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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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I feel like I was played in the worst possible way!
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No and double no.
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I feel like I was played in the worst possible way!
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I don't 'buy' that scenario.
Especially as he put so much effort into wooing you. Only to hurt you straight after he reached his goal.
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I feel like I was played in the worst possible way!
Q. Hey aunts. Little help will be appreciated. I've been going through a rough patch lately. So there is this guy, used to be my closest friend for a long time then, over a year ago his behavior started to change. To cut a long sory short he spent an ...
A. 19 January 2011: I imagine people might try to paint him as just being honest with you.
I don't 'buy' that scenario.
Especially as he put so much effort into wooing you. Only to hurt you straight after he reached his goal.
At the very least he commitment p... (read in full...)
I feel like I was played in the worst possible way!
Q. Hey aunts. Little help will be appreciated. I've been going through a rough patch lately. So there is this guy, used to be my closest friend for a long time then, over a year ago his behavior started to change. To cut a long sory short he spent an ...
A. 19 January 2011: I imagine people might try to paint him as just being honest with you.
I don't 'buy' that scenario.
Especially as he put so much effort into wooing you. Only to hurt you straight after he reached his goal.
At the very least he commitment p... (read in full...)
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I like him, but I'm worried about his ex gf. Should I back away or try to go exclusively with him?
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A. 19 January 2011: hi pajson93,
I think you are recovering from your past troubles (though not fully over them) at a faster pace than the first guy. You are starting to understand what is a valuable lesson to learn or relearn.
When children grow up in an enviro... (read in full...)
Torn between my childhood sweetheart and a lovely guy
Q. Okay, so i have gotten myself into a huge dilema. Seven months ago me and my childhood sweetheart met up and within a few weeks we were an item. I really loved him. He has been in foster care his whole life so i was always weary. Four months into ...
A. 18 January 2011: now i understand that you have real history with this guy. And your own pain from the past has given you serious issues.
I can understand your loyalty to this original guy.
When people have been through hell,abbreviated to= (BTH), as have both you... (read in full...)
What can I do? I'm overwhelmed because my family and I are beset with problems
Q. I am having a very hard time now. My sister is really sick. She lost her job because of her her disease. My mother has a depression problems. They are living together. I am getting a divorce and am separated of my husband and living overseas. I ...
A. 18 January 2011: this is far too much for you to take on alone. It's heartbreaking entirely. But you can't give good support unless you support you first.
The dance classes are a magnificent idea.
Even though you also felt sad there
I understand that deep gr... (read in full...)
My wife want's a threesome with a younger woman as her birthday present. Seeking pointers to achieve this aim please
Q. Hello Dear Cupid, Good afternoon. So glad to have located your website because I need some help/advice from some of your other members. I am writing and submitting this post, mainly on behalf of my wife. I am married to an exceptionally wonderf...
A. 18 January 2011: you love her so much, and you'd do anything to make her happy. Admirable sentiments on your part.
And this desire is one that both you and your wife want.
I was touched by how deep is your love and affection for your wife. And how strong is your ... (read in full...)
Torn between my childhood sweetheart and a lovely guy
Q. Okay, so i have gotten myself into a huge dilema. Seven months ago me and my childhood sweetheart met up and within a few weeks we were an item. I really loved him. He has been in foster care his whole life so i was always weary. Four months into ...
A. 18 January 2011: I'm not sure about one aspect of your post. You mention that seven months ago you met your 'childhood sweetheart'. How many years have you known him in total? Since you were a little girl?
Because if you have known him since you were a little chil... (read in full...)
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