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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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This hurts me. My best friend of 6 years has turned on me. Why would a friend do this?
Q. Hi everyone So i have been bestfriends with a girl for six years. Long story short she stabbed me in the back by turning my other friends on me. Some reasons included: i am immature, i make too many jokes , im too positive, everything you say anno...
A. 2 July 2012: well done, you are showing that you are the one in charge of your life.
And remember with mindless nasty people they are often wishing to put others down. Leave them to their petty enclave of bitchiness.
I am glad you have moved on, beyond their pe... (read in full...)
He told me in front of his friends he could do better than me and that our relationship is over.
Q. I need some advice. I am aware I need to leave this relationship but I need input on how and whether it's really something I should do. I hae a 2 1/2 year old son who considers my boyfriend his "dad" bc he's been there since he was 2 weeks old. Last ...
A. 1 July 2012: hi
You sound very responsible. And a great Mother.
Plus I am glad your career path is nursing. Because that is a great career path. Skills like that will take you anywhere. I think you and your son have a great future as a result.
Best wish... (read in full...)
He's denying anything happened. I know it did (just a little) . So should I just let this drop since he can't be honest with me?
Q. Ive asked questions about my best mate a few times on this site and wondering if he is bisexual or gay and if i had a chance and up untill now nothing has really happened between us except some flirting.. If you havn't read i'll sum up... Basica...
A. 1 July 2012: Drop it as a point of discussion.
If he tries it again when drunk don't play - let him know that you'll consider it when he's sober, considering he repudiated last time, once he was sober.
And if he tries it sober then ask him, 'is this what you... (read in full...)
She never stares at other guys. But she stares long stares at me. what is she trying to tell me?
Q. She Stares at me while I'm around. Like she will see me and look at me for a while. She won't take her eyes off me until she has to move or I walk away then the looks quit She calls me Hun whenever I talk to her. Like to wish her happy holiday ...
A. 1 July 2012: You say she does not stare at other guys. So something about you intrigues her. Maybe she can't take her eyes off you, because she is feeling and emerging attraction and she is looking for a sign from you that you feel the same.
if you also lik... (read in full...)
He told me in front of his friends he could do better than me and that our relationship is over.
Q. I need some advice. I am aware I need to leave this relationship but I need input on how and whether it's really something I should do. I hae a 2 1/2 year old son who considers my boyfriend his "dad" bc he's been there since he was 2 weeks old. Last ...
A. 1 July 2012: He is History
You and your son will be far better off without him. He is NO role model for your son.
And it is not good for you nor for your son to see this nasty man demean you.
What a loser this guy his.
Thank goodness this loser has reveal... (read in full...)
I've been engaged for 13 years, don't see it going anywhere and have feelings for my friend!
Q. Hello, A while ago I put a couple of posts on here one about my relationship and one about loving my friend. I'm still struggling and just needed to tell someone. I've been in a relationship for 15 years, engaged for 13!? For a long time I've be...
A. 1 July 2012: You have been way too patient.
Here is my take on committment
1. If guys are serious they often know in the first three months if they perceive that this girl is the one.
2. Guys who are really serious will want you to meet their folks. I e... (read in full...)
Why is it that the only type of guys I'm interested in are guys I have previousy been with but are now in other relationships?
Q. I've recently discovered that the only type of guys I'm interested in are ones that I have previousy been with and are now in other relationships and I don't know what to do about it. I've been talking lately to my ex who is now living in London b...
A. 1 July 2012: Because you have lost confidence in yourself and you are scared to move on and make decisions where you may be rejected.
I think you need to work on your self esteem.
You are just as entitled to a loving exclusive committed relationship... (read in full...)
He's denying anything happened. I know it did (just a little) . So should I just let this drop since he can't be honest with me?
Q. Ive asked questions about my best mate a few times on this site and wondering if he is bisexual or gay and if i had a chance and up untill now nothing has really happened between us except some flirting.. If you havn't read i'll sum up... Basica...
A. 1 July 2012: this guy sounds like he is a little insecure about his sexuality. He may be bi and he may still be scared about coming out. But he has the strong inkling that he is safe with you.
let it drop for the moment, he is not being very honest with you at a... (read in full...)
All my mother does is critizise!
Q. My mother is starting to really depress me. I am an emotional person and all she does is argue with me because of my boyfriend. She swears i pick him over her, when in reality all she does is pick fights with us. She stays assuming things and it ...
A. 1 July 2012: Hi Prettygirl212
I think your mother has way too much time on her hands and she is putting all her focus into you.
Prior to your boyfriend she may have enjoyed more time with you. But now you are maturing and you are no longer her little girl.
Y... (read in full...)
Money and an inheritance is tearing my family apart. How can this be stopped? People are turning on each other in my family.
Q. I have a large family of brothers and sisters and both parents. Everyone outside thinks we are really close and get along but we dont. Lately a relation passed away they left all their possessions to half my family who only went to see them whe...
A. 30 June 2012: Families plus a death in the family plus a Will leaving that person's estate often adds up to a disaster.
It is near impossible to make people change. You can show your disappointment by turning your back and walking out the room any time they sta... (read in full...)
This hurts me. My best friend of 6 years has turned on me. Why would a friend do this?
Q. Hi everyone So i have been bestfriends with a girl for six years. Long story short she stabbed me in the back by turning my other friends on me. Some reasons included: i am immature, i make too many jokes , im too positive, everything you say anno...
A. 30 June 2012: all her lies about what you are alleged to be are just part of the nastiness you are being subjected to.
Sometimes the very things pick on to criticiize are the person projecting They 'see' you having the very same flaws that they have.
You ca... (read in full...)
I'm being ignored by all my friends. So how and why has she turned everyone I used to be close with against me? She's besties with them now.
Q. I used to be friends with this girl called X but then we kind of drifted apart but now it seems like every race she has to beat me at, and every guy I like she has to flirt with and make them like her. Everyone I used to be close with she's be...
A. 30 June 2012: You need a better group of friends as these people are easily influenced by your nasty former friend.
Start doing some new activities. Go to different places. Get involved in a different hobby.
But as much as possible go in opposite directio... (read in full...)
How can this work? He is two places above me at work. He says we can make it work
Q. My future boss and I met around work and he was always nice, friendly. We joked around bur never really had a serious conversation so I interviewed for his department recently and got it. One night, I was getting a ride from a male co-worker and ...
A. 30 June 2012: it is not a good idea to have a relationship with a superior at work. The problems can include your co-workers not believing your gained the job on merit.
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I've been helping my pregnant sister and she treats me like this?
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A. 29 June 2012: well done for speaking to your sister.
The reason i put confrontation in capitals was to indicate a stronger interaction. Some people can be too confronting (more like a all bells and whistles confrontation that ends up causing ill feeling) i woul... (read in full...)
Was this a spiked drink? And why did it not bother my husband that I behaved as I did ?
Q. Me and my husband are marries for 5 yrs now. We have a friend with whom he used to booze during week ends. either we go to his house or he visit us on week end. It's not my habit to drink but some times I join them or when the friend is not availabl...
A. 28 June 2012: hi
I will defer to Cerberus's experienced eye on this.
What Cerberus has said makes sense. It was just what you said that it gave you such a 'kick' and it was sudden. Then you went on to behave uncharacteristically.
So spiking a drink was a real... (read in full...)
Can I endure my hellish future in-laws? Is it worth it? Could he do more to protect me from their malice?
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A. 28 June 2012: how does your thirty year old guy get on with your family?
Often after a couple become a couple they graitate more towards his family OR her family.
But not seeing his family much would hurt him, since they are his family. He's been tolerati... (read in full...)
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A. 28 June 2012: Your guy is not for real.
And wow is he trying too hard. So much more detail than he needed to say, which screamed out fake to me too.
There are some dangerous bad people in the world. One of the things they do is sound too good to be true.... (read in full...)
Was this a spiked drink? And why did it not bother my husband that I behaved as I did ?
Q. Me and my husband are marries for 5 yrs now. We have a friend with whom he used to booze during week ends. either we go to his house or he visit us on week end. It's not my habit to drink but some times I join them or when the friend is not availabl...
A. 28 June 2012: The fact that this drink gave you such a kick is the clue. And that you then lost all your inhibitions and behaved in a way that is uncharacteristic for you is another clue.
And worse, that your husband is not bothered and seemed quite comf... (read in full...)
Can I endure my hellish future in-laws? Is it worth it? Could he do more to protect me from their malice?
Q. Hi there, hoping someone can help me... Got engaged about a year ago to X...love him to bits, I've never felt so comfortable or happy with someone. However,his family... is a different story. I'll start off mentioning that his parents spli...
A. 28 June 2012: You 30 year old guy is a man and should be providing his lady with better support and respect when you are faced with this barrage of common nasty hellish behaviour from your future inlaws.
Either he stands up for you now or it will only get wors... (read in full...)
I'm always giving him gifts, I know I need to stop to stay sane! How do I help our relationship?
Q. i haven't felt like my boyfriend appreciates all the things i do for him. And love doing for him, for example when shopping if i see something i know he would like i will get it for him , unless its to expensive unless he needs it. in the year we ...
A. 27 June 2012: Or even quietly bank what you once would have spent on him. As it accumulates talk about the big holiday you intend to go on.
Remind him that you are giving him exactly the same level of suppoert as he gives you on a daily basis ... (read in full...)
I'm always giving him gifts, I know I need to stop to stay sane! How do I help our relationship?
Q. i haven't felt like my boyfriend appreciates all the things i do for him. And love doing for him, for example when shopping if i see something i know he would like i will get it for him , unless its to expensive unless he needs it. in the year we ...
A. 27 June 2012: You love your guy too much
You give , give, give and give some more.
One day you will wonder how you created this guy who thinks it is normal to be showered with gifts.
You cannot buy his allegiance to you.
Your guy should want to do nice thing... (read in full...)
I'm the listening post the girls come to for advice. Why do they forget all about me after I'm kind to them?
Q. I am the guy that girls go to when they are starting to like a guy and they tell me and ask me for advice. When they get that all figured out and start going with the guy, they forget me and leave me in the dust and act like i don't exist. after ...
A. 27 June 2012: You are way too accomodating, kind, generous and willing to do their bidding. You freely give your advice and your wisdom. I am NOT suggesting you charge for your advice and counselling and wisdom and support.
But I am suggesting that you give too ... (read in full...)
My father abused me as a child, do I try to talk to my parents about it again?
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A. 27 June 2012: Whether it happened ONCE or MANY times it is still abuse.
You are way too hard on yourself.
Your therapist may even suggest that you do write that letter, but not send it until you are emotionally stronger.
And not until you stop blaming you... (read in full...)
How can a guy tell if his girlfriend is over her last long term relationship? What are the signs to look out for to see if she has fully moved on?
Q. how to tel if a woman is over her last long term relo? Got involved with new girl, we been togather 8 months now , previous to me she was in 4 year relationship. but just wondering what are the signs to see if she has fully moved on (without secr...
A. 27 June 2012: Hi
Yes you are thinking a little too much. Please do not dump your insecurities on her as I think it is too early. And the load you dump on her may scare her.
I think these trust issues are about you, not her.
Eight months is a good tim... (read in full...)
How do I help my bipolar husband realize he loves and misses me and his family?
Q. My husband is bipolar and has left his family including me (his wife) 3 children from me and 2 from his first marriage. He has taken off to another province to go to a friends. He says he is not coming back and he can't be with me anymore. He has a ...
A. 26 June 2012: i really feel for you. As he is not taking his meds all his words, thoughts, actions, decisions are distorted and affected by his lack of proper medication. So he is clutching at straws. His words are those of a man who is ill.
Try not to take his ... (read in full...)
He ended what I thought was a great relationship, what happened?
Q. Hello everyone I have a problem which i would like to see if anyone could shed some light on. I met a guy 8 months ago and we stayed in contact with each other for 8 months, he lived 4 hours away at the time but recently moved 1 hour away, so fr...
A. 26 June 2012: Hi Skeez I am so sorry that this is making you sad. Schedule some interesting uplifting enjoyable times in the next few weeks. Go walking, go swimming, get involved in a local community project. Do not be too eager to start to another relati... (read in full...)
He ended what I thought was a great relationship, what happened?
Q. Hello everyone I have a problem which i would like to see if anyone could shed some light on. I met a guy 8 months ago and we stayed in contact with each other for 8 months, he lived 4 hours away at the time but recently moved 1 hour away, so fr...
A. 26 June 2012: he is commitment phobic.
Yes he was in an unofficial Long Distance Relationship.
But I think he liked to think of it as a low key relationship where he did not have to see you every day. So you brightened him up on the few occasions you met face... (read in full...)
My father abused me as a child, do I try to talk to my parents about it again?
Q. I have a complicated situation. Without going into too much detail; my father sexually abused me as a child. I told my mother and together they shrugged it off saying I was lying / it was a dream. It was never spoken of again. Fast forward 1...
A. 26 June 2012: You are NOT jerk. But your Mother failed you.
You had your innocence taken by a Pedophile who just happened to be your father. your Mother is guilty by being complicit. She said nothing and supported your father instead of supporting you.
... (read in full...)
Know who you're with
Q. This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
A. 26 June 2012: Domestic violence is indeed a tragic outcome, often unexpected.
no matter what the problems a person is experiencing or feeling it hard to fathom how anyone can justify doing this to innocent children.
People who use domestic violence to intimida... (read in full...)
I feel like our relationship 70/30 and I'm giving the 70%
Q. My girlfriend takes me for granted and does not commit as much to the relationship. I feel like its 70/30 and I'm giving the 70%. She is very independent and I need more time and touch from her than she gives me. I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic and ...
A. 26 June 2012: It sounds that you and her have mis-matched love styles.
you want romantic dinners, dimmed candles, flowers, her making the effort to put on perfume and a sexy dress just for you.
you love giving compliments and receiving them.
You want hugs, s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend? Or my best male friend? Which one? How do I choose? Don't want to lose either man.
Q. Hello. So I’m completely confused. So I’m 18 and starting college this fall. And I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and one month. Well our relationship has been really rocky at times, but we always fix it. Well just last month he couldn’t...
A. 26 June 2012: You cannot keep both guys on a string. If you are interested in the other guy then he sounds a much better bet.
If you try to keep both guys then you may lose BOTH.
And your current guy can't stop flirting with other girls.
Let him do that. He is ... (read in full...)
How do I help my bipolar husband realize he loves and misses me and his family?
Q. My husband is bipolar and has left his family including me (his wife) 3 children from me and 2 from his first marriage. He has taken off to another province to go to a friends. He says he is not coming back and he can't be with me anymore. He has a ...
A. 26 June 2012: Oops I messed up one
here it is again:
http://www.ontario.cmha.ca/about_mental_health.asp?cID=7596
... (read in full...)
How do I help my bipolar husband realize he loves and misses me and his family?
Q. My husband is bipolar and has left his family including me (his wife) 3 children from me and 2 from his first marriage. He has taken off to another province to go to a friends. He says he is not coming back and he can't be with me anymore. He has a ...
A. 26 June 2012: Hi applejaxxx
Here are some links that you may find useful as most are Canada specific. The ones that are not may also provide you with useful information, because Schizophrenia exists across the whole world.
http://ww... (read in full...)
How do I help my bipolar husband realize he loves and misses me and his family?
Q. My husband is bipolar and has left his family including me (his wife) 3 children from me and 2 from his first marriage. He has taken off to another province to go to a friends. He says he is not coming back and he can't be with me anymore. He has a ...
A. 26 June 2012: Hi applejaxxx
No one will ever suggest it is easy trying to support a loved one suffering this cruel cruel illness.
Forgive yourself for your reactions.
I was lucky in that my parents in law gave me huge support to help me care for him.
All I... (read in full...)
How do I help my bipolar husband realize he loves and misses me and his family?
Q. My husband is bipolar and has left his family including me (his wife) 3 children from me and 2 from his first marriage. He has taken off to another province to go to a friends. He says he is not coming back and he can't be with me anymore. He has a ...
A. 26 June 2012: It sounds like you can been giving him all the compassion and love in the world. He needs that and truthfully he needs you too.
But he also takes things out on you and that is hard for you. But you are kind and loving and compassionate enough t... (read in full...)
How can a guy tell if his girlfriend is over her last long term relationship? What are the signs to look out for to see if she has fully moved on?
Q. how to tel if a woman is over her last long term relo? Got involved with new girl, we been togather 8 months now , previous to me she was in 4 year relationship. but just wondering what are the signs to see if she has fully moved on (without secr...
A. 25 June 2012: yes, you do need to Value You more highly. Get every ounce of pleasure and joy and delight from the relationship as if there is no tomorrow.
Even if she has the tiniest Skerrick of thinking about him, put it to the back of your mind.
OK some gir... (read in full...)
I've been helping my pregnant sister and she treats me like this?
Q. My life is in such a whirlwind, but i think my biggest thing is my family. My younger sister is currently pregnant and her boyfriend is a complete swine, he didnt even want the baby and i was the one that took the support role for her. I have h...
A. 25 June 2012: Your poor deluded sister is making unwise decisions just because "Daddy" to the new baby has suddenly wanted to return to the limelight.
And like a fool she has rolled over and done ALL his bidding because he's had a whim that he now wants to be i... (read in full...)
He asked me out but I am going away for a week ....
Q. So I met this guy the other night, he has asked me out but thing is I can't go out at all this week because I have already have plans... I am going to visit my friend in europe for a week and leave this friday, so I also have to get ready for that ...
A. 25 June 2012: Tell him that you are going to Europe - long booked and paid for - he will undersrtand. There is a lot to get ready in the lead up to a trip like this. So there really is not time for an outing.
If you know his address then surprise him with a post... (read in full...)
How do I let go of a sex only relationship of 4 years?
Q. hi I have been involved with this man for four years with no committment and he sees other women.There is no respet and the relationship is not going anywhere, just sex. How do I let go of the relationship without constantly going back....
A. 25 June 2012: Your belief in yourself must be low if you cannot see that going back to him over and over again is ruining everything.
Every time you allow yourself to be disrespected then he loses more respect for you too.
It is time to sign up for some couselli... (read in full...)
Why have the other girls not invited me to their Birthday celebration? Why would people do that?
Q. I live in an area where no one wishes any good luck or fortune on their neighbours. My family in particular is not liked because there is quiet a few of us and we all have our own vehicles and a thriving family business due to the fact that we work...
A. 25 June 2012: it is time for you to build friendships before you even think of your own birthday bash
Maybe you have been working so hard that you have not had time to build relationships.
It is not bad as such that you are, as you say, "I'm an independ... (read in full...)
How can a guy tell if his girlfriend is over her last long term relationship? What are the signs to look out for to see if she has fully moved on?
Q. how to tel if a woman is over her last long term relo? Got involved with new girl, we been togather 8 months now , previous to me she was in 4 year relationship. but just wondering what are the signs to see if she has fully moved on (without secr...
A. 25 June 2012: If she remembers his birthdays and their anniversaries or gets a little jaded and distracted when it is his birthday, the day they met, then she is still thinking of him.
If she still keeps photos of him in a folder on her laptop then he is stil... (read in full...)
My guys cum tastes bitter and salty, suggestions?
Q. I know I could google this and read a bunch of articles, but I need help. I've been the only girl that has successfully given my guy a bj EVER! He loves it and I love to please him. The thing is his cum tastes really bitter and salty. The last ...
A. 25 June 2012: Pineapple juice - serve it to him regularly.
Chunks of pineapple - serve it anytime you can.
It is his diet.
If he has garlic then temporarily remove this from his diet to see if this improves things.
It is possibly his preferred drinks and... (read in full...)
My brother's new girlfriend is flirting with me.....
Q. My brother started dating a new girl a few months ago. He met her through an online dating site. I don't know how serious he is about her as he just got out of a long-term relationship (he was engaged) prior to meeting her. Likewise, I don't kn...
A. 25 June 2012: She is flirting with you and yes it is inappropriate. I think she went way beyond just trying to be friendly towards you.
Do I think she will be faithful to your brother? No.
She should still be so interested in your brother that she is blind to... (read in full...)
How can I trust him when this has happened before? he received a text from a woman calling him 'babe'. He got defensive.
Q. Dear all. I was visiting my boyfriend today. We were having a good time until cell phone rang. The first time it rang he ignored it saying it was his friend who want him to go to a party so he's not interested. The phone rang again an there was a ...
A. 24 June 2012: be careful with this financial issue. Get your own legal advice immediately separately. He may flee -leaving you with a big SeXually acquired debt. Find out urgently if there is a cooling off period.
This is very serious. Legal advice is urge... (read in full...)
How can I trust him when this has happened before? he received a text from a woman calling him 'babe'. He got defensive.
Q. Dear all. I was visiting my boyfriend today. We were having a good time until cell phone rang. The first time it rang he ignored it saying it was his friend who want him to go to a party so he's not interested. The phone rang again an there was a ...
A. 24 June 2012: You are correct, it is a big strain on you if you find you love the wrong person.
And it is even worse if you love the wrong person TOO MUCH for your own good.
When Trust flies out the window the relationship can only start to go downhill from the... (read in full...)
How can I trust him when this has happened before? he received a text from a woman calling him 'babe'. He got defensive.
Q. Dear all. I was visiting my boyfriend today. We were having a good time until cell phone rang. The first time it rang he ignored it saying it was his friend who want him to go to a party so he's not interested. The phone rang again an there was a ...
A. 24 June 2012: This man is being dishonest with you.
he knew immediately WHO made that phone call to him on his cell phone. So he ignored it as he was with you.
Then the message. He refused to show it to you. And then he went into Defensive mode. Attack is th... (read in full...)
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