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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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Should I ask out my coworker?
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A. 13 August 2012: I have never been a fan of office romances. Because too often the fall-out when such romances fail can divide the team.
Once two people enter into a relationship at wokr the tongues start chattering and petty allegations start being made that one ... (read in full...)
Why would he do this? Do I try to get him back? My Bf broke up with me as he failed a grade.
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But this may only be temporarily or held in check for a couple of years
Try to keep busy and do not go looking for another guy.
You are n... (read in full...)
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How do I tell him I used to self harm?
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you should already know if he is a non-judgemental guy or not. That is ... (read in full...)
Wanted to ask for her number but felt discouraged.
Q. There's this girl that I talk to from time to time. We have a few laughs here and there whenever I visit her department. I can really see myself getting into this girl. Yesterday morning while getting off from work, I saw her clocking in. I started ...
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Also remember that some girls get flustered easily. Especially is they have 'confidence in themselves' issues.
Just be the quiet gentleman and things might improve over time ... (read in full...)
His ex moved in next door to him and I think they are too friendly!
Q. iam having a bf who is my colleque, before we were just a friend and he was the 1st one who proposed me. after 1 month of proposal i answer him, we both were happy at 1st. but since his ex gf just moved into next door of his room,alots of problem ...
A. 11 August 2012: Ask him to please distance himself from her. And to be more formal with her, out of respect for you.
No doubt she has moved in for the specific reason of wanting to be close to him and wanting to break the two of you up.
If he still cannot see t... (read in full...)
Wanted to ask for her number but felt discouraged.
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For the guy to call out you were making it too obvious to everyone but you.
And yes, she did feel uncomfortable.
She comes to work to work. If you accidentally saw... (read in full...)
Should I get involved with a relationship or should I just stay focused on my career?
Q. i am 20 year old and not in a relationship.when i see committed people i also feel that i must have a gf.But i am not ready to get involve in a relationship with girl because first i wanted to build my career first. but i think many times in a day...
A. 11 August 2012: At twenty, if you want to focus on your career, to build some momentum in your career that is not a bad move. You may even find that you have a little extra time to focus on some additional studies or courses that could enhance your work skills even ... (read in full...)
He says I scare the hell out of him!
Q. What does it mean when the man your interested in says to you, "you scare the hell out of me"?...
A. 11 August 2012: You may be more assertive than he is used to. You may have more confidence than him. Or he may see your as feisty and a challenge. Or he may see you as a woman who will not put up with nonsence and so he knows that if he gets involved with you that ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is destroying my relationship with my friends, please help!
Q. Hello all, I am writing to you because I have encountered a problem with my, well, I guess he's my ex boyfriend, but I don't really consider him to be that really. I never really loved him, and he treated me so horribly that I don't believe he...
A. 11 August 2012: If you lose friends because they believe your manipulative abusive ex then they are weak and they are not true friends. However he may not be making as much headway with your friends as you think. They too may think he is the complete loser he ... (read in full...)
Why does he spend so much? Does he feel guilty for not loving me?
Q. Hi, I was always under the impression if a guy spends his money on you then his investing in a future. My boyfriend of 8.5 months is very generous books lovely holidays, hotels, takes me out to dinner etc but still hasn't said he loves me. His ev...
A. 11 August 2012: He certainly enjoys your company. And he is proud enough of you to share his time with you and his family there as well.
Perhaps he is not sure what love is. But from everything he is doing he most definitely does enjoy yuour company.
Some men ... (read in full...)
Any ideas for gifts?
Q. Need some ideas and advice!! By girlfriends birthday is coming up and it's a big one. She'll be 30! I want to get her something special but have no idea what! We are already planning to go on a little glamping holiday and will have a nice dinner ...
A. 11 August 2012: For going out in the evening you could purchase her a stunning evening bag. Either contemporary or vintage. There are an amazing array that I have seen on line.
For unique gifts go on to etsy.com
I would think that you do know her taste.
You ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my ex asking me for money?
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A. 11 August 2012: Your money is yours. What you do with your money or what you spend your money on is no one else's business but yours.
And you do not have to explain yourself. Where you go and how you spend your time is entirely up to you. You most certainl... (read in full...)
His Mother and sister interfere. Why does he allow it? Why isn't he sticking to our original plan?
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He is disrespecting you to even go ahead with the interview and playing into the manipulative hands of his sister.
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A. 9 August 2012: Well done Richard. I really hope you enjoy the Circuit classes if they have them - they are my favourite and many opportunities to say hi to people once you get to know them.
And if there is a class that seems to have an excess of girls then JOIN... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sloppy, controlling, rough and forceful sometimes. Would that be the reason I have lost all desire for sex with him?
Q. I'm 18 and been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year. The problem is I have lost my desire to have sex with him or any overall need to be intimate. My boyfriend and I decided to lose our virginity to each other a month ago and ev...
A. 9 August 2012: I cannot imagine anything less appealing than a guy who is sloppy, controlling, rough and sometimes forceful. That is a recipe for disaster and potentially an abusive relationship in the future.
You have probably suffered too much and too soon... (read in full...)
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Sit him down. Explain to him that if and Employer has multiple staff who are not happy with the boss then the guy is NOT a boss to consider... (read in full...)
Family? when? Am I destined to be alone and never know the joys of being a father?
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A. 9 August 2012: Shake out the cobwebs.
every day you are meeting your potential wife. In the convenience stores, in the supermarket. At the coffee shop. At the airport. A client. A neighbor.
How long since you went on a holiday where there are single avail... (read in full...)
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There is empathy and there is respect. On both sides.
There is even willingness ... (read in full...)
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A. 6 August 2012: Go for real people face to face.
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Everything he told me is a lie!
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Once he trust... (read in full...)
I want to show up to his house in something seductive!
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If he is genuine he will want to get to know you as a person.
A man can get sex from any willing female anytime he comes across a girl willing enough.
A genuine guy wants to know the real you as a person.
Turning up to... (read in full...)
Is it enough to want a divorce because my husband won't be intimate with me?
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A. 5 August 2012: You finance must stop making plans without involving you.
And it is your fiance who also has to find the strength to stand up to her for the sake of his relationship with you.
It is his choice.
Though no way do you have to be a doormat eith... (read in full...)
Everything he told me is a lie!
Q. I met a guy 7 months ago on a social networking site. He's younger than me by 5 years. We talk all the time, we have times where we lose contact. Which is usually when make plans to meet up and he flakes and leaves me hanging. Despite him doing ...
A. 4 August 2012: good point Candid Cally.
I hadn't even thought that he could have put someone else's picture as alleged to be him.
He may even idolize the said rapper but be nothing like him in real life.
Look at his actions, not the idealized view of him that ... (read in full...)
Any advice for a 44 year old virgin? I tried an escourt but had Erectile Dysfunction so she suggested a longer visit next time.
Q. I recently visited an escort agency to have sex for the first time at 44yrs of age but was unable to obtain an erection and nothing happened. Of course i was nervous even though the lady was very attractive, i booked for an hour. She suggeste...
A. 4 August 2012: Don't waste two hours with the escourt.
But yes, do consult your Doctor about your suitability to use Viagra. This is because for some men with risk factors it is not a good option.
But if you have no risk factors then Viagra will do the trick.
... (read in full...)
I really like him and am willing to take things slow but I thinks he's really close to ending things
Q. I met someone from online that I really clicked with. We got along really well, laughed alot etc. Each date seemed to get better. He has a career though where his schedule constantly changes and he is traveling. He will be away for 3 or 4 days, come ...
A. 4 August 2012: I think that is really good advice from A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2012)
You care and that shows. He is not emotionally ready to have that level of care in his life. Back away. Maybe he will change his mind one day. Maybe he will ... (read in full...)
A male friend told her everything I told him in confidence. How can I repair the awkwardness that has now developed between her and me?
Q. Hello, im a 16 year old guy and i have recently (3 weeks ago ish) met a girl who is 13 she is a great friend and we talk everyday. i was talking to a friend the other day who is a guy about her and he was laughing and said stuff like "you like her...
A. 4 August 2012: And I still think your male friend also likes her and that is why he was so disloyal. I think he wants to put her off you to give himself a better chance.
He obviously follows the "all fair in love and war" doctrine but I don't think he did a nice... (read in full...)
A male friend told her everything I told him in confidence. How can I repair the awkwardness that has now developed between her and me?
Q. Hello, im a 16 year old guy and i have recently (3 weeks ago ish) met a girl who is 13 she is a great friend and we talk everyday. i was talking to a friend the other day who is a guy about her and he was laughing and said stuff like "you like her...
A. 4 August 2012: Don't stress over it too much, but yes she felt insulted by your remark. You possibly meant little by that remark and said it tactlessly without thinking. Such things happen. Do not be so hard on yourself. But she read more meaning into what you ... (read in full...)
Everything he told me is a lie!
Q. I met a guy 7 months ago on a social networking site. He's younger than me by 5 years. We talk all the time, we have times where we lose contact. Which is usually when make plans to meet up and he flakes and leaves me hanging. Despite him doing ...
A. 4 August 2012: Maybe he just gets sick of false people going after him for who he is and what he has.
False people and people who just tell him what they think he wants to hear.
I imagine he has liked your honesty.
He wanted to see if someone could like him jus... (read in full...)
Excuse after excuse on why we cannot meet. How can I resolve this? excuses seem very genuine.
Q. my girlfriend lives about an hours drive away from me but neither of us drive. every weekend we make plans to meet with one of us taking the bus but every week she has something come up last minute. Like her family needs her help. Or she has the...
A. 4 August 2012: I am sorry to say this, but you are way too forgiving. I think there is something else happening here.
And I don't think getting accusatory or angry will help.
Next time you speak to her ask her to decide when she is well enough to receive ... (read in full...)
A male friend told her everything I told him in confidence. How can I repair the awkwardness that has now developed between her and me?
Q. Hello, im a 16 year old guy and i have recently (3 weeks ago ish) met a girl who is 13 she is a great friend and we talk everyday. i was talking to a friend the other day who is a guy about her and he was laughing and said stuff like "you like her...
A. 4 August 2012: Your other friend is no friend. I suggest that you stop trusting him. What he did was a hostile act. Ignore him, he is a loser.
Maybe he even likes the girl himself.
The girl no doubt is offended and yet you have no way of knowing if your "verbal... (read in full...)
Toe Nails uncut! How can I bring it up in a sensitive but firm manner that this is a major turn off for me?
Q. Hello everyone, I have one minor issue with my boyfriend... he is otherwise perfect and I am extremely attracted to him. He is a 10 to me inside and out, all except for the fact that he will not cut his toenails. His hygiene is excellent o...
A. 4 August 2012: Offer to give him a luxurious foot massage followed by a pedicure
Soak his feet, in nice warm water and give him the foot massage.
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He says he's never felt like this. Was he being territorial with the love bite? Jealous of my friend? Or moving too soon to make it official?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for a couple of weeks. We've seen each other most days... been on dates, I've been to his, met his parents. He goes out of his way to see me, treats me respectfully. We were in his bedroom, things were getting heated. He said ...
A. 2 August 2012: Yes he has feelings for you. He wants to cherish you. He wants no one else to take away the precious time he spends with you. Yes he wants to spend time with you. And he does not want to miss an opportunity to let others know that you and he are a... (read in full...)
How can I forget him? He lied to his ex, lied to me, cheated on me too.
Q. I'm dating this guy who is three years older than me. He has broken my heart several times buh he comes back apologising. Yet lately i was told he was using me to forget his previous girl and he lied about everything and all the promises he ...
A. 2 August 2012: I am so very glad this player has moved on. Heaven help the next few girls who have to suffer his duplicity. He will break hearts all his life until he finally finds a woman silly enough to believe his lies for the rest of her life.
You have been... (read in full...)
Virgin with extremely high sex drive but don't want premarital sex!
Q. i am 24 year old female and virgin. I have an extremely high sex drive. Yet, I am a virgin and I havent even had my first kiss. Yeah, I have masturbated, but that hasnt helped and I dont want to continue masturbating either. Personally, I dont think ...
A. 1 August 2012: And as an aside, in case you feel that I overstated the case about the need for you to be kept safe I will post a link below. http://www.unl.edu/rhames/courses/212/readings/honor-kil-ng.pdf This article explains the history and mind set that su... (read in full...)
Virgin with extremely high sex drive but don't want premarital sex!
Q. i am 24 year old female and virgin. I have an extremely high sex drive. Yet, I am a virgin and I havent even had my first kiss. Yeah, I have masturbated, but that hasnt helped and I dont want to continue masturbating either. Personally, I dont think ...
A. 1 August 2012: Your post shows the flag of Pakistan. It would seem, depending on the social standing of your family and the custom and practice in your country that there is only one solution.
Assuming that you live in Pakistan and that is your country of birt... (read in full...)
What in the world is going on with him?
Q. So this is what's going on: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 weeks. He already has told his parents he loves me, and has told me the same. I'm not sure if that is a good or a bad thing or if I should be worried about it. He's not ...
A. 1 August 2012: Hi malunaberry
what you are seeing is a man seriously and utterly besotted with you as the ONE.
When men feel like this they move fast to introduce you to family.
I even recall a man so adoring of his future wife that their FIRST ever date to... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend keep a stable job?
Q. How can I help my boyfriend, he hasn't been able to hold a job for longer than three to six months. He keeps getting let go and it seems to me for the most ridiculous reasons, such as talking too much and too loudly.I've been with him for about a ...
A. 1 August 2012: Hi
this is very kind that you want to help him solve his problem. But ultimately it is his problem.
He can still be a sweet kind loving guy, but if his emotional intelligence is not at the level it needs to be and if his empathy is zilch with his... (read in full...)
Another crush on teacher...?
Q. Story about this is kinda complicated so it's the best to start from the beginning: I met him on my first day of high school. He introduced himself as our physics teacher for next 4 years. In that time never even came to my mind that I will ever...
A. 1 August 2012: hi
You sound intelligent, aware, and you already have a range of interests. You have identified the issues confronting you. And you know what you want. As a result you are in reach of your goal to 'wash that guy right out of your hair'.
You are i... (read in full...)
Another crush on teacher...?
Q. Story about this is kinda complicated so it's the best to start from the beginning: I met him on my first day of high school. He introduced himself as our physics teacher for next 4 years. In that time never even came to my mind that I will ever...
A. 31 July 2012: You need some wholesome distractions because things like this fester when you have too much time on your hands.
Distractions or projects are something new that you focus on to learn that are outside your usual sphere.
#Think new skills - lea... (read in full...)
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