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writes:Hello Dear Cupid,Good afternoon.So glad to have located your website because I need some help/advice from some of your other members. I am writing and submitting this post, mainly on behalf of my wife.I am married to an exceptionally wonderful woman, whom I will call 'B'. I am 45, while B is 34; we are well-educated professional people (my wife runs and manages her own successful business); we have been married for ten terrific years and have no children.My wife grew up in a fairly strict and straight-laced household and so she did not have much experience with sex, but all of that changed when we started dating (B was 23 at the time), after which time she seemed to bust-out in grand fashion and became a real sexual dynamo...B absolutely loves sex, all kinds of sex. I suppose my wife fits the description of being a "late-bloomer." We are very much in love with each other and have a strong and stable relationship and marriage.Despite her success in business, B, who is a radiantly sexy, long-legged, dark-haired, dark-eyed stunner, tends towards being a bit on the reserved and introverted side and recently, maybe five or six months ago, she shyly confessed to me that for many years, she has wanted to have a lesbian experience. This desire had been in her mind for a long time (mainly since she was a senior in high school), and while over the years, several opportunities had presented themselves, she had just been way too shy and reserved to actually act on her desires, but with her 35th birthday looming large, B had apparantly decided that the time had arrived to step-out and turn this long-held secret desire into a reality. So, my wife quietly had shared with me that she was bi-curious, and that her very favorite fantasy involved our having a threesome with a much younger woman - preferably someone who was 18-22 years old. At the same time, I came clean and shared with my wife that this happened to be my favorite fantasy as well, especially the part about seeing her in an intimate embrace with another beautiful woman, and that if she really and truly wanted to do it, that I was fully behind it and her. B and I have talked quite a lot about this subject in the intervening weeks and months and while we both definitely want it to happen, we are not quite sure as to the how. One problem is that neither of us are regularly in the habit of interacting with people who are in this particular age group...and B is pretty adamant about her first female lover being in this particular age range (not sure why, but she is - and I don't push it). The girl also has to be attractive, sweet, warm and very feminine as well (maybe this is because my B is all of these things?). We are also cautious and careful. Needless to say, my wife and I are both concerned about and interested in finding just the right kind of young lady for this interlude....no skanks or druggies. We want this to be very special and meaningful, not to mention a memorable and romantic, occasion, as opposed to a regrettable and forgettable disaster. Since I know my wife so well, and her emotions and how she thinks, I also have some reason to believe that she might be of a mind that given just the right person and set of circumstances, she would want to work this special young lady into our marriage along the lines of a longer-term threeway relationship, rather then just our having a one night stand. In any event, B does want to be the one to "pick" Miss Right, but she wants my help to "find" her.My beloved wife turns 35 in mid-March, and I want this, her first time with another lady, to be a special birthday present that she will enjoy and remember for the rest of her life. While I have certainly been keeping an eye open for suitable options and opportunities on a day to day basis, I thought I would turn to the Internet to try and reach out for some additional assistance.Pointers, and advice would be most welcome.With many thanks
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reader, Drat001  +, writes (28 January 2011):
I've gotta say, if you do go through with this, it's a good thing that you have no children. I know of several married couples who've done the "bring in another woman to spice things up" bit, and in every case the marriage ended: usually, the woman who brings up the idea is using this as a way include the husband in an affair she's already having, so's not to feel guilty about cheating, or she's thinking she might be a lesbian, and wants to experiment and find out if she is in an environment that she feels comfortable in. So, if you do this and your wife ends up leaving you for another woman, while it isn't your fault, if you bring another woman into your marriage, you certainly won't have helped any.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): Threesomes are a no no...it is such a bad idea...the resentment and insecurities that follow is not worth the 'adventure'.Plus why violate your marriage this way...
something is obviously making your wife tick that she is considering such a DESTRUCTIVE PATH.....and no it wont help improve you sex life....It will do just the opposite Destroy it eventually....thats what it is, a DESTRUCTIVE fantasy....Such fantasies are best left as just that FANTASY.... Please before you go on with this, search and read about people/couples who have had threesomes and are regreting it...Don't say you were not warned!!!!!!
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reader, Abella +, writes (18 January 2011):
 you love her so much, and you'd do anything to make her happy. Admirable sentiments on your part.
And this desire is one that both you and your wife want.
I was touched by how deep is your love and affection for your wife. And how strong is your faith that nothing could ever disrupt your wonderful marriage.
And I sincerely hope that remains the reality for you and your beloved wife.
So my words of caution are only to apply some SWOT analysis to your aims.
Though I think you are set on the strengths and opportunities the idea of a threesome could bring. That is why I've tried to focus on the hypothetical threats and weaknesses in the proposed plan.
Certainly your plan may work, and make your wife very happy.
However......
Before you go down this path research through this site the outcome for many others who have tried threesomes. Or are still trying to put things back together,
after the fall out from a threesome.
Just as a child changes the dynamics in a relationship so does the arrival of anyone else into a relationship.
Have you considered that this person should know little about the extent of what you are worth financially, where you live, what are your business and investment details.
Could you book into a luxury retreat? With this third woman arriving after you've arrived and had time to settle in? Set up adjoining rooms. And keep who you are and your personal details well guarded and quarantined from view?
After all, is this meant to be an occasional sexual variation in your life?
Or is the intention that she will become your permanent second spouse? Or a replacement of you in the long term.
People can be very smart about business. Yet very naive in the face of street smart manipulative persons who see an opportunity to exploit.
Ask yourself: how would would you feel if the third person drove a wedge between you and your wife?
Ask how you would feel if your wife fell madly and exclusively in love with this third part? And you became excluded from the relationship?
Ask how would you feel if this person became grasping and pressured either your wife or you to help her out financially, more than you expected?
How would you feel if this third person, or another person associated with this third person set out to try to undermine or your wife or your business, in any way?
Is there anyway this desire of your wife could be met by reading her erotic books to her? Or by watching erotic films? Or playing erotic games - just the two of you?
Explore the safest options first
Thank you for reading right through. So often when things go wrong, people, in hindsight they had no idea things could change so quickly. And that they wish, in hindsight, that they had considered the unthinkable,
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