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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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A. 14 December 2010: now that's what happens when an Aunt is trying to do 2 things at once. Shame on me. Have gone back to re-read your posts again. When i saw mention of Susan, and that he was denying things had occurred(that really had occurred) I thought it ... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me romantically, sexually, or is he just joking around?
Q. A guy friend of mine often calls me 'ugly', 'fat', 'idiot','stupid' in a joking way but I'm really skinny and not bad-looking...He always mocks me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once when I was cooking in our friend's house, he threw ...
A. 14 December 2010: There are more important things than caring what this guy thinks.
When a guy demonstrates that he does not respect you, then what he thinks of you is His issue. Not your issue. Because you should not associate with any guy who does not treat you ... (read in full...)
I found it I was pregnant and he started calling me names
Q. I am very confused and in need of advice . I hv been a commuted relationship for three years. I just found out I was pregnant , not sure how my birth control failed , I use depo shot. Anyways I told my boyfriend I was pregnant and he freaked o...
A. 13 December 2010: One little good spark is he says he loves you. Hope he means it. Some men who claim to not want to be a parent become the most besotted parent. Do not allow him to make you feel bad.
His ex sounds like a very hard woman.
If he really did not want... (read in full...)
Erection problems....
Q. hi people ... im 19 ... im not getting strong erections ... and when my penis is erect , im not having the feel that it is erect until i hold it up ( not with my hand ) ....pls help ... i dont know whats wrong ... and pls tell me the soln ... im a ...
A. 13 December 2010: Please do go to the Doctor to clear this problem up. It is probably a simple matter to correct.
The Dr is the best judge of what the problem is.
The following is just a comment. I am not suggesting the following is your cause. Some boys get prob... (read in full...)
Should I tell someone?
Q. One of my male friends, maybe "friend" isn't the right word, has repeatedly been trying to get with me behind his girlfriends back. For example: the other night i was out with friends and he was in town, which i didn't know at the time. All night ...
A. 13 December 2010: Never drink with this man again. What if he put GBH into your drink? You would be vunerable to his abuse. Never have him in your home. He has already signaled his intentions.
Shut him out. Be firmer and let him know connecting with you is not goin... (read in full...)
I found it I was pregnant and he started calling me names
Q. I am very confused and in need of advice . I hv been a commuted relationship for three years. I just found out I was pregnant , not sure how my birth control failed , I use depo shot. Anyways I told my boyfriend I was pregnant and he freaked o...
A. 13 December 2010: Congratulations, this will change your life. And bring you amazing joy. Think of this as a 'meant to be moment'.
The first time you hold baby or smell the beautiful smell of the skin is incredible. Take it easy and ensure you get the things you need... (read in full...)
Partner not treating me right while I am pregnant
Q. I am so confused my partner just goes out and say's he is going to do something that really should take a fraction of the time it takes him. I am 6 months pregnant we haven't made love in an age he make no attempt to do so. I have asked to stop ...
A. 13 December 2010: The advice from Perch was great. It is worrying that your man is being so selfish and irresponsible. Potentially abusive in the light of his selfishness and lack of concern for you and the baby.
You will be much more tired for a while, after the ... (read in full...)
My life with Edward Cullen
Q. So there's this boy that I've been seeing recently, it's been 3 months since mine and my boyfriend's break-up after two and half years, I want to know if this is too soon to move on or if this amount of time is normal? But I would also like some a...
A. 12 December 2010: No, it is not normal. When a guy really likes you he wants to spend as much time as possible with you. He wants to know everything about you.
This guy is not into you. He's stringing you along.
Nice guys keep their promises. When they say they... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me romantically, sexually, or is he just joking around?
Q. A guy friend of mine often calls me 'ugly', 'fat', 'idiot','stupid' in a joking way but I'm really skinny and not bad-looking...He always mocks me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once when I was cooking in our friend's house, he threw ...
A. 11 December 2010: thank you for your lovely feedback.
I really hope this guy gets his act together. Real soon. And stops his negative talk. If he stays this indecisive all his life he's going to miss out on a lot of joy. Feel free to text the above verbatim to him.... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me romantically, sexually, or is he just joking around?
Q. A guy friend of mine often calls me 'ugly', 'fat', 'idiot','stupid' in a joking way but I'm really skinny and not bad-looking...He always mocks me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once when I was cooking in our friend's house, he threw ...
A. 5 December 2010: I do not think he has matured enough for a long term full relationship,yet. But i do think he has a fantasy about doing so, with you.
Your Emotional Intelligence is far higher than his. In the immediate future he definitely does see you as a pote... (read in full...)
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