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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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A. 6 October 2011: He does like you. And I think the feeling is mutual. Being Good friends First is one of the best indicators of a relationship that could develop "staying power." In fact I do not think a relationship is sustainable unless you are also friends, first ... (read in full...)
Help! Advice? Am I driving my daughter away? Am I being too controlling?
Q. My daughter will be 21 on her next birthday. She is a high achiever but also could be a handful at times. From the ages from 16 to 18 she was out a lot, yes she was doing her A levels, part time job and cared for her horse. She also did go out with...
A. 5 October 2011: Yes you are most certainly treating your responsible adult daughter like a child. This dear woman, who you brought into the world has done well at her studies, has chosen a lovely man as her boyfriend. She is responsible about contraception. It is ... (read in full...)
I want to get out of this situation but don't know where to turn!
Q. I feel like such a failure.i'm 27 years old,dont have a job and live with my grandparents.i have either quit jobs or been fired from them due to lack of confidence.my dad has been married 3 times and had my two half brothers in his first marriage ...
A. 4 October 2011: You need some outside support for your needs. and to overcome all the betrayals you have faced.
At age 26-29 you are now an adult.
But anxiety is seriously debilitating. So please speak to your Doctor about that. You need very good profesional ... (read in full...)
Married to rich girl, but her parents don't wana see me attending parties at their place, my wife doesn't know this, what should I do know?
Q. I am married to a girl for last 10 months with whom I was in a relationship for one year before we got married December last year. She is from extremely rich family and my monthly salary is equaled of her daily pocket money . Somehow she ...
A. 4 October 2011: Clearly you are a peaceful respectful guy, with Parents in law from hell, who you do not deserve. What horrible snobby petty small minded people your parents in laws sound like.
You are in an equal partnership with you wife. There should be NO secr... (read in full...)
He says he is over his love who died 8 years ago but I don't trust him!
Q. Hi.. whoever is reading this I do hope I can get some good advice or some kind of understanding as to why I feel the way I'm feeling at the moment! I met a wonderful Man back in July 11 -still together.He has not had any sort of relationship in the ...
A. 4 October 2011: He has trusted you enough to Open up to you. That is a very good sign. Treasure him for showing so much trust in you. It sounds like he is feeling you are understanding and loving enough for him to finally let down his guard? And he is ready to move ... (read in full...)
Why are some people so two faced?
Q. There's a woman at work who I thought I got along with quite well. She's always been nice to my face but yesterday after she'd just been talking to me (she doesn't know) I heard her being really mean and bitchy about me. It really as upset me ...
A. 2 October 2011: I have worked with a woman, also in her 50s, almost identical to what you describe. False as false can be. Overly sweet to my face. I was not the only one she did this to. Two other men refused to sit near her any more.
You are not stupid at all. ... (read in full...)
I am in relationship stress over this situation. Does he really love me? Why did he ignore me for so long after my Mom died?
Q. Hi Dear Cupid it's me again now a senior in high school and that also means that I have more relationship stress. As you may know from my last questions I've been involved with my bestfriend/ now ex-boyfriend and just when I thought things coul...
A. 1 October 2011: i can truly see why you are conflicted. And I am very glad he apologised. From my perspective I cannot but feel hurt when someone is so concerned with their own hurt that they cannot spare an ounce of empathy at the right time. When my husban... (read in full...)
Is it a stigma to be a 31 year old Male Virgin? And is my drastic solution the best one, in the circumstances?
Q. I don't know how to put this as a question: I just want to know if I'm not alone in the way that I feel? My story: I'm a 31-year-old guy and still a virgin. I am deeply pained - being a virgin at 31 feels like a stigma and to a large extent i...
A. 30 September 2011: I really do not see it as bad that you are still a virgin. One of my friends was 19 when she married her 32 year old boyfriend. They are still together. And it is very fortunate that he was not bothered that his 19 year old bride had far more ... (read in full...)
We did break up a month ago. YET he still wants to flirt. What's up with him?
Q. So its been over a month now, since my boyfriend and I broke up. But he still has feelings for me. I guess the reason he still feels close to me is that...just because we are now exes...we are still like best friends. I don't have a problem being ...
A. 30 September 2011: The two of your broke up a month ago.
If he still wants priveleges then he needs to make up his mind. Are you still together or not? If he wants to flirt with you and kiss you then ask him to make a decision - are you back together or are you stil... (read in full...)
So, what was his feeling toward me? It's a little mysterious, so I need your opinions please?
Q. I told my crush(an exchange student) I liked him. However, he said long distance relationship was impossible and if a relationship came into existence it wouldn't continue... In addition to this, he said he had no idea when he will come back to m...
A. 30 September 2011: Losing someone who has come to mean a lot to you is horrible to contemplate. Of course you will feel so sad to see him return to his country. I think he has touched your heart. But is he feeling the same way? I am so very very sorry to have to ... (read in full...)
I am in relationship stress over this situation. Does he really love me? Why did he ignore me for so long after my Mom died?
Q. Hi Dear Cupid it's me again now a senior in high school and that also means that I have more relationship stress. As you may know from my last questions I've been involved with my bestfriend/ now ex-boyfriend and just when I thought things coul...
A. 30 September 2011: I am so very very sorry that you lost your Mom when you were young. What a shocking time you have endured.
My father passed away when I was 15, but in some ways that was a blessing (or so I thought), because my father was seriously ill and coul... (read in full...)
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