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writes:Okay, I'm going to make this as short as possible.A few weeks ago, I was going to ask a girl out on a date. We've know each other for a while now, and we talk almost every day. We are both very close friends. So when I found her alone by her locker, I figured I would ask. I walked up to her, and just before I was about to ask her... another guy asks her out right in front of me.She said yes.And that was it. For almost 4 years I was building up the confidence to ask her out on a date. Almost 4 years of my life, wasted...We hardly talk anymore, and I just can't stop thinking about her. I know she's gone, but for some reason I can't move on in my life...I just feel so lost. So now I'm here asking you guys (and girls). What do I do now!?Any answer would be nice. I just need someone to give their opinion.Thanks.-G
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2012): Chances are if you guys were really good friends for 4 years...she'd prolly only see you as a friend, since you never made any moves to get with her. :( Take this as a learning expeirence, there's always the chance of getting turned down, but if you don't take the chance, you'll never know.
Tip: Being a girl's friend to try to eventually go out with her hardly ever works out. Don't be friend-zoned, and make it known how you feel!
Wish you the best of luck, and future success~
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 February 2012):
 She got asked out on a date and why does that mean she's now gone? You are entitled to ask her to a date even though other guys also ask her. And her dating another guy doesn't mean she'll be in a relationship with that guy.
With every experience you will learn, like others said. You just got to keep putting yourself out there. Next time you want to ask a girl out you wont use 4 years to ask her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2012): I think you should at least give her a call and see how she is doing. Kind of feel her out to see if she is dating anybody. If not, go for it. If so, then just chat a while and catch up on things. End the call with "please keep in touch". That way if she breaks up with the guy she may be going with now, she'll remember what you said and give you a call. Good luck!
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reader, Abella +, writes (6 February 2012):
 With every potential or actual relationship we learn and grow a little more. Girls love confidence.
Never be apologetic nor hesitant. If you were in charge of sales you would know that for every 100 approaches you will achieve some successes. It's a numbers game.
And know your strengths, and work on building more emotional strength within you to increase your resilience to the 'real-life' task of dating.
Time is on your side.
Build up your skills and know who you are looking for.
To do that start thinking beyond just her physical 'look' and instead focus on the character traits you admire in a girl. Knowing what you want makes it easier to spot the 'real deal' when you see her.
Though remember girls and guys in your age group are still growing and developing to become the adult. So a girl at 14 is likely to develop into a more competent assertive lady by the time she is 24.
You too will grow and develop. So think about the qualities you have now, and which qualities you would like to develop more and what other skills you need to have to go forth into the world.
And get through school and go on to have a good career AND attract the ladies, before you later settle down.
Being a good listener is always a plus.
Asking open questions : questions that start with 'what' 'how' 'when'
Smelling clean, fresh and hair well looked after are a plus with ladies
Being positive, and not worried, not too intense - these things help.
Keep active and fit. Walk the dog = great way to talk to girls.
Best of luck
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reader, N91  +, writes (6 February 2012):
 I know it's hard to take mate, been there myself. Just pick yourself up best you can and move on, start talking to other girls to form new friendships and maybe even relationships.
At some point in everybodys life, there's a person that you think is 'the one' and they're all you can think about and you can't take your mind off them, but you know what? If it was, you'd be together with them. It can take a long time to heal, I personally fell for a girl and it took me about 4 months to fully get over her and it's all in the past now.
Just keep your chin up, enjoy time with your mates, girls come and go, but you'll find the one for you some day.
Hope this helps.
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