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writes:So I met this guy the other night, he has asked me out but thing is I can't go out at all this week because I have already have plans... I am going to visit my friend in europe for a week and leave this friday, so I also have to get ready for that since stupidly I do everything last minute.I know you're probably thinking there must be some time when I can go out with him, but the only evening I have free is the one before I leave for europe and I want that evening to sort everything and get an early night since I fly out in the morning. I don't want the guy to think i'm trying to get rid of him, but It'll be me saying 'oh i want to go out, but can we make it for two weeks from now'.... what is the chance of him being like 'sure that's fine, we'll go out when you're back'.. What do you think? I don't know what to say, or whether we should even follow it up, as given that i won't see him this week, or even next he may meet someone else in that time and no longer be interested? Reply to this Question
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reader, lovedontrun  +, writes (25 June 2012):
 just schedule the date for when you get back! if he's worth dealing with at all, he's not going to get upset about having to wait. and if he's really interested in you, then it's pretty unlikely that he's going to find anyone else while you're gone.
if you're going to have internet access in europe (and if not, then get his mailing address), why not drop him a few lines to let him know that you can't wait to see him when you get back?
personally, i think waiting until after your trip will make the date even more funn. after all, you're sure to have lots of interesting things to talk about over dinner. ")
good luck, and God bless,
~sarah~
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (25 June 2012):
Simple: arrange a date for when you are free. Explain that, unfortunately, you’re going to be busy for the next couple of weeks, but that you’d like very much to go out after that. Maybe you could arrange a date now for a time of both of your convenience, well in advance. That way, he knows that you are genuinely interested and that it’s not an excuse to politely turn him down. You’re over-thinking this. If he’s a decent guy he’ll understand, and it’s only for a short time anyway. If he does lose interest that quickly, he’s not worth bothering with anyway and you’ll have had a lucky escape.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Abella +, writes (25 June 2012):
 Tell him that you are going to Europe - long booked and paid for - he will undersrtand. There is a lot to get ready in the lead up to a trip like this. So there really is not time for an outing.
If you know his address then surprise him with a postcard from Europe posted while you are away. You do know his address?
And mention that you would like to catch up when you get back from Europe.
One week?
If he is keen he will be happy to see you when you get back.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 June 2012):
 Personally, it's good to be busy.
So you tell him, "I'd love to but I'm booked solid till my vacation and then I'll be gone till XX/XX (the date you return). Gee the timing sucks... can we make plans for XX/XX ?" (the date after you return that you would be up to a date).
If he meets someone else while you're gone, oh well then he wasn't that interested in you...
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