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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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from seeing your posts and surmising that your philosophy is one of 'continuous improvement' I have no doubt that you will achieve your goal with this one too.
Best wishes and Happy New Year
Abella... (read in full...)
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Great New Years resolution!
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I love your reply to this article.
Very delightful.
I have a good memory for so many names and so many possible variations in my head, that you real name is safe :)
I really enjoyed reading your follow up
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A. 16 December 2011: hi
You are wise and smart. I wish you well in the future and hope it all works out well to ensure your future happiness and job success as well
Regards
Abella... (read in full...)
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A. 13 December 2011: I'm blushing :)
Thank you
And Best wishes to you too
Abella... (read in full...)
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You were mature enough to go on a group date a... (read in full...)
I feel trapped within my marriage..
Q. when we were living together , he acted generous, he paid whenever we went out to eat, but now that we're married and have a baby, he's been bickering with me that I should be the one working while he stays at home and watch the baby; he said women ...
A. 11 December 2011: This is a frightening situation while you are subject to being undermined and belittled and verbally abused on a daily basis.
Never never ever threaten to leave him. You can make quiet plans to do so. But never never ever warn him of any such int... (read in full...)
I feel trapped within my marriage..
Q. when we were living together , he acted generous, he paid whenever we went out to eat, but now that we're married and have a baby, he's been bickering with me that I should be the one working while he stays at home and watch the baby; he said women ...
A. 11 December 2011: this is not a good situation at all. First of all look after you and see the Doctor about your depression.
And Do NOT tell him you are seeing the Doctor.
Please contact a Women's shelter when he is out for advice. If he is an Attorney then do not l... (read in full...)
Today we talked for the first time since our breakup six months ago. Is it possible he is still interested in me?
Q. Dear friends... i need to know what this means! i broke up with my bf 6 months ago... it seemed our relationship was beyond repair... soon after, i totally regreted it and started taking attitudes to show him i wanted him back. he went for i...
A. 11 December 2011: maybe you both lied because you both do want to be with each other. That being the case, who you have been with, or not, whether it be 1 person or 5 persons is irrelevant.
The two of you care. He cared enough to ask if there had been anyone. And ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is too shy when it comes to sex
Q. Hey guys. I've been with my girlfriend for a while now. It's nearly been two years and she's way tooooo innocent. Like i dont mind it but it halts us from advancing from anything. Like if i try initiate dirty talk, she would immediately reply with ...
A. 11 December 2011: how old is your girlfriend? That is one big consideration
But by far the biggest consideration is what your girlfriend feels is right for her. The two of you have been together for 2 years. That is a serious commitment to each other. So the Resp... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or is his story plausible?
Q. Please bear with the long description :/ Any reply is much appreciated. I have been in a relationship for 8 months with a guy who looks great on paper. He's a doctor with a prominent position and good reputation in the community. We met online. ...
A. 11 December 2011: Your BEST advantage is that you live close by - you have an advantage over any more distant woman. And you can also see what he is up to and drive over. This is a major PLUS and puts you in a good position.
But...
That is a tough position to be in... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or is his story plausible?
Q. Please bear with the long description :/ Any reply is much appreciated. I have been in a relationship for 8 months with a guy who looks great on paper. He's a doctor with a prominent position and good reputation in the community. We met online. ...
A. 11 December 2011: Sounds like he is still flirting adinfinitum? Surely if he was genuine he would have removed all mention of himself from the dating site?
How many other women has he 'promised' himself to? And has he visited you yet?
Look at his actions = does he ... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 10 December 2011: Odds what a lovely romantic gesture and so much fun and flirty to keep on making up nicknames using a resource that she loved. That's very smart and sounds like fun.
Those sort of games, and specific and relevant to the two people make like fun betw... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 10 December 2011: Ah So very confused, I think of Quilts when I hear the name Baltimore. Your nicknames demonstrate that nicknames can be indicators or a very special relationship - where a particular person is the only one who can call you a particular name. And ... (read in full...)
Things that you love about yourself and dislike about yourself
Q. Basically i find these days that people either are extreamly hypocritcal where they think everyone has something wrong with them except them, or people have very low self esteem (including myself). I have learnt in the last year tha...
A. 10 December 2011: I am a good ideas person. My sense of color is good. I like my very tiny wrists. I must be doing something right to still have as close friends people I have known since I was 4. I am a good Mom. I am told I am a good wife. I am observant.
v... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 29 November 2011: Miamine that is a much more original name that some of mine. At least you can tell others your nick name in company.
And how civilized that you still talk to your ex. I love that, where it is possible.
Most of mine are cheeky (too cheeky) and he d... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 28 November 2011: hi Shadow Rose,
i love the 'Hun' one - your comment caused me to immediately think of 2 friends, (a couple), as that is their favorite too.
thank you for your thoughts on this
Abella ... (read in full...)
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