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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-confidence-and-how-do-i-get.html
regards
Abella
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http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-confidence-and-how-do-i-get.html
regards
Abella
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http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-confidence-and-how-do-i-get.html
regards
Abella
... (read in full...)
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http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-confidence-and-how-do-i-get.html
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... (read in full...)
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... (read in full...)
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It's been a while since.
So how are things working out now? I do hope that he and you are now closer friends as without doubt He was smitten with you then
Sorry you did not get the answers you ... (read in full...)
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A. 22 January 2012: Hi
I am sorry that this is a year now and no answers. Did you eventually work it out with him? I do hope so.
Hopefully he found the courage to approach you and start up a longer conversation with him.
if it did not work out then I do hope that th... (read in full...)
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A. 22 January 2012: Hi
this may be a cultural thing, but you could tell me that better than I would know. Why, if he is from a different tribe, can he not be friends with you?
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A. 22 January 2012: Hi Maine
LDR relationships are so very very difficult.
Have things improved a little since you asked this question?
Is there any support that you still need to cope with this or have things changed since then?
Please do not hesitate to ask.... (read in full...)
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A. 22 January 2012: Hi walshie93
I really hope that you did manage to reconnect with her. A lot can happen in a year.
Sorry you did not get an answer then. Is there anything else that you need or any support that might help after all this time?
regards
... (read in full...)
All she wants to do is take him from me!
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This is an important question and it's obvious that you were just unlucky to not receive a reply at the time.
Things may have moved on now, but is there anything else that you need? Any advice that might help? Or did it end up w... (read in full...)
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A. 22 January 2012: Hi
and after all this time, did you reconnect?
IS there anything else that you need? Some more support? Because it must have been a very busy day that your question did not get any answers way back when you asked it, seeing as it was a good val... (read in full...)
Things haven't been the same since his ex found out about our relationship!
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A. 22 January 2012: it must have been a busy time when you posted this question. And sadly you received no answers. It is a reasonable question.
Since then have things worked out? Or can the Aunts and Uncles on Dear Cupid perhaps help you further even though this happ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with him!?
Q. Alright Long story short I have known this boy for half-year we became somewhat great acquatineces and as I got to know him developed feelings decided to never tell ex-friend told I got somewhat rejected he said I had no chance and I decided that I ...
A. 22 January 2012: You did not get any answers when you posted this question. But I do hope that things have worked out for you since?
Can the Aunts and Uncles still offer you some support all this time later?... (read in full...)
I'm sick of being bullied, I'm sick of no understanding, I'm just sick of it!
Q. Im sick of feeling alone and depressed all the time, i have moments when im really happy then my mood can suddenly change i try to tell my mum and dad but they never listen they are like 'oh sure course theres always something wrong with you' etc ...
A. 22 January 2012: Here are the Bullying links I think might help you? Biderman's Chart of Coercion helped me a lot to deal with a bully
regards
Abella
Bullying links
http://bullyoffline.org/workbully/index.htm
http://www.overcomebullying.o... (read in full...)
She's being a recluse. But says we're not 'over' yet. What does she want? I want to see her.
Q. Hello, I started seeing a girl a couple of months ago we spent some time together and slept together a few times, we got very close it was very passionate. The Christmas holidays came up so she was out of town for a while likewise with me too, so ...
A. 21 January 2012: she wants you to woo her.
She wants to be delighted by you.
She wants YOU to initiate the contact, and she wants you to offer her a concrete firm day, time, place for a really firm offer of a reunion outing to remember.
In a word, try to sta... (read in full...)
I'm sick of being bullied, I'm sick of no understanding, I'm just sick of it!
Q. Im sick of feeling alone and depressed all the time, i have moments when im really happy then my mood can suddenly change i try to tell my mum and dad but they never listen they are like 'oh sure course theres always something wrong with you' etc ...
A. 21 January 2012: Do you know where your nearest Citizen's advice bureau is? They can do some marvellous things. I think you need a heart to heart talk with an non-family (but professional - ie the great people in the Citizen's Advice bureau).
They can give you impa... (read in full...)
Am I to blame for getting dumped?
Q. I used to talk dirty with my very close guy friend P (read: sexting). We had a deal that it was just for fun and only talking and it wasnt gonna go anywhere. But one day we had a drunken makeout session. Soon after our friendship soured and we ...
A. 20 January 2012: here is the article on Confidence written by Code Warrior on this site.
Hope it helps you put more value on who you are.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-confidence-and-how-do-i-get.html... (read in full...)
Am I to blame for getting dumped?
Q. I used to talk dirty with my very close guy friend P (read: sexting). We had a deal that it was just for fun and only talking and it wasnt gonna go anywhere. But one day we had a drunken makeout session. Soon after our friendship soured and we ...
A. 20 January 2012: even this situation can change in time. And it will. I am glad that P can be trusted. That is good.
Maybe S is just trying to accuse you of more than is true because he does not trust you, so he accuses you just to see if you will reveal what he ... (read in full...)
Am I to blame for getting dumped?
Q. I used to talk dirty with my very close guy friend P (read: sexting). We had a deal that it was just for fun and only talking and it wasnt gonna go anywhere. But one day we had a drunken makeout session. Soon after our friendship soured and we ...
A. 20 January 2012: Absolutely NOT!
Never listen to jerks who only want to put you down.
Even if you did flirt a little and even if things have gone a little pear shape, does not justify S calling you nasty names.
Now the tough part of this is that you really love ... (read in full...)
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