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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello. I was wondering if someone could tell me whether or not this guy is trying to make me jealous or if he's just either lost interest or never liked me in the first place.Things he's done to make me think he likes me;1) When he saw me his face lit up and he couldn't stop smiling. He was staring at me from a distance even though he was talking to someone else.2) He sometimes only says hello to me, and he says it different than to any one else.3) he stares at me til im uncomfortable.4) when we talk, he sometimes forgets what he was going to say and keeps looking at my lips.5) Teases me sometimes.6) Most of the time, if I look up at him, he has been looking at me. Once his head shot up really quickly like he had been looking at me but I'm not sure. I'm beginning to think I've been seeing things. The reason I think he doesn't like me is because sometimes he flat out ignores me, like i'm not even there. He'll acknowledge everyone but then avoid eye contact and not even say hello to me.I don't know if he likes me because upclose, when he knows I can see he makes obvious glances at this other girl but then I think, surely he can't be that smart to do that. Why would he look at her if he wasn't interested..and then there's no gurantee that I'd see him either unless he was aware I would notice it although I still catch his eye,and when I do, he seems to smirk.. but from a distance he seems focused only on me... and sometimes he seems really flirty with her and then looked over at me; maybe to see if I was looking? Then when I left he had stopped talking to her altogether. Im beginning to wonder if he likes her and not me and that maybe it was just wishful thinking and he never really liked me because he does see her alot more often than he sees me. Help? Is he trying to make me jealous? or does he like her? Thanks. :c I feel like an idiot right now. :/I should add that he is older than me. Alot older. Maybe he is insecure or unsure about my feelings for him? Ugh I don't know. :c
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reader, Y_v +, writes (5 June 2011):
I know this is an odd thing to suggest but have you tried doing the same thing? Do what he does to you and see. U should try it and look at him very closely to see if he shows signs of jealousy or anything. It might spark some sort of reaction.
I do see what Abella is saying that he might just be a womanizer and this his daily routine sorta thing but you never know unless you try. That is only if you really REALLY like him. For all you know is that he might be trying to make you jealous just to attract your attention :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): I think he is playing you, he is giving you mixed signals and trying to make you jealous to get a reaction from you.
OP if he were any kind of a man he would let you know, he would try talking to you and be only looking at you if you were in the room, even if he is shy he certainly wouldnt be trying to make you jealous.
Somebody that plays with your head like that has major issues, yes maybe he is insecure, but believe me this insecurity can lead to all sorts of problems down the line.
This is a red flag! You know how he is acting to get your attention, by making you jealous! He probably is interested in you, but for what? and for how long?
I would forget about this guy.
Good Luck.x
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reader, Abella  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 sadly I think he might be playing some games, though trying to determine how high is your level of interest. Possibly even a potential player.
If he was just a lovesick guy younger than you then perhaps he could like you.
But you said he was a lot older than you. So he's done this seduction routine many times before.
If he was more genuine in his feelings for you, and had the motivation to really interest you then he would have approached you by how, introduced himself to you, and asked you out. That is, assuming he is not already in a relationship and assuming there is no other impediment to forming a relationship.
An impediment for instance would be if he was already married or your teacher. Thus in those last two instances he would know he should not be flirting with you as it would be wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): Its hard to tell because if he likes you then he is going about it in a antogonising kind of way. Almost like he is playing you and trying to get in your head.
He must be an alpha male. Otherwise he would be less coy in this actions.
Play him at his own game. Do whatever he does to you twice as hard. this is put the ball in your court.
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