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*anguine303
writes:i am 20 year old and not in a relationship.when i see committed people i also feel that i must have a gf.But i am not ready to get involve in a relationship with girl because first i wanted to build my career first.but i think many times in a day that i also should have a girlfriend. so should i avoid my feelings and focus on my career or move a step forward to be involved in a relationship with someone. your advice and opinions will be helpful. Reply to this Question
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 I think you should focus on what you want. There is no law that says you have to have a girlfriend at any age. Plus, if you aren't ready to have one and get one, you are going to be selling the girl short because you are not going to want to give her the time she wants and deserves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2012): You have many shots to get a woman but you have only one shot to become a man. Don't get distracted by the dating scene. Establish yourself by succeeding in your career. Believe me, by the time you become someone in your profession, women will literally chase you. Also, don't be concerned about age. Remember, the older you get, the greater the range of women you can choose from. You're only 20 which means the range is only between 18 to 20. If you're 30 the range is between 18 to 29. So don't stress over this temporary stuff. Work hard, enjoy your single life, travel, become the best in your profession, invest in shares, buy a house & car & see all these women come crawling to you. By then you'll be wise & mature enough to know & select the right kind of woman to settle down with. Cheers.
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reader, Abella +, writes (11 August 2012):
 At twenty, if you want to focus on your career, to build some momentum in your career that is not a bad move. You may even find that you have a little extra time to focus on some additional studies or courses that could enhance your work skills even more.
You will gain more confidence and career advancement. And eventually when you do meet some nice girls and eventually decide on one as the most special girl (who you may want to settle down with) then you will be able to offer her more materially.
However if you feel you can find the time and the motivation to occasionally date some girls, before you are ready to settle down into a permanent relationship with a girl then that is up to you entirely.
But if one girl really wants you to settle down, and you are not then yet ready to settle down, then some hearts may be broken.
At age 20 I do not think it is the wrong thing for a man to concentrate on his career.
But whether you are in a relatioship or not please still keep physically healthy with regular exercise and healthy living.
Do not get stuck in a rut - so keep interested in current affairs and what is happening in your community.
Keep a positive mind and read widely. You will be better for doing these things in the long run.
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