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writes:A few weeks ago, my roommate was telling me about a cute single friend of her boyfriend's and she thought I should meet him. Soon after, we met when a bunch of us (friends) went camping together and I was interested, so a couple weeks later I contacted him and we ended up hanging out again with some friends. It seemed that he was into me when we were hanging out, but that was over a week ago and he has not called me. I am wondering if I should forget about him or maybe try to see if he wants to get together another time? Another thing to mention is that we both had finals this week at school, so it is possible that he has been busy studying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): He could be busy with finals but generally, no matter how busy a guy is, if he likes a girl he will make the time to be in touch. It sounds like he is not all that interested. I'm sure it's nothing wrong with you. Maybe he is dating someone else. Or maybe he doesn't see you in that way. Or maybe he doesn't want to get involved with a friend of his friend's girlfriend, too close to home.
I don't know. You don't have to forget him altogether. I mean I understand he is not putting in the effort that you want, perhaps to call you, ask you out. But you both do have mutual friends in common and may probably get to hang out again. You say you like him so I wouldn't write him off just yet. But at the same time I wouldn't put too much expectation in it. Like I said, chances are you will see him again, so let that happen and let things flow. If you do see him be friendly with him, try to be his friend and if something is going to come of it, it will happen. And if not then hopefully you both can at least be friends.
But if, however, you are officially looking for a boyfriend and someone who will court you and seems really interested in you, then it doesn't sound like this guy is the one who feels that way.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 December 2010):
 I agree with Cindy on this one.
You're worth more than to be some guy's afterthought, and if he hasn't called you in a week, it's his loss.
This guy isn't really into you, sorry to say. You've been pursuing him since the beginning, and he's not been reciprocating.
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reader, Abella +, writes (15 December 2010):
 He may be a very laid back guy.
Although if he was interested i think he should have considered contacting you after the camping trip.
Then again studying may have been on his mind. Yes, i think his finals would be the reason for the silence. Give him time to deal with that, and the relief when that is over.
But if he has not contacted you after two weeks then the spark may have been extinguished.
Because if you were to contact him a second time that might be one too many
times.
But if you want some feedback on what were his thoughts you could discreetly ask the friend who invited you to join the
camping trip to keep her ears listened. Though not ask directly.
Some things are meant to be, but not always.
Go out and enjoy yourself in the meantime. I am impressed that you are making interesting choices (for example: going camping with friends) to enjoy mixed company. That is smart thinking. Being part of mixed sports where males and females hang out together doing it is another good active alternative (swimming, tennis, rock climbing, cycling). Even learning to play chess or contract bridge puts you in touch with guys, and fit thinking guys too. Bars only find you a guy who drinks alcohol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): Have you taken a look atthe book (or the movie) "He's just not that into you?"
If a man is interested in you, he will contact you. He will not be too "busy" to contact you - even if he is studying for finals. If he was interested, he would take a "break" and call you, just to find out what you are doing.
Move on and find someone who understands what you have to offer. Who wants to call you. Show him you are interested and if he doesn't make the effort - then move on. You will find the one who understands how great you are and how much you have to offer, it is just a matter of getting out there, and letting people have the opportunity to get to know you.
Plain and simple - If he doesn't call, he isn't interested.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (15 December 2010):
 Possible that he has had a busy week with his finals, now that all that is over he will call you - IF he is interested in you.
Dont sit at home waiting for the phone to ring!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 December 2010):
 I am sure there will be other Aunts advising you differently, and I don't dispute their wisdom, but personally I belong to the current of thought of "when there's a will there is a way " and I am wary of "busy " people.
I just finished reading Keith Richards's autobiography- and that is one busy guy. And an unconventional one ,too. Yet , with his current wife he went about things more or less like any regular bloke at the local pub- he pursued her, he called her, he planned stuff, he asked to meet her friends and relatives etc.etc. Because he really liked her.
You already took the initiative once, now it's his turn.
I'd give him one more week at most, and if he does not
show up you can safely assume that his level of interest in you is not enough to be worth your time.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (15 December 2010):
if you like him and he's is single
call him especially that you have seen his interrest in you
it is very possible that her likes you but he is from the shy with girls type
God Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): I would leave it and see if he contacts you. You were the one to first suggest meeting up so I wouldn't make the move this time. He may be busy and a week isn't long. Be relaxed. If he wants to see you again - he will be in touch.
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