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writes:So, Im in the army, and oversea's at the moment.this woman that I chased for well over a year sentme a email saying she wanted to start "dating" meall of a suddenok, all good. yeah im down for that. Im over here doing the right thing, not cheating and what notWe both have reputations for being the partying type and going out and having a good time at a club / bar etc etc.. where both about 28 years old and still act like we are about 18. I know shes not the type to go out and get trashed and sleep with some random dude cause belive me, I tried for along time with limited sucsess.but...Her ex witch is also in the army and stationed about 2 hours away from her...she talks to him all the time and visits him pretty much every weekend, and I just found out they married for "finacial benifts" a couple months ago. she did tell me right away so it wasnt that much of a shock. people do it in the army all the time... hell, I've almost done it...she says they are just friends...I have a habit of being insecure, and I guess gullable when it comes to women and too trusting. should I just roll the dice and let it go, or what?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 February 2011):
 Nice, she already has her divorce planned out. I doubt this cheating army wife will ever make a good, honest housewife. Steer clear.
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reader, DrivenUnder +, writes (14 February 2011):
DrivenUnder is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys, i figured as much
she told me they planned on divorcing in 12, and kinda blew my mind when we joked about getting married and having kids
but made me uncomfortable when she heads down to see him...
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reader, DrivenUnder +, writes (14 February 2011):
DrivenUnder is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthx guys, she said they planned on divorceing in 12 and kinda blew my mind when she joked about us getting married and having kids...but that fact that she heads down there every weekend made me uncomfortable...
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (14 February 2011):
 Stop chasing her. She's married. End of story.....
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 February 2011):
Might I add I'm an army wife and I don't know any couples that have married for "financial benefit". I know army wives who have married high ranking men for the sheer fact that they don't have to work. Those women are gaining financial benefit.
The only way the soldiers would benefit financially around tax time if their spouse isn't working that way they can claim them as a dependent. Maybe the BAH, which still isn't that much depending upon the area you live in. Also during deployment. But remember the soldier is the one making the money, not the wife.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 February 2011):
Happy Valentine's Day to you!
I hate women like that, they give army wives the cheating stereotype. She may have married for financial benefits at the moment, but how is this "open" marriage gonna work when they both meet someone else and find out they should have married for love.
Honestly, I don't exactly believe her. If they were just friends, it's not necessary to talk to him all the time or to visit him every weekend. I'm sure there's more going on than just friendship, such as she has to earn her keep.
It's just not a good idea in general to date a married woman, it would still be considered as an affair. Not to mention you have insecurities, dating this woman would make them be in overdrive.
Let the married cheating army wife go, there will be plenty of women to choose from when you get back to the states.
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reader, Abella +, writes (14 February 2011):
 there can only be pain for you with this woman. She enters into marriage for financial benefits? And yet rushes to be with him when she can?
But keeps you as a backup/plan B? In case plan A does not work?
And how honorable and ethical is this girl that she can so lighly regard her marriage vows.
Yes there is an element of gullible in your response to her. Believe me you have not
hit the jackpot with this girl. Instead you
have landed the booby prize.
There are millions of lovely unattached and available women out there. Just hoping to meet a great, fun, unattached available kind caring man.
The world is your oyster. Go find your girl. And make sure she is not married, not in a relationship and not contemplating a relationship with anyone else but you.
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