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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi,This is a pretty long, confusing story so I will try to keep it as short and to the point as possible. I was "seeing" (we didn't sleep together) this guy a few years ago, we had a connection but I really wasn't ready for anything and he is a player. I was going through a tough time back then and liked a bit of a drink and that kind of ruined things. I abused him a few times and would get drunk and ring him etc. Obviously it wore pretty thin and we went our seperate ways.Anyway just the other day I put my old memory card in my phone and his number came up. So thought I would send him a message to see how he is going, he replied and said he was good and asked what i had been up to. I mentioned i had moved etc and kind of hinted that he should come try the "water" at our new locat pub. He said whats a good night and I mentioned a couple and he was like they sound like good choices it kind of went on like that, him wanting me to invite him straight out, but I didn't it ended with me saying "ok ill leave you alone now, goodnight and sweet dreams" and he said "Ok, thanks, goodnight and sweet dreams to you too". Now I would really like to catch up with him again and kind of apologise for what happend back in the day and see if we still have a connection. But not sure whether I should just leave him now and see if he contacts me....
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2011): Thank you for that advice!!!! I think I will just play it cool. I suppose I thought since he is almost 32 he would be kind of over the player ways...but I suppose they never are, are they?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (13 December 2011):
 If he was a player when you knew him earlier then he is likely to be even more practised at being a player now.
You run the risk of him cynically regarding you as a really 'sure thing' for him. But that certainly does not mean he would feel bound to regard it as a permanent relationship, if he still likes to play the field.
Well done that you left it up to him to invite you. Let him pursue you. Don't lift a finger. And don't hang out in that place. This time play Cool. If he is truly serious he will find you.
But if he really is still a player, or an even more of a player, then it's times like this I reach for an article or two from AnonymousMale1.
Articles by AnonymousMale1 were among the first articles I ever read on the DearCupid.org site. And these articles by a Wonderful Uncle on DC continue to inpsire me. And continue to be useful in many situations.
Below are just three really great articles from AnonymousMale1, who has penned an array of wise good articles.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/10-situations-that-scream-hes-a-player.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/10-things-that-women-should-never-allow-any.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/10-things-to-help-you-get-over-a.html
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