may just use you, so better keep a distance. ... (read in full...)
Cuddled with guy friend.. Does it mean anything?
Q. I have a guy friend *Joe*, whom I met through an ex-boyfriend (they were best friends) 4 years ago. I've always felt an attraction to him, and I fooled around with him once (he asked if we could do stuff, and my ex said that was fine.. we were all ...
A. 19 May 2011: Nothing wrong with your cuddling, we may feel like cuddling someone when we are alone inside.Since you said he was drunk, there is a point often people speak his heart at that moment when he is drunk but that doesn't mean that person means so.The ... (read in full...)
Does showing possessiveness and jealousy flatter or anger your partner?
Q. Hello guys, if you show your boyfriend your jealousy that you do not want him to go to his bar even though he wants to go, does that make you controlling? or does that make him want to do more things that makes you upset? do you think, when i...
A. 6 May 2011: No it makes him more prone to freedom.May be you are saying him for his good but he will consider it as your approach to change him.Don't ask him not to do,sometimes just let him know you don't like it.May be in first days he gets concerned but can ... (read in full...)
Waiting For Sex : Am I Making A Mistake?
Q. I'm just 22 yr old virgin whose never dated, and would prefer waiting to have sex until around the 6th or 7th month in a (long term) relationship. But it seems most men can only wait for 3 weeks. I actually wanted to wait until marriage, but as I ...
A. 6 May 2011: Well I don't think so,its not about waiting.I think its about faith,how much you can put the trust on your partner,thats what matter.If you trust your partner and there is well going on between you 2, go for it and to put your trust on somebody by ... (read in full...)
It's over but I can't stop thinking about her. Why?
Q. I find myself thinking about my ex throughout the day. We were only together for a few months and we split up about a month and half ago. It's hard to explain... it's like, I'm not thinking about anything specific, it's like - she is just on my ...
A. 11 April 2011: I agree with all others.I had been going through the same situation, I couldn't help myself.Yes time is the best healer in this respect and I used to write letters to him in my notebook whenever I felt anything(grudge,apology,etc) serious for him.I ... (read in full...)
I too am genuinely insecure about him cheating now. How do I tell him I am so worried?
Q. Hey there. There is this girl that has been constantly texting my boyfriend and I recently found out that she has been going over to his house by reading his text messages. I know that it's bad and all but he never tells me who it is. In the texts ...
A. 10 April 2011: I have to admit that you have so much of patience,if it was mine i would have stopped seeing him without any explanation after he start hugging that very girl in front of me with whom he had been talking in this way and visiting him.The talking part ... (read in full...)
How do I get this guilt to go away? Should I be 'just friends'?
Q. Sorry, this is kind of a long story. So I broke up with my ex of two years, and he was my first for pretty much everything. A couple weeks after, I met my best friend up at his college and we had fun to take my mind off of my first big break ...
A. 10 April 2011: There is hardly any way you can get your dreams off, don't be guilt for anything.I would not appreciate it that you dated both at the same time but as you were clear to both of them,I think its fine from you and their ends.Don't think you are the ... (read in full...)
Confusion after Blind date
Q. The other night i had a great blind date. There was lots of laughter and chatting, the body language good, her pupils dilated and lots of hair touching.She even talked about what to do ' Next Time' and stayed longer than she planned, as we was ...
A. 10 April 2011: I think she is not interested,so I will suggest you to stay back and hope you find someone who will like you too.It happens many times when on a date everything seems to be perfect while things change after that from the other side(may be because ... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 6 April 2011: Sometimes social networking sites and phones are not enough to decide your destiny.Mind that there are many relations which starts there and ends there too(though many bloom too).Since this guy is very clear in his view,I will suggest you not too ... (read in full...)
My fiance's sister wants to date my ex?
Q. So a couple of years ago, I dated this guy. He was a HUGE part of my life, and we dated for a long time. However, we grew up, and went our seprate ways. But we still talk. I moved 6 hours away, and...every couple of months, i'll get a text or a ...
A. 26 March 2011: if you think this guy may ruin your fiance's sister's life, prevent him otherwise let them be what they like to be.It might make you feel bad somewhat but it should not be that much (to prevent them) as you don't feel for him now.You must feel good ... (read in full...)
What are top tried and tested ways to tell our families that I'm pregnant?
Q. Hi. I have been dating my amazing boyfriend for 3 years. He lived 2+ hrs away but he moved in with him aunt and her husband when were positive we wanted to be together. We have know each other since I was born since I'm 17 and he's 20. I'm grad...
A. 25 March 2011: I think you people should clear everything sitting together with one family at a time,mentioning about your future plans too.... (read in full...)
I hit my wife. how do I regain her trust
Q. I recently got into an argument with my wife over our sex life. to make a long story short im very affectionate and she isn't. but the argument got very heated and i slapped her then slammed her head into the wall. i cant express how much i regret ...
A. 23 March 2011: I think you should wait a little more,may be she is taking your advantage but let her do it for little more time.Getting angry,being rude is no solution, just keep quiet(though silent treatment are very much adopted by girls :) ) when you don't like ... (read in full...)
I don't want to miss out on my son's life but don't think I want to be with his mother
Q. I am currently in a very complicated situation. I have been dating someone for almost a year and we are very much in love. Last month, an ex girlfriend (who i havent spoken to in 14 months) calls me and tells me I have a son who is 6 months old. ...
A. 23 March 2011: I can understand its a big problem on your part to decide and reigniting the old flames are just next to impossible.I think you should talk to your ex so that you can see your baby regularly(may be twice or thrice a week) and at the same time make ... (read in full...)
Too available for my girlfriend? or She's too clingy?
Q. My girlfriend expects to talk for hours every single day. I've run out of things to talk about and uses that against me. We only see each other about 4-5 days a month on weekends due to the fact she works in another city. I'm not in school right now ...
A. 23 March 2011: Its nothing odd for you that you don't like to talk much neither for your gf if she does.May be you don't feel like talking much but try to give her time in some other way which both of you will enjoy.You meet only few days,even you people don't ... (read in full...)
Help. My boyfriend had a three year sexual relationship with his first cousin
Q. After about nine months of dating, my boyfriend tells me he had a three year relationship with his cousin. He mentioned this relationship was hidden from family and friends, that no one knew what they were doing. It ended when she cheated on him. ...
A. 22 March 2011: Since she is the 1st cousin of your bf,there is a lots of chance that she will come in contact with him often(either through family get together or other matters), thats for sure.So there is a less chance that your bf can totally avoid her,you ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband having more friends that are single girls then guys?
Q. Well i have been married 14 years to my husband and i will admit i have some confidence and jelousy issues. my husband grew up having problems making friends with guys so he hung out with girls cause they were nicer to him and his child hood was ok ...
A. 21 March 2011: Well the most that matters is he cares for you.Try to listen to him without asking him much.Let him have his friends as he wants and just try to have good times with him,he deserves it rather concentrating on his friends, concentrate on starting ... (read in full...)
I really f***ed up and backstabbed my girlfriend....
Q. I really f*cked things up with my girlfriend. Last weekend, she moved into a guys house. This guy happens to "used to" like her. She told me her reasons for wanting to, and I said whatever. (Ofcourse this pushed me towards the edge of emotiona...
A. 21 March 2011: Its very nice to see that you came up with the problem which is faced by many guys.At first I suggest you to be gentle towards yourself and to her.Both of you are like backstabbing each other, stop it at first and she will stop it by herself(I hope ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to play some kind of game?
Q. So almost 2 months ago i met this guy, he got my number and we have texted everyday since. He asked me out once, then i asked him out(didnt happen because of floods) then he asked me out and we went out and had a good time. About a week and a half ...
A. 21 March 2011: Just don't pay much heed to this guy,he seems to be confused.If he asks next time, say you are busy without giving it a second thought.If he is concerned(I don't think he is) , he will take care of it and will ask you again.Let him know there is ... (read in full...)
What should I do which would end up not hurting anyone?
Q. hi to everyone one of my friends has this girlfriend. they've been together for about 2 years but they broke up about 2 weeks ago and then last week they got back together. my friend doesn't treat her right and she knows that as he doesn't trust...
A. 17 March 2011: According to me, don't try to sort out whats wrong in their life if you really want to be a good friend from both ends.Don't try to make your friend understand that he is wrong, talk with his gf only when your friend is present.If the girl is just ... (read in full...)
I hit my wife. how do I regain her trust
Q. I recently got into an argument with my wife over our sex life. to make a long story short im very affectionate and she isn't. but the argument got very heated and i slapped her then slammed her head into the wall. i cant express how much i regret ...
A. 14 March 2011: its too rude and its very obvious that she will be scared of you after such a thing.Good to know that you have started counseling for your anger and want to get her back.I think you should behave nicely with her, should not indulge into arguments ... (read in full...)
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