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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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He needs time to think, what does that mean?
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Why do I attract men, but always end up getting dumped?
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I saw him on the bus!
Q. I actually saw him BEFORE I got one the bus.. anyway, I was waiting for my bus yesterday when I noticed the person beside me smelled like cigars. (which I love) I looked at the person standing to my right and my heart started to race. He's probably ...
A. 5 February 2011: keep getting the bus around the same time. If he is really interested he will take the initiative. And think it was his idea..
A man likes to feel he thought of it, he initiated it, he pursued you, he will make it obvious by approaching you. And ... (read in full...)
My married lover's wife calls me when he is away from her!
Q. I have two kids from different fathers, i was married to the first child dad and we divorced in 2004, i divorced him because i didnt love him anymore for no reason. i met my long high school lover and we got back together and we got engaged in 2006, ...
A. 3 February 2011: you first change your phone number.
That at least will give you a little bit of peace, until his wife goes through his phone contacts to discover your new number.
Problems with his wife are not going to go away. And she is aggrieved at losing h... (read in full...)
My boy friend has started being aggressive to me. Is dumping him the best idea?
Q. My boyfriend was great when we were friends but when we started going out he. Since then he's changed. He's started acting more aggresive, controlling, rude, ect. and when I wanted to talk to him about it, he broke up with me on Facebook and then ...
A. 3 February 2011: he's not worthy of you. Be very very pleased that he has saved you the effort of breaking with him. Emotionally you broke up with him first. He saw the writing on the wall, and reacted by doing what he did.
He now has no idea of your true worth as a... (read in full...)
Is he going to try to cheat on me with this woman he admitted to wanting to sleep with?
Q. My boyfriend told me, when he was very drunk (I was drunk too, and pushing) about a female friend of his that he'd like to sleep with. Anyhow, now he's been spending more time/ paying more attention to her. Should I be worried? Is he going to try to ...
A. 2 February 2011: yes, based on his track record he's rev- ving up, working his 'magic' on this woman with a view to connecting. Why stick with a guy who's managed to cheat, and be forgiven, and cheat again.
Based on what you have revealed about this guy, i thin... (read in full...)
My boy friend has started being aggressive to me. Is dumping him the best idea?
Q. My boyfriend was great when we were friends but when we started going out he. Since then he's changed. He's started acting more aggresive, controlling, rude, ect. and when I wanted to talk to him about it, he broke up with me on Facebook and then ...
A. 2 February 2011: in how many languages can i say :
'yes, yes, yes, dump him'.
A man who has already shown that he has anger management issues is not the man for you. It's abuse to act aggressive to you. It can and will only get worse.
Such neurotic nasty abuser... (read in full...)
I dumped her, yet I'm turning into a wuss over her. What's a good action plan to get me coping again?
Q. What is wrong with me? I broke up with a woman 16 months back but I'm obsessed with keeping tabs on what she doing. My obsession is taking over my life. I hardly eat, my condo's filthy, I don't go out. I feel like I'm married to my laptop and b...
A. 2 February 2011: You dumped her, was that done without any thought to whether it was what you really wanted? She is over you, but you clearly are not.
I think you are kicking yourself and regretting dumping her. Forgive yourself. Mistakes happen. You may nor may ... (read in full...)
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