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writes:The other day I had a thought and decided to write it down. I had several women write to me regarding this thought and so I decided maybe I should post it here for those of you women who wonder what it takes to make a man stay with you forever.This is simply an example of how we think as men, using women as an example.Here it is:If I gave every woman that reads this post a brand new Lexus right off the showroom floor, for the first few months you would wash it,wax it,vacuum it, have the oil changed every 3,000 miles and baby it relentlessly.After several months the car washes would occur less frequently. You'd probably clean the interior less and oil changes would be optional, may at 5,000 or even never again.Now if you worked your ass off, working day and night, maybe even a part-time job because you really wanted to buy your very own Lexus things would be different. You'd wash and wax that vehicle religiously. You'd get personalized plates, you'd take it in for service exactly as recommended by the manufacturer. You'd allow no one to drive it other than yourself and you'd park all the way at the end of the grocery parking lot to insure that no one parked beside it and dinged your doors. And God forbid if someone sat on it, you would lose your mind literally.Why would you treat the vehicle you purchased differently than the exact same vehicle that I gave you? Because with the second vehicle you earned it. You worked for it and it is yours, it shows for your hard work and dedication. The one I gave you took no effort, dedication, hardwork or planning on your part so therefore it has no real value to you.Think about this scenario the next time you allow a man into your life and fail to make him earn everything he gets from you. He should be made to prove his worthiness to be with you, make him earn the right to be with you. The most precious thing that you will ever give anyone in this life is your heart, and if you fail to make him earn it, then in a couple of months you will be just like that Lexus that we talked about in the beginning of this post.After a couple of months he will stop opening doors for you, stop respecting you, he will take advantage of you, probably cheat on you and all in all he will make your life miserable. Why? Because he didn't have to earn his place to be with you.We respect the things we work for, we are proudest of the things we earn. If you really want his respect and admiration, let him work towards the best thing in his and your life. That being, having you as his mate. You'll both be happier in the end, I promise! Reply to this Article
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reader, Abella +, writes (10 October 2011):
 Beautiful Article and it deserves to be kept out in front more often. I just recommended it and it deserves to be recommended
Thank you again AnonymousMale1 - One of my hero uncles on this site. telling it like it is.
regards
Abella
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reader, Senate_78  +, writes (13 November 2009):
Well said. But it does go both ways, women need to put in as much effort as men. There should be a level of respect and trust on both sides or the relationship will die.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): I don't think these kinds of generalization are worth anything. I've been happily married for 7 years now and day after day he treats me better and takes more care of me. The thing is i liked him first, i made the move, and i worked to have his heart. So... he must have a problem, right? please! Just because you work this way, doesnt me every guy works like that!
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reader, duce00 +, writes (31 October 2009):
 This is a 2-way street. Women need to earn our love and respect too, and some of them don't deserve it any more than the type of man you described.
Plenty of guys post on this site about working so hard to please a woman only to get treated like dirt. I see it just as often as I see the classic downtrodden woman scenario.
I think the real factor here is CHOICES. Choose to be with a person that you respect and admire who exhibits the qualities you want to be with and make sure that they see you that way too.
Imagine the world if everybody did that?
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reader, crazychick  +, writes (24 October 2009):
 That was very insightful, I will deffinately remember that! :)
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