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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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Not sure if Bradmel is still posting here.
But just in case I thought I would share this link with Bradmel
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A. 29 April 2012: How is the relationship with your Mom? Because contemplating a relationship with your Step-father is the ultimate betrayal of your Mom. Can you talk to your Mom or to a counsellor? Now that you are over 18 - for your step father to give you a sn... (read in full...)
Does my BF deny masturbating to sexy girls' pictures online?
Q. Actually I just wanted some opinions on this, thanks in advance!! : My bf has been seeing girls' pictures on Facebook (sometimes his friends, friends of friends... , or even some girls she doesn't know); besides FB, he also checks out sexy model p...
A. 29 April 2012: Goodness knows why but I suspect that he is worried about your reaction. His strategy of denial is not working as you already know what is happening.
I would be more upset by his denial of doing anything - when that is clearly not true - far far ... (read in full...)
Man I'm dating won't sign divorce papers and lives in a house attached to his wife. Should I leave him?
Q. I've been dating this guy for 5 months now, he's been married 28 years but they decided over a year ago they were divorcing, they went to the mediator and settled it out of court. They have 4 kids together.. He has signed all assets over to her and ...
A. 29 April 2012: You most certainly should move one. She calls all the shots. She is in control and he is emotionally attached to her and cannot let go emotionally.
She wants to keep him close - but at arms length.
So you are being treated as his "friend with som... (read in full...)
Did my ex want me to kiss her?
Q. Hello, I am a 16 year old female. My ex-girlfriend is going out with my ex-best friend at the moment. The thing is that I am in love with her and she knows it. Her girl friend does not want her talking to me but she does anyway because she says she ...
A. 27 April 2012: Oh she still has feelings for you. She was hoping you would kiss her. So if the kiss was revealed or discovered by anyone else (especially her new girl friend) then she could try to play the innocent and say that you kissed her.
She already has ... (read in full...)
How do I become more confident?
Q. I am in my last year of school. deep down, I know I can be a confident person. I want to be a confident person from the great deal of positive affirmation I've recieved from others. I have not found being confident with people easy for the mos...
A. 24 April 2012: Sometimes to get from one point to the next point in your life you may need to take some side steps and zig-zag to reach your goals. Life is never that easy that you can be who you want to be and achieve what you want in just a few short steps. It ... (read in full...)
How do I build a relationship with my mom?
Q. i feel like my mom and i have no relationship what so ever! i feel like there is nothing i can talk to her about!! i've tried sitting down with her, tried writing her letters, i've even tried facebook messaging her, but nothing seems to change!! ...
A. 24 April 2012: If your Mother and you do not have a good relationship and you are committed to wanting one, then perhaps a counsellor working with you and your Mom can help you all to identify what are the issues preventing a better connection?
Perhaps your Mom... (read in full...)
Seriously debating whether to break up or not?
Q. Debating whether to leave your partner or not? Here’s forty questions as food for thought. There are no right or wrong answers or score cards, they’re just things to consider if you're having trouble. Please keep in mind that nobody is perfect ...
A. 14 March 2011: this article is sheer brilliance
Five Stars all round
(decided it was time I read a range of Articles today - this one I will be recommending to others)
Thx
Abella... (read in full...)
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