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writes:Last night i went to a Christmas party with a group of my friends (about 4 girls and 2 guys). We went to a movie at the theater and then to a girl's house and played games and such.My boyfriend (ex now) knew what we were doing because i told him. But he called me at like 3 in the morning yelling at me because i "went on a date with my ex" who happened to be at the party. I tried to explain to him that we went as a group and it wasn't a date, and he replied that texting guys was fine, but if i went out in public with them it was a date. After that he dumped me because i was dating other guys while i was with him.So basically he told me i could text other guys, but i can't hang out with them. Is he over reacting, or did i do something wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2011): You did not cheat and did not go on a date. But I would also be upset, and would feel uncomfortable with what you did if I were your BF. Assuming you did not discuss this with your now-Ex bf, if it is totally ok for him if you would go out with your EX (even in a group). These things should be discussed, you should have considered the feelings of your bf if you loved him.I understand why he dumped you, but I don't think it's a good enough reason, maybe he should have given you another chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2011): is that fair? who cares if it's "fair"? who ever said that relationships were "fair"? whether or not his reason for dumping you was fair, you got dumped. it's not a democratic thing. you can't argue your way out of it by pointing out that it's not fair. whatever his reasons are for dumping you,(and there's probably a lot more to it than the outing thing where your ex was), you are now dumped. go cry and then find someone new.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2011): Thank you guys so much (: I just wanted to make sure I wasnt the one over reacting. After all, I had no intentions of doing anything with my ex and nothing happened.
But yes, he was drunk when he called me, and he wouldn't listen to anything I said. And I heard all he did that night was tell everyone I was a cheating whore. So I think I'm done with him.
Thanks for your answers (:
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (11 December 2011):
 You did nothing wrong, your (now ex) boyfriend should be left as an ex! You were not on a date, you were in a group, he knew what you were doing and you did nothing wrong. Did you have ulterior motives towards your ex or anything? It doesn't sound like you did.
If he doesn't come to his senses, realize he was wrong and beg for you back, I'd leave him as an ex. He completely overreacted!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2011): Truthfully, you were disrespectful to go out with your ex BF without your current BF. Just not cool. It looks bad, even if it's innocent. And causes jealousy and heartache all around. Tell your recent ex that you didn't consider his feelings fully (if you want him back), and that it wasn't on purpose. Imagine how you would feel if the situation was reversed?? Another example, my (now ex) GF was friends with her ex BF. We had a fight one night and broke up. The ex BF was there that night having sex with her. We did get back together, but it was never the same, and we eventually broke up for good. Keep ex BFs at a distant when you are dating someone new. It's just plain courtesy.
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reader, Abella +, writes (11 December 2011):
 I am so very very sorry you had to endure this. You did Nothing Wrong. Nothing at all.
But, oh dear, your ex is a dummy spitting un-evolved rude boy.
You told him you were going and it was a group.
You were mature enough to go on a group date and were not be freaked out because your former earlier ex happened to be there.
Your (just) ex was rude and disrespectful to contact you at that time. Three AM ? Was he drunk when he did that?
You were NOT on a date
Your ex was an ignoramus to react as a jealous control freak. Perhaps he did you a favor if you were not aware of how mean he could be? But that does not alter the fact that he was mean and out of order to break up the way he did.
He might phone you to apologize, but I
would not think so
My best wish es to you for better times in the new year.
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