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writes:My boyfriend started watching porn when I became pregnant. When I found out, he told me that he was stressed, so he watched porn. After the baby was born, he continued to watch it, saying that he was a grown man and would do what he wanted. He stopped for a little bit, but then started back up again. This time he is deleting his history and cookies. He told me that he doesn't jerk off to porn everytime he watches it, but the lotion and paper towels are being moved. He had told me that it is a small thing but now he is going out of his way to hide it from me. Is it really small now if he is trying to hide it better?
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reader, he4she +, writes (20 January 2011):
A little porn doesn't hurt anything, but it can become an addiction. OR it could be a fantasy thing.
Try to spice things up a little in the bedroom.
A sexy nighty that looks good on you.
Some men likes the woman to make the first move for sex, while others do not, all you can do is play it by ear.
Communication is the key to any healthy relationship.
Talk openly with him, share any fantasies you may have.
Ask him to share any that he may have.
He may not open up at first but be patient.
If his fantasy turns out to be a little shocking, don't let him know you are shocked. He just opened up to you don't ruin it, just talk openly about it.
Role playing can always be fun.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 January 2011):
 He hides it because he's ashamed of it and doesn't want to upset you. Little does he know what he's doing doesn't work. That's pretty much par for the course though when it comes to guys. Does it bother you? Does he still please you when you want him to?
It's up to you to decide if this is a problem.
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reader, Abella +, writes (20 January 2011):
 He's possibly still young. And a new baby is an overwhelming life moment for many men. (horrible that I have to say most men, but truth is some men are not responsible about their children)
Get him involved with the baby, doing things. Get out together to visit interesting public places with you and the baby. Pack a lunch and enjoy lunch in open places.
Don't say he can't watch it, but do distract him.
He may also be watching it as a stress relief from all the attention the baby is getting versus him.
And he may not be as mature as you think. Yes he is probably watching it as much as he ever did.
No doubt you are tired looking after the baby, but do make time for you and him as a couple at least once a month have baby looked after by a family member you trust, and you and he perhaps have a outing to something nice. Make him feel special and appreciated.
If you don't nag him then eventually he may realise what a waste of time it is. But he needs to discover that for himself.
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