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*3puremage1
writes:I recently upset a girl really badly, so I wrote her a letter of apology. She has been ignoring me for the past few days and never replied to me. I seriously do not want her to hate me for the rest of my life.What else can I do to get her to forgive me? Or should I give her some more time?p /> Reply to this Question
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reader, 83puremage1 +, writes (23 January 2011):
83puremage1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advise.
"then I have to leave" means I will only become a normal friend with her which is something that I do not want to happen since she has been helping me a lot and I do love her but she is currently in a relationship with someone else.
I believe there are 4 outcomes of this situation.
1. She totally excluded me from her friend list and the chance is 10%
2. I will become her normal friend and the chance is 30% due to she is with someone else now and she wants to forget me.
3. I will remain her special friend which is she will still treats me very well and supports me and the chance is 50%.
4. she will be in a relationship me later and the chance is 10%
I just hope she will forgive me now and let everything flows smoothly later.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 interesting follow up. I read you posts and all the subsequent replies. What does
''then I have to leave''
Curious, because it sounded very final. And very dramatic.
Now I am really wondering if your response means:
Leave her alone?
Leave the area where you live?
Leave the country?
In life sometimes we do lose someone we love very much. But amazingly later we meet someone else we love even more.
And although it seems impossible, that next person often turns out to be more amazing than we ever imagined could ever be. Time heals so many hurts.
And we learn, grow and increase in wisdom.
Which virtually guarantees that next person is beyond amazing.
There is never just one person who is perfect for us.
There are many.
But we choose a person.
Treat them very well.
And reap the rewards of a wonderful (next) relationship
Losing this girl is not the end of the world. There are many more wonderful experiences awaiting you. Go forth and
enjoy every one of those good
experiences in the future.
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reader, 83puremage1 +, writes (23 January 2011):
83puremage1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for everyone's advise. I will just wait for her to forgive me and if she doesn't then I will have to leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): How to appease her depends very much on how you upset her...what did you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): Let it go. You've already apologised. You don't need her forgiveness. It's her problem if she hasn't forgiven you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): you need to back off, leave her alone, and don't bother her. You've written her a letter. The ball is in her court. It is entirely up to her now.
You will only make it worse if you badger her.
Get on with your life. Be courteous and a gentleman in future to all girls.
Allow her to get on with her life, without
any interference from you.
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reader, Mp2 +, writes (23 January 2011):
embarrsement most definatly!bring her a box of choclate a rose,a sweet card and a box of choclates it will embaress her and she'll love u agian! do it as a valentines day thing trust me
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reader, CJH +, writes (23 January 2011):
 Depending on what youve done, yes more time is probably a good idea.
Continually hassling her now will do nothing but make her more irritated with you. Give her time to remember the things she likes about you rather than pretty much forcing her to confront the dastardly deed she is annoyed with you for.
Keep yourself busy and wait for her to come to you. Of course there is a chance you may have blown things entirely so be prepared for that outcome and, if it is the case, try to learn from it.
Good luck.
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