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writes: So I'm having driving lessons at the minute. and i have feelings for my instructor he's a really nice guy in his 40's single tall dark, yada yada, anyway he's helped me out so much he's even got me a new job working for his brother at a local pub, which makes it even more awkward as i really gotta stay professional now!! haha! I've even had to work with him. He's never made any remarks or feelings known towards me infact he can barely make eye contact!He gets really aggitated when i'm next to him and theres an ounce of frustration in his tone of voice, maybe im reading to much into it but anyway at christmas i posted a card through his door, a kind of cute card with a cat on it looking at a robin in a tree and it read "festive Treats!!" the next day i got one back, from him and his Cat, which was sweet as he's mention his cat before. i had my first lesson of this year last week. his first words were i want to book you in for your test soon then as i was driving he went on to tell me that his cat wasnt very festive over christmas and had brought a robin in...i didnt think anything of it at first but then remembered the card i'd got him, and now i'm wondering if he's trying to tell me something. He's quite reserved and shy and always polite on lessons not your typical pervy instructor. Were both single. and i really like him, although i'm quite self concious right now as i had a baby a year ago and not too keen on how i look...dont think i'd be willing to bare anything to anyone right now but maybe in a few months....i dont know if after i finish driving lessons i should make a move or not...Does he even like me?? what ya think? Cheers Desperate EX- Housewife. 26
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reader, Abella  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 finish your driving lessons (to keep things professional).
While you are still having driving lessons it is unlikely he will make a move on you, as that would be unprofessional.
Keep an eye on him when you work beside him at his brother's place. How he communicates and relates to others.
And try to project a good image to him by not being too flirty with those you work with. Trust me, he will be observing you at this time too.
If he seems a good egg to you, then once you have your driver's license you
can escalate things.
Then start smiling at him. If you know a good coffee place, then invite him to join you for coffee. If he says yes, then there's a strong possibility he does like you. (Pssst: secretly, I already do think he likes you, but keep that to yourself!) Over coffee you can just get to know each other first - ask him some open questions so he can share more about himself. And hopefully he'll ask you some too, if he's interested.
Eg: 'what do you enjoy most about being a driving instructor?'
Eg: 'What's the nicest place you ever visited and what was it that most impressed you about that place?'
Eg: 'how would you describe the toughest job you ever tried, and what made it tough, for you?'
So the questions get the conversation opened up. But the questions do not focus on sex, nor on how he feels about you (you'll find out soon enough), and there are so many similar conversation starters than can tell you more about the man.
Please be slow and cautious about introducing sex. Because he's been a gentleman so far. So if you come on too strong too soon I think it might give him the wrong impression. I think potentially he's a cautious guy, but also a keeper, if handled right.
Please keep DC posted on progress. Because this budding relationship is sounding promising
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reader, Abella +, writes (19 January 2011):
finish your driving lessons (to keep things professional).
While you are still having driving lessons it is unlikely he will make a move on you, as that would be unprofessional.
Keep an eye on him when you work beside him at his brother's place. How he communicates and relates to others.
And try to project a good image to him by not being too flirty with those you work with. Trust me, he will be observing you at this time too.
If he seems a good egg to you, then once you have your driver's license you
can escalate things.
Then start smiling at him. If you know a good coffee place, then invite him to join you for coffee. If he says yes, then there's a strong possibility he does like you. (Pssst: secretly, I already do think he likes you, but keep that to yourself!) Over coffee you can just get to know each other first - ask him some open questions so he can share more about himself. And hopefully he'll ask you some too, if he's interested.
Eg: 'what do you enjoy most about being a driving instructor?'
Eg: 'What's the nicest place you ever visited and what was it that most impressed you about that place?'
Eg: 'how would you describe the toughest job you ever tried, and what made it tough, for you?'
So the questions get the conversation opened up. But the questions do not focus on sex, nor on how he feels about you (you'll find out soon enough), and there are so many similar conversation starters than can tell you more about the man.
Please be slow and cautious about introducing sex. Because he's been a gentleman so far. So if you come on too strong too soon I think it might give him the wrong impression. I think potentially he's a cautious guy, but also a keeper, if handled right.
Please keep DC posted on progress. Because this budding relationship is sounding promising
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