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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 25 December 2011: Hi AriSa
that's not so much fun if you didn't like the nicknames you had asa child. Usually they are given in affection, but if they are not 'right' then they don't work.
But since then things have looked up for you to be given the French for "dea... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
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A. 25 December 2011: Hi Katie7062
The Baby Bear is extra cute. He clearly feels really good about you. Brian sounds like a 'keeper' to me.
The Noodles one I love. Suggests either long long legs on your part or maybe you love Noodles.
)Either way your Dad loves yo... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 18 December 2011: Hi Lifeinsonnetform
I love your reply to this article.
Very delightful.
I have a good memory for so many names and so many possible variations in my head, that you real name is safe :)
I really enjoyed reading your follow up
Regards
Abella... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 17 December 2011: hi IamHereToHelpYou,
You must be truly very loved to have everyone want to give you a unique nickname. Because nicknames are marks of affection. especially within a family. In your case everyone wants to have a unique bond with you.
Thank... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 10 December 2011: Odds what a lovely romantic gesture and so much fun and flirty to keep on making up nicknames using a resource that she loved. That's very smart and sounds like fun.
Those sort of games, and specific and relevant to the two people make like fun betw... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 10 December 2011: Ah So very confused, I think of Quilts when I hear the name Baltimore. Your nicknames demonstrate that nicknames can be indicators or a very special relationship - where a particular person is the only one who can call you a particular name. And ... (read in full...)
Do I confront, support him, or walk away? My married lover confided he has started meeting men for sex.
Q. I need some support! I have had a relationship with a married man for many many years we are very very good friends and occasionally we have sex too which is like the icing on the cake. His wife is sick with MS so please dont criticise me for see...
A. 30 November 2011: Allow him all the time in the world, he is a busy man. He doesn't leave much time to attend to his important job, attend to the care of his wife who is seriously ill, give you his time when it suits his schedule, and NOW find time to hook up with ... (read in full...)
Do I confront, support him, or walk away? My married lover confided he has started meeting men for sex.
Q. I need some support! I have had a relationship with a married man for many many years we are very very good friends and occasionally we have sex too which is like the icing on the cake. His wife is sick with MS so please dont criticise me for see...
A. 30 November 2011: As his wife's situation deteriorates with multiple sclerosis I imagine he is feeling very stressed. In the past it was enough to meet your from time to time to ease his tension and allow him a little escape from his wife. ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me over 12 times and gave me a STD. How do I cope with my hurt and the feeling he's going to do it again and soon?
Q. I've been with the same guy for 4 years we have a baby together but in the past 2 years he cheated on me over 12 times. One of the times he gave me an std I found out from his sisters friend because he gave it to her as well. Another time a girl ...
A. 30 November 2011: Your must hurt so very very much. Living in this appalling situation. Where through no fault of your own you were given a Sexually transmitted disease. You know it is likely to happen again? Not a very pleasant thought, I know.
And he has abso... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dresses attractively when she goes out with her friends but when she's with me,its always the usual t-shirt and jeans
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A. 30 November 2011: For the life of me I do not know why, but some girls think guys are more attracted to girls who only ever wear T-shirts with jeans. Maybe some are.
I'm not one of them.
Give me a girly dress or a girly skirt any time. Plus some really nice per... (read in full...)
How do people cope with multiple family pressures and still cope? Where does one go to for helpd?
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A. 30 November 2011: Some links to read later when you feel up to doing so.
http://helpguide.org/topics/depression.htm
grief and loss – which can lead to depression
http://helpguide.org/topics/grief.htm
relationships
http://helpguide.org/topics/relat... (read in full...)
How do people cope with multiple family pressures and still cope? Where does one go to for helpd?
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A. 30 November 2011: First and foremost you make an appointment with your Doctor and explain the huge amount of pressure you have been under. This is way too much pressure to cope with alone and I would not be surprised if the Doctor suggested some grief counselling or ... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 29 November 2011: Miamine that is a much more original name that some of mine. At least you can tell others your nick name in company.
And how civilized that you still talk to your ex. I love that, where it is possible.
Most of mine are cheeky (too cheeky) and he d... (read in full...)
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A. 29 November 2011: Unconditional love every time with a loyal reliable loving man. wins hands down.
Have you considered that the workplace you are in is Toxic?
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He would cancel dates and I got mad at him. Does he still care about me?
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A. 29 November 2011: His behavior is very rude and he does not care enough about you.
A man in love will look forward to seeing you and certainly will not start distancing himself from you and disappointing you, UNLESS he is trying to distance himself from you as a prel... (read in full...)
He likes "alone time". It's a source of conflict. why do I miss him more than he misses me?
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Some people crave company.
Some people crave some alone time.
You each enjoys aspects of each other. He pr... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dresses attractively when she goes out with her friends but when she's with me,its always the usual t-shirt and jeans
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2. she is feeling a tad guilty about how much she IS spending on c... (read in full...)
Pointers for a meaningful, healthy relationship.
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A. 28 November 2011: there is a very wise head on your shoulders.
Totally agree with honesty. If you can't be open and honest and totally 'be yourself' with the one you love, then what have you got? Honesty works best always.... (read in full...)
How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 28 November 2011: hi Shadow Rose,
i love the 'Hun' one - your comment caused me to immediately think of 2 friends, (a couple), as that is their favorite too.
thank you for your thoughts on this
Abella ... (read in full...)
Why do men become too familiar so quickly?
Q. What is it with men who act way too familiar with you on the first few dates?? I've gone out with a few men who act like were already married on a first date. I say that because people will ask how long we've known each other and I'll say " 2 days" ...
A. 28 November 2011: Ah, I understand. I hope?
You mean when a guy starts assuming you will go along with his plans. Assumes you will be happy to allow him to decide what you, as one half of a couple will want (It's patronising if he does that).
And just doing th... (read in full...)
Why do men become too familiar so quickly?
Q. What is it with men who act way too familiar with you on the first few dates?? I've gone out with a few men who act like were already married on a first date. I say that because people will ask how long we've known each other and I'll say " 2 days" ...
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You will never lose a good guy by m... (read in full...)
I don't know if this guy is being a kind friend or likes me?
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A. 28 November 2011: I agree with the wisdom in Aunt Honesty's answer.
What if your ex and this guy become friends again? It will get tricky.
You are being drawn to him because this other guy was kind to you.
Get involved in more activities.
Develop friendhips outsi... (read in full...)
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A... (read in full...)
How can I get him to keep things on a professional level?
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Next time you need work get three quotes. Surely he is not the perfect ... (read in full...)
My abusive husband threatens to label me a bad mother if I leave him
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And read this before you go to either your Mom's home or a shelter
http://ww... (read in full...)
Please help me summon the courage to leave her
Q. Dear Experts, Ive finaly hit rock bottom in what is supposed to be called a relationship and i require some support to find the courage to leave, after 4 hard years with my soon to be ex partner i cant take anymore of her crap, november 2010 our...
A. 27 November 2011: This is way too much stress. Sadly she sounds like a very troubled woman.
The loss of a baby is indeed a huge loss and you will never forget your baby.
Then a premature birth of your baby girls and an extended time in hospital would have added fu... (read in full...)
I broke up with my ex-boyfriend who cheated on me, but I'm having a hard time getting over him
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A. 27 November 2011: If you contact him it will stir up your feelings and his feelings. He may even think you are trying to get back together with him
You were strong and you should be proud of yourself for the way you were firm at the outset.
It is time you distract... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him?
Q. Should i break up witih him? We met on the internet. He tried to have sex with me on the first date. we've been together for 1 and 1/2 yrs 1) He cheated on me. a) with a girl he met on the bus, he told me its because he thinks i am unfaithful...
A. 27 November 2011: and further to my evidence detailed below in my previous answer:
YES you should break up with him, not get pregnant by him, and not take him back.
It will be tough for the first three months, but later you will be thankful that he is no longer w... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him?
Q. Should i break up witih him? We met on the internet. He tried to have sex with me on the first date. we've been together for 1 and 1/2 yrs 1) He cheated on me. a) with a girl he met on the bus, he told me its because he thinks i am unfaithful...
A. 27 November 2011: No matter how cute, hot etc he looks his behavior towards you is appalling. His lack of loyalty to anyone except himself is inexcusable. And when he cheats he turns it around on you to blame you.
At least he stopped talking about the Mexican girl... (read in full...)
Should I move on or wait for my boyfriend?
Q. Well my bf and I decided to split cuzz im 16 and he 21. Its safer. I love him alot, I would do anything for him! We planned on gettn back together when I turn 18, we still see each other and call each other! Just like were still dating. But I dnt ...
A. 26 November 2011: Who made thbe decision to break up? It sounds like it has been difficult for you to deal with not having him as close as before. One party must have wanted the break more than the other. If he wanted the break then this does not auger well for the ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy ignore you but freak out about what you think of him?! Any help appreciated! :)
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Afternoon to evening outfit....what should I wear?
Q. Hi everyone. This isnt much of a problem, i just need advice. I'm going out on Sunday to some bars, but i am meeting up with my friend in the afternoon, and we may be out until the evening, and i'm not sure what to wear. I don't want to look too ...
A. 25 November 2011: first off feminine shoes always look lovelier than boots imho. the evening is likelier to be colder outside but most of the time you will be inside and warm. Perhaps a jacket with an attractive skirt and top. Show your legs (boots cover up your legs ... (read in full...)
Is is cheating or is it my bi-polar disorder?
Q. Hi guys I'm Tiffany My fiance is Elvin and I love him very much. I have bi-polar disorder,anxiety,and depression. I do not take pills do to no insurance but doing teh best I can to figh the sickness:/....I have been having anxiety lately because I ...
A. 25 November 2011: Hi Tiffany,
I do not think your boy friend is lying to you.
And your situation is a classic example of why all countries should have universal health care for all, levied as a tax on income to fund it. So that the most vulnerable and in desperat... (read in full...)
Want to take pride in being myself and increasing my self esteem. Any advice?
Q. I have had self esteem issues since the age of about 12, and even though they have improved i still get so down about them and convince myself alot of the time "i'm not good enough". It doesn't really help that there are few people in my life who do ...
A. 25 November 2011: You asked for a follow up. Hope something here helps?
Life is not meant to be all work and pressure.
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How to locate a sibling that was put up for adoption?
Q. My husband has a younger brother that was given up for adoption. Both of his parents have passed and the only information I have is...... His birth name (which I believe was changed after the adoption) The hospital he was born in the year he was b...
A. 25 November 2011: You are already ahead of the game. You know the name of the hospital where he was born and the year he was born and that also means you know the State where he was born.
Check out the relevant government department that oversees adoption... (read in full...)
Is my mind playing a trick on me or am I becoming bisexual?!
Q. I'm a 17 year old male and I'm very interested in women. I don't want to kiss, have sex, a romantic and sexual relationship with someone the same sex. Sometimes when I look at another male, something in my head is telling me that I'm attracted to ...
A. 24 November 2011: Time will tell.
It sounds like you may be comparing just to see how you look against the other person. people do this to check out the competition. From what you have said I think the opposite sex remain your preferred partner of choice.
we ... (read in full...)
She says I should have sex with other woman, but I only want her!
Q. I have a simple, but somewhat complicated issue I've working things out with my ex, she doesn't really view herself as someone who can fulfill my desires, we live two and a half hours from each other. She says she'll remain loving and give me the ...
A. 24 November 2011: You sound very kind and caring and strong enough to give your ex the support she appreciates very much. And it is clear that you want to stay in contact with her and support her even if she is unwilling to get counselling.
She wants your support ... (read in full...)
Want to take pride in being myself and increasing my self esteem. Any advice?
Q. I have had self esteem issues since the age of about 12, and even though they have improved i still get so down about them and convince myself alot of the time "i'm not good enough". It doesn't really help that there are few people in my life who do ...
A. 24 November 2011: What anyone else thinks of you is entirely their own problem.
Please do not make their problems you problem.
If you do not yet have any reliable honorable friend or friends you can confide in then keep on coming back to DearCupid and use any othe... (read in full...)
She says I should have sex with other woman, but I only want her!
Q. I have a simple, but somewhat complicated issue I've working things out with my ex, she doesn't really view herself as someone who can fulfill my desires, we live two and a half hours from each other. She says she'll remain loving and give me the ...
A. 24 November 2011: This is one time where what she calls respect is imposing on your boundaries. Absolutely you do not need to seek out other sexual partners.
Perhaps her request is being driven by her own lack of self esteem. But if she does care about you emot... (read in full...)
Does anyone agree with "everything happens for a reason"
Q. I was wondering, do you believe in the phrase "everything happens for a reason". I am finding it hard to believe at the moment. I applied for my dream job (a promotion), got an interview... Everything was going well. The panel knew me, gave me...
A. 23 November 2011: I do not believe in, nor do I agree that “everything happens for a reason.”
The most important decisions people can make are those that ensure they act honorably and do not deliberately hurt another party nor act dishonestly.
Yet many will act dish... (read in full...)
How can I make this easier? I feel empty and alone when I'm not with him.
Q. My boyfriend and i have a 4 month old daughter together. we have been with each other every day for 3 months. we see each other every day, but when i'm not with him i miss him and want to be with him i feel empty and alone. how can i make this ...
A. 23 November 2011: A new baby is a big change to you life. And I hope you are enjoying the joy of your new baby.
Your guy sounds very attentive and you have been with each other every day for three months.
Are you aware that your hormones can play havoc with your moo... (read in full...)
I need help getting a guy friend out of his depression...
Q. Ok, so long story short (Because I tend to be long-winded), I have a friend who was dumped about 2 weeks ago, I didn't want to ask too much about it, but I did want to help, because he's a friend. But this guy will NOT do anything! I told...
A. 22 November 2011: A depressed person can lose all motivation to do anything. But don't let your friend spiral down into that deep valley for too long. Depression is like a huge lead weight holding the person down. It is a serious illness. And they often need far ... (read in full...)
Am I normal for wanting to remain single?
Q. Is it normal that I shut out all emotions and don't even care for having a girlfriend? About a year ago this time I was always stressing about finding a girlfriend and wondering why I was alone but something clicked in me this past summer and I re...
A. 21 November 2011: hi ,
Any woman ignorant enough to claim that you 'are not good enough' for them has definitely outed herself as NOT worthy of your time and attention.
I cannot imagine what kind of ignorant girl would utter such rubbish.
Be thankful you have not... (read in full...)
I was sent to a department to help out but the two women already there are making it hell for me!
Q. Ok so I know this has nothing to do with love but this is a work sitution in which I really need some help with. So around 2/3 months ago I was taken from one department and put into another to train up how they work in their office as right ...
A. 21 November 2011: Neither of these women want anyone trained in the jobs and the boss knows it. They are training people to fail. and they are bullying you.
Watch your back.
Write up notes on anything they teach you. Don't be afraid to clarify anything. Document... (read in full...)
Am I normal for wanting to remain single?
Q. Is it normal that I shut out all emotions and don't even care for having a girlfriend? About a year ago this time I was always stressing about finding a girlfriend and wondering why I was alone but something clicked in me this past summer and I re...
A. 21 November 2011: Right now you may want to remain single and there is nothing wrong with feeling this way. In fact you may never change your mind about this. And that is OK too.
You may be in the minority. But that does not matter. It takes a whole range of peopl... (read in full...)
He chose to spend our 1 year 10 month anniversary with his college friends!
Q. Ok I know this sounds a bit stupid but yesterday was our year and ten months anniversarie but he kept telling me last week that he was gonna surprise me wit breaking Dawn tickets and so I was just thinking it comes out Friday it's our day Friday ...
A. 20 November 2011: I would be more annoyed about the Dawn tickets. I think he let you down over those tickets.
If he allowed money in the budget for those tickets and then spent it out with his college friends then I suggest on Monday that you treat yourself to a go... (read in full...)
After my past experiences now I hate women!
Q. I have a really good relationship with my mother and sister so I was raised on the belief that women were wonderful creatures. My dad was a junkie and in 2007 it was his undoing. So in reality, I should respect women..HOWEVER.. I have been wit...
A. 20 November 2011: Iceland - what a wonderful interesting place in the world
I am glad that you do not include all of us in your "hate woman" post.
Rant as much as you want.
Indeed you have lucked out. And you have met women who did not understand the v... (read in full...)
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