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Just turned 18. Been here since July 26, 2008. I do what i can to help others, based on mostly my personal experience and just generally my feeling of what is right to do.

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Big thanks to all the aunts and uncles here. you've helped me more than you know. =)

And as much as i appreciate those of you who like my answers enough to ask me questions personally, well, even i have my limits. If i dont feel like i can give you 100% confident advice, i wont answer it, in which case i'll feel bad. I would prefer you dont, and that you stick to asking questions using the Ask for help! button.

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If She’ll Talk To You, She’ll Date You (Teen Guys)

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2 June 2010: -Introduction- At first, I was going to call this article “You Can Get Any Girl You Want” but that’s false, and too cliché for my liking. This article isn’t telling you how to get any girl you want, it’s more any girl I want. The truth is, ...

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1 August 2008: I try to answer as many questions from other teens as I can. However, the question I have seen the most since I joined a few weeks ago is “I am afraid of rejection. How do I ask him/her out?” Well unless I’m mistaken there is no magic way to ask ...

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Not crazy about my husband but feel I should stay for the child

Q. I really need some advice. i am in a marriage that fell apart. a part of me wants to stay because i have a young child with my husband. my husband and i met when we were 22. we have been together for 20 years. he was my first true love. it has been ...

A. 17 May 2013: As a 20 year old who grew up in a broken home, I'll tell you what I can from a kids perspective. My parent's divorced when I was 13. Excuse my french, but my mom was a b^^^h, and it sounds like she may share common ground with your husband.... (read in full...)

My girlfiriend is going to prom with another guy

Q. We argue about this all the time because I don't want her to go with him but since I found out I might be able to go to prom she told me no that since she already made plans with him she won't go with me her BOYFRIEND and this kills me inside I don'...

A. 25 March 2013: Unless there's really something there that you're not mentioning that makes you unable to separate from her, you can do better. As a guy who just recently moved on from high school to college, and was in a very similar situation, I can definite... (read in full...)

How can I protect my girl friend from the psychological abuse her foster parents are imposing on her?

Q. Hey – So long story semi-short. My girl and I have been together for 9 months. She’s 16, I’m 18. We’ve been together since she was 15 and a freshman in high school, and I 17 and a senior. She’s adopted, been with that family for 4 years now...

A. 6 March 2012: If you don't mind, I'm going to PM you because I've tried to post about other types of abuse here in the past, and they've rejected my posts. I know there was sexual abuse in the past by her father. It happened multiple times before we were tog... (read in full...)

How can I protect my girl friend from the psychological abuse her foster parents are imposing on her?

A. 6 March 2012: CC- I'm not going to hate your answer. In fact, I thank you for taking the time to read my lengthy post, and answer, and I always appreciate hearing multiple opinions. Do i agree with you? no. But first and foremost you mixed up some crucial ... (read in full...)

Should I let him sleep over... first time meeting in person?

Q. Hi all, I'm new to online dating, and could really use some advice: I've been communicating with this guy over OkCupid for over 3 months. We're both students, facebook friends, and have regularly exchanged messages every other day or so s...

A. 6 March 2012: Ignore anon, deagan is right. Telling a guy he can stay over is a huge signal... And if you don't know this guy, and don't trust him, you don't know what kind of guy this really is. 'Some fun' as anon described can go awfully wrong. It wou... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my best friends cousin and he doesn't want me to date her

Q. am in love with a girl, not knowing she is my best friend's cousine, we both love each other but my friend did not want me to date her. pls wat should i do, am really hrt broken.......pls help....

A. 6 March 2012: Evaluate your relationships. You claim you are in love with her and she shares your feelings. If this is truly the case, you are already emotionally attached and would be doing her a disservice by leaving. Try explaining it to your friend this way... (read in full...)

Why does it seem that less and less people use personal restraint in relationships today?

Q. How come less and less people have self restraint these days? There are so many instances about people cheating on their bf/gf, students sleeping with teachers and most recently an acquaintance of mine who slept with her sister's husband. Why does ...

A. 6 March 2012: You're not being old fashioned - I'm atleast 4 years younger than you, and I can tell you the vast majority of my friends in college are huge sticklers on this. Honestly, if we find out one of us cheats, guy or girl, they slowly die out of the g... (read in full...)

He wants me to meet his guy friends. How do I feel comfortable and not too shy and cope with this?.

Q. Hello fellow aunts and uncles. I've been with my wonderful boyfriend for 6 months and everything is wonderful, all though we've had some issues regarding friends and "us" time. He likes to see his college friends on Saturdays and Thursdays which I'...

A. 6 March 2012: Ehh you'll be fine. Think of it this way.. You're his girl cuz you have at least something in common with him. They're his friends because he most likely has something in common with them. There's a good chance you have atleast something in common ... (read in full...)

What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?

Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...

A. 5 March 2012: Well you told me to write back after finals, its spring break now. I'm 2 months away from finals of my second semester. I'm happy to say our personal relationship is going great. Best 9mos of a relationship I've ever had. Thanks for all the help... (read in full...)

What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?

A. 15 August 2011: Just wanna update cuz you guys were so good to me. We're 3 days away from starting our 3rd month of this crazy relationship. Things are far from perfect, theres always complications. But we're hanging in there, and i did the last thing i wanted t... (read in full...)

I've been involved in a few indiscretions since he left for vacation. What is he going to say, and what should I do to make it right?

Q. ive been with my boyfriend for a 2 months now but we were seeing each other before. one night i was at a seshion and got drunk i ended up being all over this guy. he heard i was all over someone and we met up that day to talk about it and to see ...

A. 9 July 2011: first, breaking up after you cheat is not 'getting back' at you, it's his disapproval for your actions. second, saying you're 'joking' is not an appropriate way of covering up this kind of mistake. What's wrong with "hey babe, i'm sorry, it was a ... (read in full...)

Is it stupid to have feelings for someone I've only met twice?

Q. My best friend from college's home town is three hours from mine. When I went to visit him last summer, I stayed the weekend and met all of his friends. To make the story short, one of his friends contacted me about them comming to visit me. Ever ...

A. 9 July 2011: I dont think it's stupid at all. If you two like each other enough, and are willing to put the work in, there is no reason why you shouldnt be able to start a relationship with him. Make no mistake, a long distance relationship would be difficu... (read in full...)

What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?

A. 8 July 2011: -SVC: "bide your time... continue to be her friend as best as you can.. ask her parents if you can spend time with her IN THEIR COMPANY.... so they can get to know you and see you with their daughter." We will do that :) lmao, like i said, i ... (read in full...)

Will he ever stop cheating on his GF and be more than a FWB to me? He is my first lover

Q. So I dated this guy and we broke up on our month Anniversary and a month later we began to have sex. About every month we meet up once or twice to have sex. Most likely he is just using me because I am an easy target for him. He knows he's my firs...

A. 8 July 2011: "Do you think we can be together again and not just as sex buddies." No. He's using you, because he knows you can. You really need to move on, otherwise all of your future relationships will be unhealthy and suffer. Also, no, because he's ch... (read in full...)

My dad is taking my marriage advice?

Q. I need advice on my relationship with my dad. My parents marriage has had a lot of turmoil for several years, and recently, it's gotten even worse. On the one hand, because my dad and I are very similar, we communicate well and I tell him the mos...

A. 8 July 2011: Yes. I think i can help. I went through the same exact thing. My parents faught constantly, and my mother did some 'bad' stuff to both me and my dad (semi-abusive and ignorant to her kids, cheated on him), and he knew all this but he wanted to sta... (read in full...)

What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?

A. 7 July 2011: red- Also i just read the q&a you answered about the 16yr old with the 21yr old. See in my mind, that IS innappropriate. And different. I mean, i went to school with this girl. Saw her everday. We were in various clubs and the musical together... (read in full...)

What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?

A. 7 July 2011: Red- I fully understand it is the parents final say, and i respect that. In a way, i respect it further because i realize what they are trying to do and that they are trying to protect their daughter. Its all fine by me. I/We will wait till when w... (read in full...)

What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?

A. 7 July 2011: Thanks FA.. I appreciate the time you took to write that. "are you going to be the same great kid in a year?" It's a well known fact that college changes people, but i have no intentions of changing. I'm this way because i chose to be, not b... (read in full...)

What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?

A. 7 July 2011: I've read into the laws, so yeah, we are being very careful for the time being. But honestly, we were really *together* before i turned 18. I just turned 18 a month and a half ago, and she turns 16 in just a few months. So its not that big of a gap. ... (read in full...)

It's getting to the point where he sees his ex more than me!

Q. Hey everyone, I'm having a few issues with my current boyfriend. The thing is, he's spending a lot of time with his current ex girlfriend who he claims to still be a very good friend. He's driving her around a lot, picking her up here and there to...

A. 6 July 2011: I wouldnt trust your boyfriend. If someone cheats once, they'll cheat again, and I wouldnt buy the i'm so emotionally disturbed line either. But then again, he's your boyfriend, not mine, lol. You know him better than any of us, so you'd know be... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's sister is acting all jealous of him. What should I do?

Q. My boyfriends sister has just started acting weird. When i first started dating him she wasn't that jealous of him spending time with me. Now that my boyfriend trys to see me 2 times a week she doesnt like to be around me and i told my boyfriend of ...

A. 30 June 2011: Try directly talking to his sister. Confront her if you have to. If there are any problems between you two, that should be the easiest and most direct way to find out and solve them. There should be no reason why the 3 of you cant hang out either.... (read in full...)

How do I stop his cheating?

Q. i have a problem with my boy friend he is cheating i dont know what should i do to stop this thing...

A. 25 September 2010: break up with him and he cant cheat with you anymore. Hes cheated in the past and from what you're telling me, he isnt going to change either. Let him go cheat on someone else. Nick.... (read in full...)

I'm interested in my ex's friend..do I act on it?

Q. I kno its wrong but I've been interested in my exs friend I've always thought he was cute but never made an attempt to talk to him my ex and I have been broken up for about two years now the problem he's not just some ex he was my first boyfriend ...

A. 25 September 2010: and if he hears something about you and gets mad, then he's just controlling you. It's your life, not his. If he wanted to dictate who you date, then he could have still been your boyfriend, and you could be dating him. But obviously something came ... (read in full...)

I'm interested in my ex's friend..do I act on it?

A. 16 September 2010: No we dont know. we can only make guesses based on what you tell us. Anyways, most guys dont just sit around talking about their ex's. If this guy asked for your number he's atleast interested in your friendship, if not more. Again, if you... (read in full...)

Do guys like calm girls or hyper girls?

Q. I read somewhere that guys don't like hyper girls, who are always excited all the time. Like they think that the girl is trying to get attention and its lame that they are so excited about little things. It has been researched that most guys don't ...

A. 14 September 2010: Be yourself. Guys like girls who are confident with who and what they are. I actually prefer bubbly, fun to be around girls. Even as friends. I hate dry personalities... i find it depressing. As brown wolf said tho, the most important thing ... (read in full...)

Its impossible for us to have a future together. I want to break up with him

Q. i don't want to be with my boyfriend, we are in a relationship of 7 months and i want to break up now before it get too deep i'm not leaving him to find someone better, it just impossible to have future for us and i no longer love him. but a lot ...

A. 14 September 2010: "i don't want to be with my boyfriend" Thats it, that said it. END IT. Both of you will be happy for it. He will be happy because he can find a girlfriend that will actually care about him, and you will find someone that makes you happy. ... (read in full...)

I'm 18, he's 40. Can it work?

Q. hi! my agony is that i just met a man online, i am still 18 and he is 40 years old. now the problem is i have been searching for many years of my love and i think i found him. we respect our age differences, we feel compatible with each other now. ...

A. 14 September 2010: im going to skip the pleasantries and say i would steer clear of this situation. I'm not sure how it is in the philipenes, but here in the US nearly anytime a 40year old contacts an 18 year old girl online, and requests sex before OR after ma... (read in full...)

I'm interested in my ex's friend..do I act on it?

A. 14 September 2010: dont try telling him you love him... thats an easy way to scare him off. But if you feel something there, go for it. You're 2 years removed from his life, i hardly remember my girlfriend from 2 years ago. I say go with confidence and b... (read in full...)

He's talking to me again but I'm confused... help!

Q. My exboyfriend and i are talking again and i just said do you want to see a movie later he replied not tonight cos he's dead busy so i said maybe some other time and he said yeah that sounds good. Does this mean he's interested again or just sa...

A. 14 September 2010: Im just going to refer you to anothere one of my answers: Why does the ex still want my friendship? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-the-ex-still-want-my-friendship.html Nick.... (read in full...)

Why does the ex still want my friendship?

Q. Boyfriend and I broke up July 21st. We argued and said some really mean things about each other -back-and-forth (yes, it was very childish) He started dating his current gf 2 days after we broke-up (she's the reason we broke up) and deleted me as a ...

A. 14 September 2010: I'll admit it. i've done it too. Guys keep there ex's in their back pocket just because its easier than starting a brand new relationship. Mistake #1 was contacting him, wishing him happy birthday. It appeared you were interested in him, so he in... (read in full...)

Afraid that "standing up for myself" might drive her away

Q. What can I do because I feel like I'm in a no-win situation. I am madly in love with my girlfriend, who often seems to take me for granted. But at the same time, while I feel I deserve better treatment, I'm afraid to "stand up for myself" because ...

A. 14 September 2010: You are in a no-win situation, but only because you are compromising your values. You refuse to stand up for yourself, so that makes you unhappy. However, you feel you should be treated better, so that too makes you unhappy. Now, lets say y... (read in full...)

How should I interpret his lack of communication?

Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and now things are starting to get bad. I text him for a couple hours and then he just stops texting me. I then send a text asking what is going on and he replies that he is busy. I then am ...

A. 14 September 2010: I am going to say that i really dont agree with sophie at all. Maybe it's just the male/female perspective but still... If you've been going out for a year, and you have no reason to be skeptical prior, than dont be skeptical now. It could ve... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has an oversized-women obsession!

Q. I found out that my boyfriend has cheated on me with oversized, unattractive, low class women. I thought this had been put to rest but recently discovered that he masturbates with the use of Voluptuous magazine as well as other big girl materials. ...

A. 14 September 2010: I agree with everything thats been said.. Cheaters will usually not change, so not much hope. He cheated on you, so it appears he must have found them more attractive than you. The anger really should be directed at your boyfriend. ... (read in full...)

How can you stop yourself from getting too jealous?

Q. Hey how can you stop yourself from geting too jelous? My bf has alot of female friends that parts ok, the problem is the ones that have a crush on him or messed around with him in the past (hes friends with hes ex's). I get jelous/mad/upset just ...

A. 14 September 2010: Its okay to be jealous. Whats not okay, is that you are keeping this jealousy from him. These jealous feelings will keep building up, and building up. You will spend so much time focusing on them, you will start to create problems and accusations ... (read in full...)

Is it wise to continue this relationship with the knowledge of her lack of faith?

Q. I recently got back with my ex, whom I've had strong feelings for (call it love) for 5 years now. We've been on, and off. We spoke about love, and she stated that she doesn't believe in it, and has never told a guy that she is in love with them. My...

A. 19 August 2010: Well, she's just being honest with you. Quite frankly, i dont believe much in love myself. No such thing as love at first sight, no such thing as one true love etc. etc. Not that i havent told girls i love them, but for me its just more of a f... (read in full...)

Why can't he give me a second chance?

Q. i'm in love with my ex but he has a new girlfriend and says that he is with her now and cant just leave her now and hurt her. and i asked if he loved me still and would give me a second chance because i was so deeply sorry about what i did....a...

A. 19 August 2010: it means move on to someone else. You hurt him. In time, maybe it will heal. So if you really love him that much, you'll need to give him time to think it over, have a few other girlfriends, then decide whether he was happier with them or with ... (read in full...)

Drama over liking the same guy. Advice?

Q. Okay so me and my friend like the same guy. this guy is nice and pretty hot. and me and him flirt alot but its bothers my friend and we had fights about it so i stopped. this guy told me he likes me and i told him i like him. we text and talk alot. ...

A. 19 August 2010: Depends on how close this friend is. A good friend will always be there for you. But having a good guy for a little bit, much outweighs having a bad friend for the long run. eh, it sounds like a bad fortune cookie reading but its true. So... (read in full...)

Church drama...

Q. okay, so there's a guy we'll call him 'darrel'. now 'darrel' is 5 years older than me. he is smart and funny and loving. we've flirted for a while. i know him from church. in june he told me that he loved me when we were alone. he's been told to ...

A. 19 August 2010: Theres a good reason that your pastor frowns upon your relationship. Most people would frown upon this. And he's been told to stay away from you for a good reason. If your age bracket is correct, then at the best you are 15 and he is 20, which ma... (read in full...)

Am I a rebound or does he actually like me?

Q. I like my friends brother.. He is two years older than me. I think he likes me too but I'm not sure. He always calls me hun , he holds my hand ( he says he enjoys to hold hands ) , we text all day and all night. When I spend the night at my fr...

A. 19 August 2010: As duckies says go for it, we only live once. Even if you are a rebound, thats an easy way for you into his life to prove to him that you're something special worth him keeping. Im not going to say you're a rebound or not because i dont know eno... (read in full...)

Feeling stuck in a too good relationship

Q. I find myself questioning my relationship more and more, and I don’t know what I should do: take things slower? Call it off completely? Stay with him? I feel as though most people who write in with a “should I stay or leave my partner” question ...

A. 12 August 2010: I have actually been through this situation myself within the last 3 months, from her obsessing about our future, to me wanting to just put her in a closet and save her for later. So i identify with you 100% from top to bottom of your post. Its g... (read in full...)