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writes:I actually saw him BEFORE I got one the bus.. anyway, I was waiting for my bus yesterday when I noticed the person beside me smelled like cigars. (which I love) I looked at the person standing to my right and my heart started to race. He's probably 17-18. (1-2 years older than myself) To be honest most people might not find him very attractive. He wasn't very stylish either, but I actually like that. I couldn't stop glancing over at him. And every time I did it felt like my heart skipped a beat. A couple times when I would glance over at him I'd find him looking at me then casually look away, although it was probably just a coincidence that our eyes met. I can't stop thinking out his brown eyes. They looked.. distant and uneasy. not like anyones else. It's driving me crazy to think I won't see this person again, although he lives just down the street. What are the chances of that, right?Anyway, I think I just want to know if I happen to see him again I should do anything about this or not. I am quite shy so I'm not sure how I'd go about 'doing anything about this' , But I have a really strange feeling like I can't just let this go. It's really bothering me.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 have faith.
I can already visualise the smile you'll hardly be able to conceal when you see those brown eyes on him on the bus again. I'm crossing my fingers for you.
He lives down the street? So it is likely there are reasons he will be on that bus again.
If you had a dog I'd suggest you run the dog on a lead, with you, at the park nearest to your home and his home. Afterall if he lives down the street, and considering his age, then it's very likely he'll be in your neighborhood from time to time.
Besides I don't think all is lost yet.
There are 5 days out of 7 that you may be on that bus. Maybe as many as more than 200 days a year. There is a very strong chance that at least another few more days out of that 200 you and he will be on that bus together.
And in general over the next 365 days of this coming year your paths will cross. Or even over the next 5 years - that's another 1800+ more days when just maybe you may see him again.
He may well be the one. And it is very likely you will see him soon. Do you know anyone who lives near him? They might know his name. Or something about him?
And even if he is not the one?
There will be many more amazing guys who will cross your path. And several of them will have all the qualities of 'the one'. The idea that there is only one person for you in the world is a fallacy.
The real issue is to choose the best 'one' amongst all the 'this is the one' guys you will meet. And of course choose a 'this is the one' who you are certain will be able to be faithful to you, all your life.
So try to remain positive and hopeful that you will come across this guy again.
You would be surprised the effort an interested guy will go to, to make a connection with a girl who interests him. Sorry if you thought i was implying you personally were pushy. It was just one aspect to consider and factor in, amongst all the things that can go right or go wrong. When it comes to getting a guy interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not a pushy person, especially when it comes to things like this. and it's a city bus so their is a big chance we won't always take the same bus.
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reader, Abella +, writes (5 February 2011):
keep getting the bus around the same time. If he is really interested he will take the initiative. And think it was his idea..
A man likes to feel he thought of it, he initiated it, he pursued you, he will make it obvious by approaching you. And when you are pleasant, not pushy, then his confidence will soare. He will feel the thrill of convincing you to be interested in you. He will get a great lift when he feels it was all his own work, when he finally finds success and he will have achieved
what he sought to do.
When you try to fill his role and when you initiate the action that seems too pushy. You ruin the chase for the guy. Don't even sit next to him, even if there is a spare seat. Sit closer to the front of the bus so he can stare at the back of your head. Don't sit behind him as he'll miss too many opportunities to view you, at his own pace.
You make it too easy for the guy if you do too much of the leg work, all of which he should be doing..
So then the guy is denied most of the fun of the game.
Look good every time you get on that bus. Sit there sweetly and calmly. Don't make a big spectacle of yourself on the bus. Don't talk loudly nor be silly. (as i know happens on school buses sometimes!)
But never be overly eager In front of guys as it's not the way to find long term success with good guys.
Trust me, if he is interested you will get an approach.
Chivalry is not dead but only if you give the guys an opportunity to be chivalrous.
Chivalry is a guy's job. Let him find his chivalry legs. Don't try to shephard him into the role.
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