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female
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26-29,
*ont wanna say
writes:My boyfriend was great when we were friends but when we started going out he. Since then he's changed. He's started acting more aggresive, controlling, rude, ect. and when I wanted to talk to him about it, he broke up with me on Facebook and then begged for me to come back! Should I go back or should I dump him?
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reader, Abella +, writes (3 February 2011):
 he's not worthy of you. Be very very pleased that he has saved you the effort of breaking with him. Emotionally you broke up with him first. He saw the writing on the wall, and reacted by doing what he did.
He now has no idea of your true worth as a person. Nor has he your depth of character.
He's rude and aggressive. You are not like that
In a word he's just not your equal. You really can aim higher.
But first concentrate on getting really good grades. That will be one more way to demonstrate that he's just not up to your standard.
Now it's time to move forward.
Don't look bad. Don't dwell on the past. Nor go over and over what happened.
Be uplifted and happy that you can now enjoy your life witthout him in it.
Best wishes for the future
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female
reader, dollface1  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Ok his a total idiot, I mean only a coward breaks up with someone over facebook. don't be upset he did it for you, just move on and find someone better, plus now you have more time for yourself and less for an agressive idoit!
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female
reader, dont wanna say +, writes (3 February 2011):
dont wanna say is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for answering! i was going to break up with him at school today but last night he BROKE UP WITH M ON FACEBOOK! WHO DOES A THING LIKE THAT?! SERIOUSLY!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): Dump him. Every girl deserves to be treated like she means the world to someone, and it sounds like hes not treating you that way. Break up with him and dont go back. You deserve so much better!
xoxo
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reader, Abella +, writes (2 February 2011):
in how many languages can i say :
'yes, yes, yes, dump him'.
A man who has already shown that he has anger management issues is not the man for you. It's abuse to act aggressive to you. It can and will only get worse.
Such neurotic nasty abusers only get worse and worse. And will destroy your confidence.
You do deserve much better than this guy
My best wishes to you. But please get out now. Have someone else with you when you tell him it's over, as he could try to manipulate you and get nasty.
Stay safe. Find a good guy.
An aggressive guy will only get scarier over time. And your own safety is paramount.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 February 2011):
Not a chance. Stay away from him.
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female
reader, Blonde68 +, writes (2 February 2011):
What concerns me is that he is behaving like this at such a young age and it could get worse as he gets older if you allow it to continue.
People who control, are rude and aggressive, in my eyes have an issue that needs addressing. What is his home life like? If he was brought up in this kind of environment then he no doubts sees this as a normal way to behave towards women. Is he going through a stressful time at the moment? All these things are what you need to find out, because sometimes people tend to take their anger and stress out on the ones closest to them without realising that they are actually doing it.
Communication is the key... you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. But please, if he doesn't see that he has a problem then I would seriously reconsider your future with him.
Good luck!
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reader, dollface1 +, writes (2 February 2011):
Obviously this guy has issues.
don't go back move on, things will just eventually go back to the way it was before, people don't change over night!
I'm sure you wil find someone else, you don't need his crap in your life!
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