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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend a while back. I don't he is capable of being faithful to anyone. When we were breaking up I talked to a couple of mutual friends (then a couple) to try to understand what was happening. Anyway since then this couple have also broken up. Now the guy was so kind to me and I didn't feel anything for him then. I would not even consider a guy with another girl. But since they broke up the guy seems to find lots of reasons to stop and talk to me to see how I am doing. And I am starting to like him more and more. But I don't know if he is just being a kind friend or if he likes me. And I don't want to look stupid. He also used to be closer to my ex but they seem to have distanced from each other and I have no idea why. How can I start to get to know him to see if he likes me? I don't want to lose him as a friend if he is just being a friend with no more than that as any expectation. It feels like a bit of a delicate situation to me. Just as an update on my ex: my bossy exboyfriend seems to be playing the field now, I am well rid of my ex. I feel like I am ready to move on but it seems a bit of a step I am hesitating to make
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reader, Abella  +, writes (28 November 2011):
 I agree with the wisdom in Aunt Honesty's answer.
What if your ex and this guy become friends again? It will get tricky.
You are being drawn to him because this other guy was kind to you.
Get involved in more activities.
Develop friendhips outside your comfort zones.
Find out if there are clubs and groups in your neighborbood - some may be perfect and allow you to develop friendships in the community
Proximity is good, but a friend who is not as close to your former Guy may give you a better relationship in the end.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 November 2011):
 Well it is good that you are ready to move on, but do you really think that it is such a good idea to set your sights on someone who is friends with your ex. This might open a new can off worms and make things very awkward. If they used to be close well then usually it is a rule that friends just don't date other friends ex's. It is called respect.
If they where never really close friends well then maybe just take things as they come and see what happens. But if they where close friends I would highly recommend you looking else where because you don't want to cause any drama.
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