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*rns96
writes:i have this ex, "Alexa". we broke up 2 years ago. now 4 girlfriends later, as freshmans in highschool she is suddenly harrassing me and my current girlfriend, "Dana". nothing good came out of my relationship with Alexa. by the end of our relationship, she had put me thru so much that i didnt even hate her. worse, i was indifferent and uncaring for her very existence. aside from her initial problems after the split we havent spoken in 2 years. its odd because im pretty good friends with all my exes except her. she may have actually had feelings for me, (shes expressed as much immediately after our split and recently) however, i view that whole stuation as a bad spur of the moment decision on my part. Dana didnt go to my middle school so she had no idea who this girl is until i told her after our first run in with her. At first she would come up to me while i was with Dana and offer a simple "hi". like i said, shes dead to me, i could care less who she is anymore. but i dont hate her, so i offered her a half a wave and a smile u give to a young annoying child that u know has good intentions. it has escalated since then, with Alexa declaring her love for me and throwing herself on me. she even went so far as to try to kiss me! and all pointedly in front of Dana whom there is no doubt that i am dating. noe its to the point where Dana is freaking out, asking me who this girl is. i looked het in the eye today and told her honestly "i dont know". of course this answer seems confusing, but i meant it more like, "idk, anymore". and Dana knew what i meant. ive told Alexa very emphatically to STOP and ive even had to grab her before she collapses into my arms for whatever reason and tell her to CALM DOWN. somebody help me see this thru her eyes, or else help me figure out how to keep her away from my new gf and i, as we are happy together.
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reader, jrns96 +, writes (17 December 2010):
jrns96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Abella, I appreciate the help. And not to worry, Dana is standing strong (thank God) I don't know what I'd do without her. And you ;). Thanks.
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reader, Abella +, writes (15 December 2010):
 Try to never touch her in any way. Step away from her, rather than push her away. Never speak to her with no one else present. Just in case she's vindictive enough (would not put it past her) to slap any harassment charge on you. She is unbalanced and consumed with the green eyed jealousy affliction. This girl is trouble with capital T. it's a pity no one
will talk sense into to leave you alone.
Sounds like you will have to persistently say 'no' and 'go away alex' to her in a firm clear assertive voice. The way you retrain an animal with clear assertive no nonscence tone. Ask school authorities not to put you in the same class ever, due to her harassment.
And no more waving to her. No more small talk.
Pray your Dana is not too freaked out by all this. Alexa would like that.
You may also need to keep an eye on Dana to make sure Alexa does not try to hurt Dana in any way, to get at you.
If Alexa goes too far, then approach the police.
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