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writes:Simply put.. when does persistence become annoying? i had class with this girl and on the last day gave her my number but nothing came of it. We talked the other day and I mentioned that she never texted me. She laughed and such but still no text. I feel like I should make one more effort since I haven't been in her face annoying her about it. Do you field a guy who goes hard for what he wanted if he isn't annoying?when is it time to give up?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 February 2012):
 I think next time, ask for her number, that way she won't have to make the first move, I think Auntie Abella is right, that many girls don't want to be the one to take the first initiative.
Now if you ask for her number and get a giggle or a laughter, it is a no.
Live and learn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the help u guys. i already decided before aksing this that i was gonna give it one more serious effort. i just wanted to be sure that it wouldnt be creepy. next time i see her im just gonna tell her that i wanna hang out and get her number
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012): OK as a guy, you need to step up your game. From what you given me "i had class with this girl and on the last day gave her my number but nothing came of it. We talked the other day and I mentioned that she never texted me." Your pursuing her halfheartedly and lacking confidence in yourself. If you try again, a third time, with the same effort as the previous two attempts, your gonna get the same end result "She laughed and such but still no text." Go with Abella's advice. So to answer your question yes do it..... if you don't ask her, then you already said no to yourself. The only way to change that is by asking her out/number. If she says no, then your already in the same place as you are now. (think about that for a second) so take the chance! being upfront and knowing what you want are key for guys in a dating situation. again take Abella's advice and go for it. Also don't be "just friends" with a girl, otherwise she won't "see you that way." if that happens She'll eventually be dating another guy who will take her to bed while you get to hear about her whole experiences with him the next day. Be A Man Date a Girl, not friend her. one more thing be a gentleman and always pay for the date unless she is making a meal for you.
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reader, Abella +, writes (5 February 2012):
 And yes, too much persistence becomes down right creepy. No means NO.
Real disinterest means NO
Go too far and she will tell all her friends about the persistent guy who will not give up despite her (far too subtle for you) hints.
So one last try and if it fails then you need to move on.
But like I said a moment ago, your big fail on this occasion was to just give her your number and hope she would call to indicate her interest to you. It did not work and it is not a good method to try anyway.
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reader, Abella +, writes (5 February 2012):
Sounds like she likes a guy to be the persuer and perhaps thinks that if she has to contact you (despite you giving her your number) that it would be too forward (for her) to do that.
There are many girls who would happily contact first.
But there are also a proportion of girls who would never contact first.
A feint heart rarely impresses a lady. Show her you are a real red blooded male and nicely ask her own. Make the first move. if she refuses to have a soda / a coffee /a meal (you pay for it by the way to be really gallant) with you then you know she is not interested.
Try the bold tried and true way to her heart and she may sing a different tune to what she is singing now.
Alternative she really may not be interested in you at all.
But next time, you ask the girl for her number, and you ask her out on a date all at the same meeting. Some girls will be so flattered they will feel swept off their feet by your gallantry.
Good Luck.
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reader, Latti +, writes (5 February 2012):
I'm going to step out there & say..."Give It 1 More Try".
This time: Ask her if she's seeing anyone & if you can have her number to talk sometime or maybe hang out.
If she refuses or laughs it off...that's your answer & leave her alone.
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reader, armyofme  +, writes (5 February 2012):
I would say it probably is time to give up, like honeypie said you've dropped plenty of hints and she would've taken the initiative to get in touch by now if she was interested.Something to bear in mind in future, though.. rather than giving a girl your number and waiting for her to take the initiative, you'll probably give yourself the best fighting chance if you make the first move to contact. This is the traditional way and most women appreciate the gesture.Even so, I think you've already got your answer in this case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012): as soon as you don't get an answer the first time, it is time to give up. it might seem like quitting, but a girl would have texted you back if she was interested, it's as simple as that.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 February 2012):
Now is the time to give up.
She would have texted you already if she was interested. And even though she liked the attention it can easily become creepy.
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