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female
age
41-50,
*urt feelings
writes:i haven't felt like my boyfriend appreciates all the things i do for him. And love doing for him, for example when shopping if i see something i know he would like i will get it for him , unless its to expensive unless he needs it. in the year we have been together i can count on my fingers the times he has actually got me a gift, never on my b-day or a holiday. i always am giving him gifts holiday or not. i know i need to stop in order to stay sane! he has picked me flowers out of peoples yards from time to time. i try talking to him about how i feel and am then told i like to cause drama. we have never came to any kind of resolve. i just feel trapped now. what can i do to help our relationship?
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reader, Abella +, writes (27 June 2012):
 Or even quietly bank what you once would have spent on him. As it accumulates talk about the big holiday you intend to go on.
Remind him that you are giving him exactly the same level of suppoert as he gives you on a daily basis
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reader, Abella +, writes (27 June 2012):
You love your guy too much
You give , give, give and give some more.
One day you will wonder how you created this guy who thinks it is normal to be showered with gifts.
You cannot buy his allegiance to you.
Your guy should want to do nice things for you too.
But your guy is treating you very poorly.
if he is in your age bracket then he doubly cheap as he would not be earning base level teenagers salary levels.
Stolen flowers? Give me strength - I call that loser behaviour indeed.
He forgets to buy you a present for key events
Close the purse. You are a person, not a purse.
You want to buy something for him? If you have the money to spare then please spend it on you.
Come home empty handed.
And if he dares to buy you a truly horrible cheap present then tactfuly decline to accept the item. Educate him on what IS a worthwhile present.
Tell him to grow his own flowers, which would be preferable to stolen ones
Expect him to not enjoy it at first.
But if he keeps on ignoring your good nature and whingeing about hard done by he is then remind him that you are giving back to the same level as you give on a daily basis
Best Wishes
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