A
female
age
30-35,
*ofialoren
writes:Ive been on a date with this guy and we have kissed and stuff. He's been in touch and we text sometimes and he's a bit touchy feely when we meet in uni.Recently we have been messaging on Facebook and talked about the weekend. I said it would be nice to meet up at one point! He asked me around 5pm if I had any plans for the evening (Saturday). I said a little while later that I had nothing much planned and he didn't reply. He was online for a bit and ignored me!My mum (yes I asked her!) thinks that maybe it was too late in the day for him to ask me out and he's a decent guy and didn't want me to think he was just interested in my physically. I'm not sure. I'm very confused. He's been sending me signals that he's attracted to me and my friends can definitely feel something going on! Help!
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (22 January 2012):
Don't read to much into it. You may at this point expect more attention from him than he wants to give, and since you have only gone on one date, you really have not established what level of commmucation should exist in the relationship.
Since you have already broken through that first date, it is perfectly OK for you to ask him out now.
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reader, Abella +, writes (22 January 2012):
 I am wondering if he, when asking what you were doing that evening, he was really trying to find out if you were doing anything more interesting than he was facing?
The fact that he was still on line a little later seems to suggest that he was at a loose end and if you had said something he thought would be 'fun' then he might have invited himself to join you?
It is early days so far, and he may lack the confidence to make the next move. The fact that he appears to seek you at at Uni and is a bit touchy feely there, and your friends are seeing a 'spark' then that is hopeful.
Smile and be pleasant.
He is also contacting you on Facebook, so he is not ignoring you and he is not blocking you.
All seems hopeful.
If he is really serious he will make a move soon.
Observe from a guys actions, not his words.
His actions so far are tentative.
If you see him at lunch time at Uni then sidle up to him and ask, 'is any one sitting here?'
Then go on to ask him about his current favorite book he is reading or anything else that you think is relevant to choose as a subject for discussion.'
After that allow him to make the next move.
Some guys are fast movers
other guys like to weigh up everything very carefully - often observing you when you don't even realize they are. Perhaps he is a more cautious guy than usual
But he does seem like a gentleman so far. So fingers crossed for you
regards
Abella
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