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writes:There's this boy I've known for months now. He's known as a womaniser around my school and I'm no fool to that. I currently developed feelings for him, and while we were at a party, I was actually trying to see if he liked me too.He didn't stare at any other girls all my friends were telling me he was staring at me when I walked room-to-room and whenever I went for a cigarette, he would come too, and hug me.Even picked me up, in a "Princess" kind of cradle.When we was leaving, I said goodbye with everyone else around, while they all went inside, I was watching.He pulled me back to him, gave me a giant hug, then moved the hair off my neck, and kissed my neck, then sort of scraped his teeth against my neck, in a soft bite.Being a womaniser, I just wanted to know, does that sound like a meaningless hook up/booty call, or... is it something more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): Thanks guys, you really do know your stuff. I think at this point in time, I'd rather just stay that innocent know-it-all girl, who doesn't give players the time of day...It made me feel really special though.Thanks though.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 It seems that he sure has the seductive moves down to a fine art already, doesn't it?. Based on your account. I bet that made you feel really special? Trouble is Players enjoy the chase more than any other part of the relationship. And yes they do break hearts. And they do get bored easily and move on to the next challenge.
Consider he has already served your with the appetiser course. He will follow-up on that. Expect some attention very soon. But don't be a pushover. Intrigue him. If you still want to pursue him after reading the suggested articles below.
He has already noticed that you are interested in him. Players are scanning the room all the time. He did not miss the clues you unconsiously signalled to him. That is why he decided to give you extra attention. That was just his opening bid. He will up the ante and without some more information to prepare you, then you may be no challenge for him at all. Not because you do anything wrong. But because he has already completed extensive field studies in Seduction. He knows what works and he knows when his charm is working. It felt pretty good didn't it?
It is times like this I say to myself, I need the Cavalry, in the form of AnonymousMale1. There is no finer Uncle when it comes to advice on Players.
So while you make this seductive charming guy wait, please consider reading these wonderful contributions from AnonymousMale1. He is the expert on Players. He says he has the experience, and I believe him. And DearCupid readers benefit from his vast experience.
Here are just three of his great Artivcle offerings on this site.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/10-things-that-women-should-never-allow-any.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-it-is-important-for-him-to-earn-your-love.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-most-women-are-attracted-to-bad-men.html
Because whether your seductive charming guy is a player or not, (I think he is doing very well as a Player so far - he already has a reputation at school - that takes some Serial-Womanising to get to be described as a "player" while still at school.
Therefore it is important to learn how to start dealing with a potential player as soon as possible.
There is one more Article. However I will leave that addional Article from Anonymousmale1 for you to check out later. That particular article on the 10 ways to Spot a Player from AnonymousMale1 is probably aimed at slightly older girls than 16-17. But if you think it would help just go to the AnonymousMale1 column
Just remember Players do not expect to find a girl is a wakeup to their strategies. They prefer girls who make it easy for them to love ém and Leave ém.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 The point about womanisers is:
1. They are particularly attractive - generally have a magnetic attraction for most girls, and this is due to their physical and sexual confidence as much as anything. So, they are the one guy who will hug you and make you feel all warm and melting inside. The others will just look at you shyly from across the room, or are the sort you wouldn't want near you. The womaniser seems like the most amazing, lovely, sweet, sexy guy you have ever set your eyes on. And he seems to have eyes only for you. That is how/why they get women so easily.
2. They are called womanizers because they don't just stick with one girl. For them, given their powers over the opposite sex, and their usually high sex drive and need for attention and love, they go through women like wildfire. They are collectors. They love the thrill of the chase. But when they have got you, after the initial sweetness wears off (usually pretty quick with them), they move on to other prey.
Sorry to say it, but that is how they are.
It isn't all bad - usually when they get to about 35 they wise up and find one woman and idolise her and make a big deal out of being reformed and only being with her. They have kids, and get the closeness and affection from them instead.
So:
It isn't meaningless, but then probably at least half of his conquests aren't meaningless. And he might really like you, and be with you ... but you don't know if will be for 6 days, 6 weeks or 6 months. Unlikely to be 6 years.
Most of us had our hearts broken by a guy like this in our teens or early twenties. But hey, that's life. If I were in your shoes, I would be tempted!
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