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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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Maybe I should just end the relationship!
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A. 5 February 2012: Alcoholism - the presence in the relationship changes everything.
if he is an alcoholic then that is a risk factor for you - it means he is not in full control of his life - and everthing he touches is instead hampered by his addiction to alcoh... (read in full...)
Does persistence become annoying?
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A. 5 February 2012: And yes, too much persistence becomes down right creepy. No means NO.
Real disinterest means NO
Go too far and she will tell all her friends about the persistent guy who will not give up despite her (far too subtle for you) hints.
So one last t... (read in full...)
Does persistence become annoying?
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A. 5 February 2012: Sounds like she likes a guy to be the persuer and perhaps thinks that if she has to contact you (despite you giving her your number) that it would be too forward (for her) to do that.
There are many girls who would happily contact first.
But t... (read in full...)
He says she's his soul mate. Do I go through with the divorce or wait?
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A. 5 February 2012: Starzy3 I am sorry to say that he is just a selfish shallow inconsiderate man.
Make a list of the character traits you do need in a man and a list of those you do not want.
honorable good men are out there.
Some of the honorable good men wil... (read in full...)
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A. 5 February 2012: Your body image may well be out of sync with the reality of who you are. I work with a stunning beautiful girl who does not think she is beautiful (100% of her co-workers think she is beautiful and she has brains and is an excellent worker.
y... (read in full...)
Terrible self-image -- is this normal?
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A. 5 February 2012: Your body image may well be out of sync with the reality of who you are. I work with a stunning beautiful girl who does not think she is beautiful (100% of her co-workers think she is beautiful and she has brains and is an excellent worker.
y... (read in full...)
He says she's his soul mate. Do I go through with the divorce or wait?
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A. 5 February 2012: Sadly this guy is a liar and a cheat.
not all men are like him and his new woman is the one who'll have to endure him now.
He has done you a favor. Gte the divorce moving along.
no matter who you thought this man was in the past, clearly no... (read in full...)
How do I respond to his text? he's a FRIEND who cut contact and avoided me earlier.
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A. 5 February 2012: Hi
Just reply in a cool light way. Keep it simple and happy. Just be happy to hear from me, with no recriminations at this point.
If you re-develop the trust then in time he may tell you.
It may not be about you at all. It may be his own indecuri... (read in full...)
Why aren't men ever content with just one woman, on dating sites?
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A. 5 February 2012: Good Follow up
You are absolutely correct.
Dating sites are about making money.
And although there would be people who successfully meet and have a long term relationship via a dating site I think the failure rate would be very high indeed.
I... (read in full...)
Why aren't men ever content with just one woman, on dating sites?
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Men are often very pragmatic and have no qualms in playing the field while they 'sample' what is on offer.
Instead, as men 'sample,' on the law of av... (read in full...)
What do I do when I made a mess of things?
Q. I have been pen pals with a chinese guy for 3 years . I am 19 and he is 23 and he came to my country 2 weeks ago to meet me this is his 6th time in a year he has came to see me. We had a really good time together and i spent a whole week with him. ...
A. 4 February 2012: This guy sounds as if he is well off and well connected that he can travel so often to your country so many times. Do you realize that China has a huge shortage of women? It is very hard for all men to find a wife.
Your friends sound racist and ... (read in full...)
Try for a relationship or stay friends?
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Because if you have been friends, successfully, for so long that is a good basis for a long term relationship. And liking and ... (read in full...)
I've not heard from him for 3 days , am I over- reacting?
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A. 2 February 2012: I am sorry you suffered a loser. At least he told you before he wasted 2 years or more of your life.
And I am sure there are men out there who love and enjoy more curvaceous woman.
Appreciate and Value you for your talents and how nice you are.... (read in full...)
I've not heard from him for 3 days , am I over- reacting?
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If you do not hear... (read in full...)
How to rebuff one and encourage the other
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A. 2 February 2012: I just realised that I did not list OPEN words. These are words that encourage the other person to talk
Start your question with an OPEN word, such as:
What made you decide to write your book?
How did you discover......
When you do that,... (read in full...)
How to rebuff one and encourage the other
Q. Hi everyone! I've been vexed lately. There's a guy who has been asking me out but I'm not interested in him at all! Every time he asks me out, I'd tell him I was busy/engaged and even feigned a fever once. I know it's wrong to lie to someone but I ...
A. 31 January 2012: With the first guy stop looking as if you are interested, as your reaction is sending the message that your stance is "not just now, as it is inconvenient, but maybe sometime later" - thus your own reactions to his approaches are giving him hope.
A... (read in full...)
He's 50, fit, separated and I want it to work. BUT? Can this relationship work better? How?
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A. 31 January 2012: He's fit and he's in his 50s and at the beginning it was exciting and he seemed the answer to all your dreams. He is no doubt good at telling you what you want to hear.
But does he deliver?
you are clearly unhappy.
The relationship is making yo... (read in full...)
What's your opinion of guys who flirt with their ex, while the guy is still IN a relationship?
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A. 30 January 2012: I totally agree that he should not be talking like that. If he does NOT want to speak respectfully to and about his Gf then why is he still with her?
Next time he starts speaking in a disrespectful manner about anyone, just terminate the conv... (read in full...)
What's your opinion of guys who flirt with their ex, while the guy is still IN a relationship?
Q. I just wanted everyone's opinion on this. I ask because my ex still flirts with me even though he's got a girlfriend. He's even said to me once how do I know if he ain't lying about being in a relationship, and that I should pretend that he's still ...
A. 30 January 2012: I totally agree that he should not be talking like that. If he does not want to speak respectfully ro and about his Gf then why is he still with her?
Next time he starts speaking in a disrespectful manner about anyone, just terminate the conv... (read in full...)
A cycle 18 days long?
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A. 30 January 2012: NO, it does not sound OK at all.
Please visit your doctor, as I think only a medical professional can solve this for you, accurately.
And it would be wrong of me to suggest any particular ailment, as several things could cause this.
I am... (read in full...)
What's your opinion of guys who flirt with their ex, while the guy is still IN a relationship?
Q. I just wanted everyone's opinion on this. I ask because my ex still flirts with me even though he's got a girlfriend. He's even said to me once how do I know if he ain't lying about being in a relationship, and that I should pretend that he's still ...
A. 29 January 2012: If he was just trying to see if he still can push your buttons (a male ego response) then he would not seek hours of advice,. Instead, sounds like he has a problem? I suggest that he is not happy in his current relationship, and is bei... (read in full...)
My ex seems like a new man. Is he interested in me again?
Q. I don't know what to do. My ex and I from two years ago have become closer recently we have been talking more face to face and we have also started bbming each other a bit. A few months after we broke up i had got completely over him and we thoug...
A. 29 January 2012: I have no idea why some guys do not say what they really mean. When in doubt look at a guy's Actions not his Words. Sometimes, when a guy is not willing to be honest about his feelings, (trying to protect his heart from being hurt), a guy wil... (read in full...)
He's my ex and he still checks me out all the time. Why does he do this still? His Gf hates me.
Q. My ex and I share a lot of history, we were best friends for a year and liked each other for a lot, a year after we hugged for the first time and hung out as well with friends. Few months later we had our first kiss and first sex and it was very pas...
A. 29 January 2012: This poor man has a serious ongoing crush on you and he is not Bf material for anyone else at the moment as he still misses you very much.
I can really understand why his Gf does not like you. Though she is focusing on the wrong person. It is no... (read in full...)
Why is my sister in law and friend is backstabbing and acting up to me as if I've wronged her
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A. 29 January 2012: You are very welcome.
I hope she gets bored with being nasty to you, eventually. Though often nasty people still stay bitter and twisted.
Regards
Abella... (read in full...)
My ex seems like a new man. Is he interested in me again?
Q. I don't know what to do. My ex and I from two years ago have become closer recently we have been talking more face to face and we have also started bbming each other a bit. A few months after we broke up i had got completely over him and we thoug...
A. 29 January 2012: Yes, I think he has actively tried to reformat himself so he can better appeal to you.
Now, as a new man, I think he is actively wooing you again. And it is working:)
Absolutely he IS INTERESTED in you.
If you are also interested in hi... (read in full...)
Maybe I should just end the relationship!
Q. Hello, I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 21. We have been doing a sort of open relationship for about the last 5 months. He has only been with one other girl and it was just a mindless hookup, dont care. In our particular arrangement, I told him I really ...
A. 29 January 2012: Your feelings for him have deepened since the start of the relationship and so this change has triggered your feelings of jealousy.
He may not be ready yet to give up on an open relationship, though he may consider it.
whereas I do not sense th... (read in full...)
Should I try and work this out or just move on?
Q. hello good people. this is my situation. ive been dating a guy for 8 months now. he's in the army and got deployed a month after we started dating. Our relationship had such strong chemistry that i decided to wait on him till h comes bak in june. ...
A. 29 January 2012: He sounds utterly contrite and he wants you to witness the divorce. It is sad if he is not seeing his adopted children very often.
I think you are special to him, and he wants to marry you and do the right thing by you.
But he should have been upf... (read in full...)
I just get turned off by his double checking the condom
Q. Hi everyone, I didnt know who else to bring this up with so thought i'd see what other people on here think... Basically my partner and I are in a very loving relationship. We both want children and plan to start trying in ...
A. 29 January 2012: This man is a card carrying over-fussy passion-killer devotee.
You are completely normal to be turned off by this over-anxiousness on his part.
Perhaps he is really special to you so you can tolerate a little over-anxiousness on his part.
... (read in full...)
He said it was a joke but it's still on my mind
Q. Please help me I'm struggling. So to make this short. I'm gay and I'm 18 I have a boyfriend who's 19 we have four months together. Do now about my issue. I went on my boyfriend Facebook without permission I loged on with his password and checked his ...
A. 29 January 2012: hi
It is a known fact that for macho, bravado and boasting reasons men often exaggerate how often, how long, how many interactions they have with sexual partners. It is not very mature behavior, but it happens. Guys who do it may even be a tad inse... (read in full...)
Why is my sister in law and friend is backstabbing and acting up to me as if I've wronged her
Q. ModNote: two almost identical questions combined. She (P) was my friend before i even met her brother, my now boyfriend. I also have a mutual girlfriend with P called (E) When i started dating her brother she would back stab me and stuff, sayin...
A. 29 January 2012: Of Course you have a perfect right to be upset by this nasty piece of work. You should not have to endure all the rubbish she is peddling. Attend family events, listen a lot. But do not engage her in converation for she is not worthy I think t... (read in full...)
Is he using me or...?
Q. I have been dating a younger man for approximately 6 months. He seems to be crazy about me and treats me like a queen around the house. His situation is as follows: he had a break-down approximately 1 year ago after he broke up with the mother ...
A. 27 January 2012: Yes, he has decided that you can afford him a better lifestyle than he can afford right now.
You help stretch out his money and allow his children to enjoy the spoils too.
Try splitting the cost of every outing to 50:50. AND try asking him t... (read in full...)
He showed me his scars, could he trust me as more than a friend?
Q. Hey, well I'm really into this guy, he's a friend of a friend and we've met a few times now an in those few times we've gotten on really well, we talk on Facebook all the time and I think he's flirting with me. I told him ages ago that I kinda ...
A. 27 January 2012: H,
He most certainly does trust you and he feels that you are a good person who can respect his privacy.
No doubt he has been through an earlier tough time. And he has probably made good use of counselling has been taking into account the ... (read in full...)
Was he flirting with me, and if so, how should I respond?
Q. I like this guy and i commented on his photo on facebook,saying it was nice,and he said " why thank you, m'lady ".Do you think he was flirting with me lol and how should i respond ?.I'd like to think of something funny/flirty to say back....
A. 26 January 2012: he was responding in a gentlemanly way - what was called in medieval times a few hundred years ago - a 'courtly' manner.
Sure he was very gently flirting with you.
But don't ruin your chances by pushing too hard back.
Respond in a 'friend' way... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty about how easily I hooked up. Am I the hypocrite now, after my own outrage at my Gf cheating?
Q. hey! so my gf of two and a half years cheated on me and it was terrible etc so i thought why not get back out there! so i got this girls number who i thought was pretty cute in a spur of the moment decision, Í'd never seen her before, but later th...
A. 26 January 2012: Pat yourself on the back anonymous_jp for recognizing that a One Night Stand achieves nothing - except - sometimes a nasty taste in the mouth.
And please forgive yourself for this lapse in judgement.
I realize that some people judge the... (read in full...)
Poor communication, a misunderstanding and so her friends abused me for being late. Should I be aggrieved with her since she was unsupportive to me re abuse by her friends?
Q. So this is my story. I have always wanted to be with this girl and finally, she agreed. We've been dating for a bit more than a year now. We got our ups and downs but all in all, it was pretty good, except for the fact that it was "just" "pret...
A. 26 January 2012: Her first loyalty should be to you in this relationship.
But instead she sided with her friends. This is not what a committed loyal girl friend would do.
I am perturbed that it was her brother who invited you, not your girlfriend. Did he do th... (read in full...)
Does he love me or does he not?
Q. so i went out with this guy last night.... it was a half blind date of sorts since i knew him but he didnt know me. I intitiated contact... i saw him, i liked him and i sent him an email i got from his friend... which he responded to...and then he ...
A. 26 January 2012: Hold back a little, Allow him to initiate something or he may start to feel overwhelmed.
Full marks that you had the confidence to start this one off. You have a serious Crush in progress right now. One does not know where this Crush will go. But ... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty about how easily I hooked up. Am I the hypocrite now, after my own outrage at my Gf cheating?
Q. hey! so my gf of two and a half years cheated on me and it was terrible etc so i thought why not get back out there! so i got this girls number who i thought was pretty cute in a spur of the moment decision, Í'd never seen her before, but later th...
A. 26 January 2012: Do not label yourself as the bad guy.
Instead look at it as a rare example of poor judgement.
It is not smart in a relationship to use 'pay-back' as a way to punish your partner.
Revenge in a relationship is never sweet. It poisons the rela... (read in full...)
Our living situation is getting to my wife. I endure her regular tantrums. Do I change our whole lifestyle and income due to her whim?
Q. I am 41 and I have been married to my wife for 19 years. We have no children. We bought this house in a large suburb (120K people) 10 years ago. It's near the mountains and we get a lot of wildlife. There are lots of trees, too, and you'd never know...
A. 26 January 2012: Jobs are hard to find. You have forged a good career and she is reaping the benefits.
Encourage your wife to explore her feelings with a therapist and get sound counselling. Some people who already have it all are very easily dis-satisfied.
Other... (read in full...)
People think he's perfect. Yet how do I cope with his secretiveness and fact he may be seeing escourts? He has excuses for everything.
Q. Hi, I'm married with two kids and have serious trust issues with my husband. We've been together for 12yrs and everyone who knows us thinks he's the perfect guy as he is a great father, helps around the house and is easy going. About 2 yrs ago I ...
A. 26 January 2012: First get some counselling for yourself to improve your ability to interact confidently with your husband and to assertively challenge him when he is possibly lying to you.
Then when you feel stronger encourage your husband to atennd couples ... (read in full...)
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