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writes:my boyfriend and i broke up three times and we got back together and for the last two times.We plan to see each other, then when the day comes he will call and make up something, that he cant come over.Then the last time he did this i got mad said some things that were mean. Never to hear from him again.What should i do? Should i wait for him, or just move on? if so how do i ? why is he doing this to me
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reader, synchrohobbit +, writes (29 November 2011):
 It actually sounds like both of you might need a maturity check. Since you have broken up so many times it must either be over little things, which would indicate you aren't compatible, or big things like cheating, which means one or both of you is not ready for a relationship. He is currently stringing you along, and you are expressing anger rather than disappointment in an adult conversation. It's possible you both just don't bring out the best in each other, so don't wait for the phone call and get back on your feet with a different person.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 November 2011):
 he does not care for you. canceling plans at the last minute over and over says that.
I think it's best if you move on.
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reader, Abella +, writes (29 November 2011):
 His behavior is very rude and he does not care enough about you.
A man in love will look forward to seeing you and certainly will not start distancing himself from you and disappointing you, UNLESS he is trying to distance himself from you as a prelude to breaking up.
He did not respect you enough when he was doing this. You had a right to get mad. we all get pushed to the limit at times. And he went too far one too many times. You were well within your rights to tell him what you thought of his rude behavior. He needed to hear some home truths.
And has he even contacted you say "sorry" (and mean it) since you did tell him the words he needed to hear?
It is time to take stock.
Think about what you need in a partner and what you expect. Do not put up with such cavallier actions ever again. If a guy agrees to or initiates a date and then reneges, then he does not care about you much (no matter what sweet talk he subjects you to once he does turn up). Further is really not that into you.
And does not crave your company.
But will turn up unless he can find something he likes more.
Do not waste your time on this loser guy. He was not meant to be "the one" for you. It is sad, but better to discover this now rather than later.
Start as you mean to go on.
And keep an eye out for a much more respectable guy for your next partner.
Don't settle for second best. And certainly do not sit around waiting for his call.
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