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xTheAlmightyDuckx
writes:Basically i find these days that people either are extreamly hypocritcal where they think everyone has something wrong with them except them, or people have very low self esteem (including myself). I have learnt in the last year that people should be able to have things that they love about themselfs, and flaws , and i think that most importantly they should be able to admit it! So i did this little exercise in therpay a while back, and i would personally like people to either leave some feed back explaining there own top 7! or just try it at home as it can really make you think and just kind of give you an insight to yourself. I was told in therepy to write down seven good things about myself, i could only get down 3 at first, so my therepist told me to work on the list untill i got seven. So i did, i really thought about what i was good at and i used positive affirmations to help me realize i wasn't as bad as i thought i was. Once i did get down seven things, she then told me to write down 7 flaws i had, and be brutally honest. I managed to write them too, and they made me think about how i act and it gave me different things to improve on. So i want you to write down seven things you love about yourself and seven flaws you have :).My seven flaws.I moan too much.I get side tracked easily.I am the worlds biggest procrastinater.|I can be real big headed at times.I swear too much.I have a bad temper.I can get real grumpy at times.My seven things i love about myself.I'm mature for my age.I'm open minded.I'm unique.I have a good sense of humour.I come up with great ideas.I'm friendly.I'm crazy most the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2014): hey, just found this article on your advice column. kinda late to comment on it i know, but oh well. so the first thing i love about myself is that i'm calm. even on big things, i can keep it together. most of the time. 2. i can sing, and write songs. in fact this year, i've written 52 songs already. last year i only managed 10, and the year befor 23. 3. i don't take afencive comments to heart, 'cos i believe in honesty, and sometimes, the truth isn't too nice. 4. i think it's great that i'm confident in the things i do. and being confident makes me more approachable, 'cos i'm really open, and being approachable means more friends. )i have a great amount of friends.) 5. unlike a lot of my friends, i don't have bad attitude against my parents, because i know that whatever they do its for my own good, and i can't really argue with that, because there are people out there without any parents. that leads to number 6. i think i'm quite greatful, because i consider others' feelings even strangers who i don't and probably won't ever know. i'm not sure about number 7. maybe that i'm smart, and apparently, "cool" at the same time. so i'm the teafers' pet, but then i'm treated like some sort of, well don't know really, but a lot of people respect me. and now for the things i don't like. i can think of a lot.1. well, i can't keep my mouth shut for starters. i can't help give opinions, even when its not the right time to give them; even when they're a bit mean, but not quite. i'm not a bully, i've experienced being bullied quite a lot in the past. i was teased that my hair was too long. people called me a witch because of my long hair, and apparently, i was too nice, they thought it was an act. they thought i was evil. that really hurt, because i know i'm not a witch. they said sorry afterwards. 2. i don't like how short my hair is. it would be waaayyy longer, but those bullies told me to cut it or they'd pull it out. i was so scared i got a pair of scisorrs and cut most of it off. i got in to trouble. 3. i hate the way i let a crush or a bf get on top of my mind. 4. i hate being really gullible. i believe that people take advantage of me. 5. i don't like how i say things and then end up humiliating myself. 6. i hate being weak, and not being able to stand up to those who don't like me. or are just taking advantage of me.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (21 December 2011):
 There's more flaws than strengths with me, but I want to try this.
Flaws:
1)easily irritated, angered, impatient.
2) unable to connect with my parents and other family(my own problem)
3)such a procrastinator
4)hate when people compliment me on my looks because I fail to believe them
5)somewhat shy and introverted towards people I should be totally comfortable with
6)lazy/overweight
7)pessimistic and judgemental
Strengths:
1)smart
2)talented in many things
3)trustworthy
I'll think of some more strengths and repost them later cause this is all I can say about myself right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2011): Seeing as CindyCares said most of mine I'm going to copy and paste with a couple of alterations.
Strengths:
1) I am self confident
2) I am intelligent
3) I am powerful (physically, mentally, emotionally)
4) I am reliable
5) I have a good sense of humour
6) I am resilient
7) I am brutally honest (If you want the truth I will give it you, no matter how harsh or painful, don't want to know don't ask because I never learned to filter what I say)
Faults :
1) I am laaaazy and I always procrastinate
2) I am overprotective (sometimes)
3) I am argumentative
4) I am unforgiving
5) I am judgemental
6) I am cynical
7) I am brutally honest (not everyone can handle it and think I'm asshole for not watering things down. It upsets and hurts people.)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 December 2011):
 Only 7 things I like about myself ???Lol..:
I guess this could be strength number one :
1) I am self confident
2) I am intelligent
3 ) I am educated
4 ) I am generous
5 ) I have a good sense of humour
6 ) I am resilient
7)) I am talented
Faults :
1) I am laaaazy and I always procrastinate
2) I am vain
3 ) I spend too much and can't stick to a budget
4) I am impulsive
5) I am judgemental ( some times )
6) I am over my ideal weight
7 ) I am having big trouble completing this list... and this must mean something bad ,doesn't it :)
Anyway , dear Almighty, this exercise may be therapeutically correct... but it's metaphysically incorrect. In spiritual terms. Because the trick would be to love and accept yourself exactly as you are- just because YOU ARE , not because you are more or less good at something. The same way a mom loves her baby even if he cries a lot and poops all day. The same way a God , for those who believe in any divinity , would love you . Because you are you. The one, and only , and irreplaceable Almighty Duck :)
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reader, Abella +, writes (20 December 2011):
 And Christmas Best Wishes to xTheAlmightyDuckx
Because I've missed seeing your posts since 6 December. I hope that means you are just busy wrapping Christmas presents. And have not fotgotten your fans on DearCupid?
whatever you are doing, you brighten my day when I read your delightful posts.
Hope you have a Happy New Year too
Abella
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (10 December 2011):
 This is an interesting exercise!
Ok lets see now...Flaws:
1.)Worry too much
2.)I Come across as cold to people who don't know me
3.)Impatient
4.)Cynical
5.)Irritable
6.)Over react to the smallest things
7.)Very rigid in my views
Strengths:
1.)Intelligent
2.)Really good at my chosen field of work
3.)Caring
4.)a COMPLETE family person, my parents mean everything to me so do family values
5.)Observant
6.)Helpful
7.)Reliable
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reader, Abella +, writes (10 December 2011):
I am a good ideas person. My sense of color is good. I like my very tiny wrists. I must be doing something right to still have as close friends people I have known since I was 4. I am a good Mom. I am told I am a good wife. I am observant.
versus
I leave my books around too many places. I wish I could be tidier with books and read one book at a time but I often have 4 - 5 books I am reading in bits at the same time. I procrastinate. And talk too much - fortunately my guy does too. I do not cope well with nasty people. Sometimes I worry too much about the ones I love and then I feel silly that I over-reacted. Wish I could be more succinct but I think of too many variables. Sometimes I have trouble sleeping and wish I could sleep in one longer unbroken stretch.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (7 December 2011):
 --Flaws (only 7?)---
- I can be real bitchy at times.
- I stress out way too much.
- I have adult acne at freaking 26 (soon to be 27).
- Often way too pessimistic.
- Stubborn
- I let my anxiety get the best of me.
- Argumentative
--Strengths--
- I'm a good wife (so my husband says).
- Ambitious
- Caring
- Great listener
- Realist
- Diligent
- Intelligent
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reader, Odds +, writes (6 December 2011):
 Flaws: I'm cynical, cocky, argumentative, inflexible, nerdy, judgmental, and I drink too much.
Strengths: I'm realistic, confident, outspoken, reliable, well-read, proud of my convictions, and I'm a good drinking buddy.
It's all in how you look at things.
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