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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Should I make him choose between drugs and me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Wow, so I don't really know where to start. This may be longer than I expect, so I apologise in advance. I started dating this guy not long ago, he is older than me, which is fine, age to me has never been a barrier. But is it not strange how things can change suddenly. When... (750 words)

How to make my ex jealous?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5078 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - i want to make my ex as jealous as possible. he really broke my heart. we ended it "mutually" but it was more him wanting to end it than me. i want to make him regret breaking up with me. we dated for a year, and we're both 15. he was the first guy i really cared about like ... (111 words)

How can I get through to my sister?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need advice on something. My mother has been fighting cancer for 4 years now. Recently it went to her brain and before that had spread throughout most her body. The chance of survival is quite slim. Currently she cannot drive or do a lot of stuff. I am 22 and in college. Just ... (505 words)

We hit it off and now she's cold!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi Guys Small problem. I got to know a girl at dancing lessons and we got to get friendly there. As the lessons progressed, we got to know each other and had long sessions chatting afterward. We also went to a restaurant after last week's lesson and a great time with she laug... (132 words)

Boyfriend told me if I don't stop calling so much he will dump me!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I kind of panicked today since my bf of an year was heavily flirting with an other girl in IM. I snooped around his computer ( i know i shouldnt have done), and found out this and panicked and tried to call him 4-5 times within 4 hrs and he didnt respond even for... (156 words)

Why am I so angry?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5078 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I just need some kind of advice..or i feel all this will get too far and destroy my family relationship. Im a 16 year old girl, eversince i met my boyfriend, i seem to blow up easily at my family. First it started with my brother, he dislikes my boyfriend so the littlest thing ... (340 words)

Keep feeling guilty or keep hiding what happened?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5077 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - About a year and a half ago myself and my current boyfriend took some time apart from our relationship due to the fact that I hadn't gotten over my ex boyfriend and bumping into him again had caused old feelings to emerge. During this "time off" and after quite a few drinks i... (216 words)

I've coped a feel twice now!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5077 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Oh where to begin, I am at a loss as for what to do. I am a young (17) bisexual male. I have a huge crush on a guy, and to be honest I think there is chance he might be gay/bi too. I am not proud of this next sentence but, when it was really crowded on a bus, and i was r... (381 words)

Would it be better for everyone if I had an abortion?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5076 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - This is complicated but here goes... I got back together with my ex boyfriend about 4 months ago. He is going through a divorce. We have two kids and 5 and 9. I found out last week that I am pregnant. We have been keeping our relationship on the down low so that we could have ... (319 words)

I'm so in love with you, but I have days when I'm not sure... So he says!

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I broke up with my boyfriend the other night, after I had a dream that he was all over someone else. We dated for 6 months and he was a good person. We went on trips together and we had our fights, but after we broke up in November for 24 hours, everytHing seemed so much ... (713 words)

Am I wrong for not calling?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi im 28 im with my partner 7 years we have 3 beautiful children together, im a stay at home mum dont really go out with friends that often and when i do i basically get ignored 4 a day or 2 afterwards, i was out recently with few friends 4 couple of hours and didnt call home ... (233 words)

Boyfriend seen with another guy in the room, assumed the worst

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5078 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Please Help! My Boyfriend caught another guy in our room! Okay so this is what happened. I had a boyfriend who was living with me. Saturday morning he picked up his things and broke up with me because we argued about the father of my children. My boyfriend is over jealous ... (342 words)

I don't want to live with my parents anymore. Should I ask my married sister for help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, So I don't want to live with my parents anymore. They are fine parents but they just dont understand me. So im looking into boarding schools to get away from them, but from the looks of it that won't happen. We are not the richest family out there nor the poorist, but the ... (137 words)

How do you talk to guys?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - How do girls talk to boys? out of all my friends I can't talk to boys. I try so hard but i can't i end up talking to them how i would talk to my girlfriends. So a lot of boys think i am weird. Can you please tell me how to talk to boys? ... (61 words)

Should I be concerned about her friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone. I have been with my girlfriend for three years. We have been seperated twice and I think it's because of her "friend". I broke up with her the first time because I felt that I was a control freak and that she deserved someone better. The second time she broke up... (217 words)

Should I win her back or let her go?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So, this girl and I had been datng for a month and in that month everything seemed to be going perfect! I had feelings for her that I hadnt had for my previous girlfriend after 8 months. And then suddenly she missed her ex. Her and her ecx hadnt been dating a month when I sort ... (180 words)

I feel more comfortable talking to my dad, is this normal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Is it bad if i can't tell my mom anything? Like i live with my mom but not my dad, and I barely see him and i feel more comfortable talking to him about stuff but i don't feel comfortable talking to my mom about stuff. is that a problem? ... (55 words)

How do you move on from past relationships?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5077 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This might be a stupid question, but: how do you stop feeling bothered about stuff from the past? When I think of my relationship with my ex-boyfriend [who broke up with me months ago], I still feel bothered by things.. I won't bore everyone with minor details, he never did ... (89 words)

When upset, my boyfriend talks about me behind my back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of a year has his up days and his down days. My question is though, during his rough days and we argue should it be okay for him to talk and complain about me behind my back. He did it once in front of his sister and he does it on facebook chat or txting. It makes ... (99 words)

Are there exercises to help keep from going too soon?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Okay i am 24 and i think i have to quick of an orgasm. I usually have an orgasm quickly if i stroke the head of my penis. But my question is, is there any exercises i can do that will help me to not have and orgasm so quickly? ... (50 words)

I punish people for my own shortcomings?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - This might sound a little weird and could be somewhat long so please bear with me and try to understand. I'm not the most confident person on earth and i have little faith in myself. As a result i tend to spend most of my time alone as i fear that people will not like me and s... (375 words)

What can I do to help save the relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So let me start out saying I am 17 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. I love him and he's honestly the best guy in the world. But lately we've fought a lot, we've just had a lot of little problems that we argue about and sometimes I feel like there's ... (106 words)

My boyfriend seems to be obsessed with women's bodies.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I have just returned from a day out with my boyfriend of 18 months followed by yet another row. My boyfriend seems to be obsessed with women's bodies. I am slim and considered pretty and he always compliments me and what I wear. I used to have a lot of confidence which I ... (271 words)

Is he just flattered or is my marriage really in trouble?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5078 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ive been with my husband for around 5 yrs now and I can tell he's unhappy. Seems depressed alot and then all of a sudden about a week ago he started talking to a girl on a web-site and now he jumps up out of bed and cant wait to email her....this went bk and forth until I found ... (178 words)

My wife told me about her sexual past 9 months ago and I still can't get over it!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5007 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Im trying so hard to forget my wifes sexual past she told me 9 months ago. It all started when we first met, I asked and she lied and told me 1 guy. Too find out 11 years later 4 more guys were added to the list. The way I found out was my fault, Ive always felt maybe thier... (377 words)

He cheated, I cheated, then he cheated again.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5077 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am so confused. I can't decide whether to stay with my fiance or leave him for another guy. My fiance and I have lived together for the past 5 years. In the beginning he was cheating on me another girl that was his actual girlfriend at the time. She found out about me and ... (377 words)

How do I turn our sex around, will counseling help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been in a relationshp with my boyriend for 8 yars and we always had a good sex life in 2009 i became pregnant with our daughter and since than we have had sex once and both were drunk. His excuse is hes tired. I need to know what to do to change this. I have said mybe we ... (70 words)

Should I keep my married boyfriend's baby?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5077 days ago

25 January 2011 (F) age 41-50 - I have been seeing a married man for almost 4 years he has been married 6 yrs. I know I will be judged and for the most part for what I have read on this topic, answers seem to be one sided. Always blaming the mistress. It takes two selfish,cheaters to cheat and create a mess. ... (896 words)

Is it wrong for me to date other races?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey peeps, Is it wrong for me to date other races?? I'm black and my friends always talkin about sticking to our own culture but I find white and chinese boys SERIOUSLY attractive :s. I also want to know if dating other cultures last long or does it just depend on the pe... (89 words)

I had sex a year back, will my future husband know that I'm not a virgin?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5071 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I had sex last year, but my bf ditched me.. Ima going to get married next year to someone else and I don't want my husband to know that i'm not a virgin. That was the only time I had sex, tilll now i dint get physical with anyone. All I want to know that is there any cream or ... (85 words)

My boyfriend "forgot" to get me a birthday and Christmas present!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My BF forgot to buy me a bday gift and an Xmas gift...well he did not think it was necessary to buy me an Xmas gift (he bought gifts for his friends and family). I was SO hurt by this I did not talk to him for like 2 weeks, and then I told him how I felt about him not even ... (152 words)

My boyfriend always wants to have sex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi, my bf always wants to have sex,what should i do? i get annoyed sometimes, but he always wanna have it? what to do?... (25 words)

Because of her problems at home, my girlfriend is distancing herself from me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5078 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm 15 and my gfs 14 were in the same year but were not very close recently. She's having problems at home i know because she used to tell me every thing but we had a big argumment about that. We dont spend any time together any more and she was crying because she dosnt like it ... (101 words)

Do we break up seeing as this is turning into a LDR?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - am 17 and he is 21.. we have been together for the last 2 years and 6 months... but recently he has gone out on career grounds and he will return only in october.. and i am clearing my 12 grade in march so by june even i'll be out of town by june may be for the next 5 years so ... (126 words)

We can't have vaginal sex due to my girlfriend's health issue, is it wrong to ask for oral?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5070 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend can't have sex at the moment due to a health issue with her vagina. She is hopefully seeing a gyno soon to figure out what's up. My question: should she offer to perform oral on me while we go sexless? if she does not offer (she has not so far) is it wrong for ... (140 words)

Why am I always the friend everyone confides in, but never the friend invited out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age - Why am I always the friend everyone confides in, but never the friend invited to do things socially with? I am the married mother of three teens. I have always been the one to gladly pick up others' kids from school and take them home or to a team event. I have many girl f... (325 words)

I find guys attractive until they pull their pants down!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I find guys attractive until they pull their pants down. And I find that I'm only attracted to guys with a rather feminine appearance. And I wouldn't mind kissing a guy (as long as he has no facial hair + he has feminine features). But male bits just gross me out, seriously n... (145 words)

Girlfriend of 4 years asks for a break and starts dating someone else!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5075 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hi guys Ok so i was with this girl for 4years the minute i met her we clicked instantly and we were good frends for many months before getting into the relationship. We know eachother inside out and we are very close to each other. Just last year in november she bro... (311 words)

Maybe he could be mine on Valentine's Day?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Here is the thing, i love a guy who is studying with me but he has a girlfriend, but i feel like he cares too much for me and i don't know where this is going! any help? or advice? or whatever? i am really desperate with valentine coming up and i have no boyfriend.... (57 words)

Is it ok to send her a surprise gift while she's at work?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5074 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hey there people I am friends with a girl on facebook whom I really like. I am sure she likes me as well as we often exchanges playful messages on facebook. I however don't have her number yet. She recently updated her work information and I know the place where she works... (128 words)

Should I leave my wife for my lover?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5076 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi! Should I leave my wife for lover? I'm 26 year old guy and have cheated on my wife. Last 12 months I have lived abroad due to work and I have seen my wife once a month. I have been married for 3 years and together with her for 6 years. We met when I was 19. We have had ups ... (256 words)

Have I ruined my chances with this man? What should I say to him now?!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 5076 days ago

25 January 2011 (?) age 41-50 - Please, please help me... I can't stop thinking and my mind is going crazy!! Last night, I had a dinner date at my place with a colleague of mine I really really really really like. The evening was smooth and flirty and fun. Then he started making passes at me, pretty bluntly.... (216 words)

She left me when things were going great!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm so confused right now. We were doing great and it's been 4 months. It starts off like this. I met her at a party 6 months ago while I was playing a guitar. She found me on facebook the next day and told me how amazing I was and wanted to get to know me better. So we sta... (485 words)

Her friends are gonna get in the way if I ask her out

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5078 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi guys i have another question. There is a girl who i have half way fell for, its not a deep love or anything but the problem is if i ask her if she wants to be together she has about 7 other girl who will say no and that can affect her descion because she told me she likes me ... (75 words)

Why do boys do this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Right, please read!, i dont know what to do, i really like this lad called lets say bob, and he was new to the school like i was a few months ago recently we have been close and i thought he liked me, we were going to meet this weekend but he blew me off with a email say... (160 words)

Boyfriend's chin stubble is irritating my face. Any ideas to prevent this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend has quite a bit of stubble on his chin. I love it, but I often get rashes and wondered if there was any way to prevent them, or make them less noticeable? thanks x... (38 words)

I never seem to "wear out" and my boyfriend sometimes acts like sex is a chore!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5078 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a problem, well not so much a problem, but I enjoy sex way too much, more than my bf does. My bf says I pretty much have the libeto of a young dude. I love making love to my boyfriend because its very emotional for me and makes me happy. as everyone else right? Well, my ... (110 words)

Co-worker has become distant, but claims nothing is wrong. What should I say to him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey guys, I need some advice. I know I'm not being paranoid, but I had a friend who I was good friends with and I helped him with a hell of a lot. He's still working in my company but, now he has distanced himself. Something doesn't seem right. He says everything is fine, bu... (143 words)

Boyfriend claims he love me. So why does he sleep around?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5078 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - If my boyfriend says he loves me, then why does he engage in casual sex with others? ... (17 words)

Are there any couples out there who are 100% faithful to one another?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 5037 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I dont know if it's because Ive been reading the articles on this site too often (this being a relationship help site and all), but it seems that everywhere I look, people are unfaithful to each other. Im basically asking, are there any couples out there that have been complete... (104 words)

Should we tell our good friend that we saw her new husband on an online dating website?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age - Dear Agony Aunt, I am in a group of 8 women that travel and play a sport together. We have known each other a very long time and are good friends. One of my friends divorced her husband of 25 years to be with another man. This man had been single and dating for quite some t... (313 words)

My ex is trying to sabotage my new relationship & my new bf is backing off. WHY?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have found a new man... all is going great. We went on holiday together and got on well. I posted some pics up of our vacation as I was so happy. Anyway, my ex bf is still on my page, which I totally forgot about. He is now trying to get me back and has said so publicly on my ... (440 words)

My boyfriend has slept with 6 women, but he's my first. It bothers me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5078 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my bf for 2 years and when we met I was a virgin and he had slept with 6 other people. I love him a lot but I find this incredibly hard to deal with sometimes. Sometimes it does't bother me, but when I think about it it weirds me out. I also find it hard because ... (86 words)

Boyfriend became pessimistic when he started having health problems. How can I help him become positive?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 months. He cares and loves me so much that he even talked about marriage. The problem is that he is moody and pessimistic. Mostly, after he started have health problems. He tells me he is sorry he cannot work long... (127 words)

Should I stick with guys who bore me, or wait for the players to change their ways?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I seemed to be having a hard time to finding someone that I can have a relationship with. I talk to plenty of guys, but once the relationship begins, I get bored of them... Or the guys that are intresting to me, end up being jerks and want to get in my pants right away. Should... (86 words)

Relationship in limbo! What can I do to kindly jolt him into taking action?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - How does one get out of relationship limbo? Started out as a fairytale then turned ugly. He told me he doesn't want a committed relationship, so I showed him the door. Things are just complicated though as we move in the same circle of friends and I am now stuck in unpleasant ... (333 words)

I perform oral sex on her. How can I get her to reciprocate?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - How can I convince my beloved to perform oral sex on me? I am doing it for her, but she always refuses. Help me.... (26 words)

Should I see what transpires with my ex, or should I break contact?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5071 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Long story short, I got dumped by my girlfriend of two years in September because I was studying for my medical exams and never had any time for her for 6 months. She said little things turned into big things and she couldn't take me not being there for her. She got a new job ... (537 words)

Job offer, unhappy girlfriend and tough decisions - help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm a guy in university and I have a serious concern causing stress in my relationship for the last couple weeks or so. I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year, and we love each other and want to marry each other (or so I thought). Last year I took a job at a c... (529 words)

Ladies: How do you feel about your highshool sweetheart if you aren't married to him now.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5077 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been dealing with some insecurities about my wife's ex - the guy she dated in high school. She lost her virginity to him and by all accounts he was the love of her life until it ended. I also know that she didn't want to end it and was pretty obsessed with him for a w... (535 words)

First Valentine's with my girlfriend and I have no money. Need suggestions!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Valentine's Day is about three weeks away and I've got no money at all to buy her anything. Besides, this is our first time together. What should I do?... (30 words)

He saw me holding hands with a friend and now he won't talk to me

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been talking to some guy and now he doesn't want to talk to me because he saw me holding hands with my friend and he got all pissed off now he won't talk to me...Its been about a week or so and hes still mad at me which i do not know what to do please help me! I really l... (81 words)

Is there any hope? I'm in love with a married foreign woman

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi. I love a foreign woman who's only reason for being in America is that she is married. She's explained numerous times that its a casual marriage, and that he has his own lover(s) *I do not ask that many questions on the subject*. I know, though, that she does love him... and ... (188 words)

My boyfriend has been cheating with his ex wife

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5075 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I need some advice from someone i recently found out that my boyfriend of a year has been cheating on me with his ex wife my heads in bits. We have argued about it and he says he never slept with her he was only helping her out with money but we were never having sex and his ... (174 words)

How do I increase semen volume?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - How do I increase my semen volume? I am looking to do this both for the fact we are trying to conceive and I want to maximize my semen, and also because we are both into the volume of it... me because it makes orgasms feel better, her because she likes a lot of it. I generally ... (85 words)

My boyfriend is having an affair, and I don't know what to do!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been together over a year now but lately our relationship is falling apart as we have begain to row about 3 months ago he told me he could meet up for a while as wanted to sort our his career etc but i later found out he has been meeting another girl. ... (282 words)

I stumbled upon a video of my husband masturbating, on our computer!! I don't know how to deal with this..

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5052 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I am 19 years old. I am married. I have been married for 9 months. my husband is in the military. We have been together for 3 years. We recently moved to Germany, for his job. He is at work. I stumbled upon a video of him masturbating on our computer. The only way... (325 words)

Girl masturbation

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5078 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Is it just me or is using a vibrator a lot better than using your hands or fingers when you masturbate? is that a lesbian thing to use a vibrator? :s... (31 words)

He's coming across as too strong...how do I call it quits??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This guy, who's a friend but not a really close one, asked me out a couple of months ago, and I said I'd give it a try. I meant that I'd be open to like going out a few times, like for coffee, just to get to know more about each other and stuff. However, he's taking it too se... (150 words)

How wet is too wet? My arousal is turning into a nightmare for me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I find myself getting really wet several times each day. Most of the time it happens if I’m day-dreaming about having sex or being intimate with a guy. At first I enjoyed feeling aroused and wet all the time but now it’s turned into a nightmare. The problem is sometimes the... (214 words)

Should I stop my boyfriend from travelling alone

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I'm not sure if anyone can help as this feels like a complex situation but i'm so lost with it i wanted to put it out there to see if anyone can advise! I'v been with my partner for just over 3 years and I feel in my heart he is the one, when we first meet we loved ea... (473 words)

How can I move on from my husbands past relationship

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I was reading the article a couple of men wrote. I have that same type of issue with my husband. I cannot let go of the past. We have been married for a long time and he is my best friend. My problem is that I cannot stop thinking about him and his ex girlfriend from high ... (370 words)

Should I believe the rumours that my girlfriend is cheating on me

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Ok, so i'm 14 and I know everyone will be like 'ohh your too young for this' or something, but i'm serious. I love my girlfriend, but does she love me back? I know she does marijuana and cigarettes, and I know everyone is telling me she is cheating on me, but is it just a ... (208 words)

Does this guy really care about me?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i´ve been seeing this guy for 7months right.. i fell for him pretty bad.. it wasnt meant to be serious in the beginning.. cause well we both had our plans for our lives.. he´s meant to go away for about 1year.. 1.5years.. that seems to be the "main problem" but to me is not..... (602 words)

I don't want to date him but I don't want to lose the friendship

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and in 9th grade in High School. I'm kind of new at this love stuff so I really don't know what to do. A guy friend has sent me a private message on Face Book telling me that he likes me and doesn't have the nerve to ask me out. I don't like him in ... (140 words)

Too much drink made me wet myself

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am constantly sad. I feel alone. I have no idea why. days that I am happy are rare, maybe once a month or twice a month. I live with my boyfriend who is wonderful. I have a small group of very close friends. I have a job. I should be happy, right? well I'm not. every morni... (369 words)

Who is the girl he has been seeing behind my back

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Something horrible happend to me a few months ago. and since then I have lost respect for my bf.i've tried to put it behind me but it keeps replaying its self back in my mind. One day my bf was meant to collect me from work. i received a text from him saying that he was unable ... (567 words)

How will I forget her if I leave her

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - heeey....i knew a woman...loved her...met a lot....then i knew that she was married...she told me... we are in the same age....she is married for 6 months....her husband works abroad...only come home twice a year...i believe that she loves me...i love her...told her to leave ... (103 words)

Should I leave my abusive marriage

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I need advice as to whether it is a good decision to leave my marriage: i have been married for 6+ years and on my first year my hubby hit me and again on the second year with no apology on both cases and even now when we talk about the issue i can sense to him its justifie... (183 words)

Married to a good guy but still wants me

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25 January 2011 (M)

I need to absolve myself with the truth but don't know where to begin

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I love dearly and passionately a man twice my age, who is married with a beautiful child. His wife and him are separated for the time being, though they have been separated before and reconciled in attempt to make the relationship work for the child. I believe he is not happy ... (412 words)

DId he let a secret out my accident?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm a little bit worried about something my boyfriend said to me. Maybe im just over protective but i feel he's let a little secret out by accident?. My boyfriend's pet died suddenly late one evening a few days ago. He contacted me by phone and I tried my best to comfort him.I ... (337 words)

Pubic hair question.....

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone, im just wondering does hair actually grow on the penis or they just grow on the base of the penis? ... (22 words)

Should I just end it and let him go while it's not too late? Or give it a shot while doubting him?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 26 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. We are colleagues and we see each other almost 24/7. I think this is why we argue so much about little things. We constantly stay at home because we are so tired from work but still have fun at home watc... (722 words)

Can I get my girlfriend to "sext" me?

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello. So I joked with my girlfriend while texting the other day about sending me some pics, and she told me that's something she was just not comfortable with. I dropped the subject. I understand her concern for it, and will not press her into it, but I wish she would as it ... (147 words)

Why am I so down on myself about these things? Is it the Cannabis that is making me paranoid?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Morning to you all I need some objective advice. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. I love him very much. We do "clash" sometimes because we both hold strong opinions on things and are equally quick tempered. Well, here's the other catch - we are both of ... (444 words)

I feel like my mom's death was my fault......

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - my life is crazy, no-one seems to understand me either, my boyfriend thinks im a liar and my family wont see things in my point of view. i lost my mom 4 years ago and cant seem to let go. is that normal? id like to say nothing is wrong with me and its all in my head but the way ... (185 words)

How do you know if a girl is really enjoying having sex with you?

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello, my question is mostly for the girls but i dont mind having different points of views, that would be greatly appreciated, i just want to know how to tell that the girl is actually enjoying having sex with you? i mean during intercourse how do you know that she really ... (85 words)

I dumped him for another man but I am so hurt he slept with another girl while we were apart! How do I get over this?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - so... not long ago i had a boyfriend(let's call him alex). we had been together for like 1 year and 10 months. things started to get really routinaire and i asked him for a break. he said yes but then i met this other guy (daniel) and we started going out. after a month or so ... (532 words)

Is there anything I can do about my mother's hoarding problem?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My mother has a severe hoarding problem. It's always been an issue but for the past 14 years it's been a living hell. I clearly remember me and my relatives rushing to clean the first floor of the house for my birthday party when I was 10. I'm now 23, almost 24, and that's the ... (361 words)

Is there still a chance for us?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - He says he loves me but is not in love with me anymore - i think though he may be suffering from depression. we've been together 8 years and have lived together for 3. he went 2 weeks ago saying he had a lot going on and needed a break. he said he was unhappy and was ... (415 words)

What to get my guy for Valentine's Day?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please help me :) What can I get my bf for Valentine's? (besides, wearing some hot, sexy lingerie for him and learning some strip teasing ;) =D I'm so excited!) We've been going out for 5-6 months. He is 30+, likes football alot, he is a counselor, doesn't really have a... (206 words)

Boyfriend says he cant promise he will ever love me, is there reason to stay?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So here's my story. I am in the active duty military at my first duty station, a week after getting here I start hooking up with this really cute guy that I developed a crush for in my platoon. Well the hooking up became into something more and we were in a relationship before ... (482 words)

My girlfriend returned a gift I bought!

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been dating my GF for four years now and this year is our fifth year. The problem is since 2008 we started a long distance relationship because we both went to different universities, and now I am working while studying at the same time I only see her every two Saturdays ... (318 words)

Do you think the tactics she's used mean that she still might care for me?

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So me and this girl have known each other for 7+ years and we had a bit of a fling for a couple months. basically what happened is that we lost touch over the holidays because we were always in a power struggle (she'd ignore me, i'd stoop to the same level, things would get ... (492 words)

Does anyone have any tips for moving on?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Right here goes. I'm totally confused. I got divorced and it was hard but I got through that. I met someone last May and he was everything I had been looking for. He was a lot younger than me but we got on so well. He was loving and caring and I thought the world of him. ... (669 words)

Why does he look at porn when he still thinks I am beautiful and we have great sex?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age - We all know about the ups and downs in a marriage.But my husband and me managed to really deeply fall in love again for the last two years. Married for 17 years and two kids. We have lots of wonderfull fullfilling sex.I love and appreciate him. So I would think my husband ... (140 words)

3rd cousin relationship?

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - can i have a relationship with my 3rd cousin?... (9 words)

I regret moving my ex back in, I want her out tonight!

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So right to it.I made a huge mistake feeling me and my ex gf could start off fresh. She lost her job which was my opening to start fresh. She moved in with me 2 months ago but I'm not feeling it. I want her out but she doesn't have the money or any family to live with. Top if ... (132 words)

My boyfriend didnt get my anything for Christmas, do I have a right to be upset?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My Boyfriend of one year previously best friends for two years, didn't get me anything for christmas last year and I'm a little confused if i should be upset or not. I've splurged a little too much on him since it was our first christmas and that his birthday is soon. (i got ... (304 words)

Obsessed with the past.......

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I found out my girlfriend flashed a guy, aka her best friend over skype a few days before we got together, after he flashed her and begged her to flash him. 3 months later, it's still popping into my head randomly and causing me to have emotional breakdown, tonight being the ... (76 words)

How do you forgive yourself?

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - How do you come to grips with regret and guilt? say you had the love of your life, and you knew it, but you were either immature, ignorant, or just not wired to be a good partner at the time, and after being with many other people, trying out many different scenarios, every ... (143 words)

Does he notice me in class?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - there is this boy in my class and i really like him but i don't know if he notices me in class, cause he doesn't talk to me but on face-book and stuff he talks to me all the time and we talk for hours and he is the first person to start the conversation, and if i am not on he ... (169 words)

I will be alone on Valentines Day, which also happens to be my crush's birthday! What am I supposed to do?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so this guy i used to be friends with doesn't talk to me anymore. I thought him and I were just friends. Only friends. He doesn't date and well I was fine with that. But then he stopped talking to me. It was sad and I got over it. Now that valentines day is coming up, I ... (115 words)

I used fake pics online & met a girl. I want to tell her the truth, but I'm scared. What should I do?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently met a fantastic woman over the net but i made the stupid mistake of using someone elses (who looks like me a bit) pics as im a little insecure on how i look! we chatted over the phone for 4 months and we've been talking about seeing each other.....She even said one ... (205 words)

After being with him my self esteem has fallen to an all time low!

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years and he tells me he loves me but sometimes it's hard for me to really believe him. He rarely ever compliments me, but he will always be the first to point out a "hot" girl at the club or bar. Whenever I go out in public ... (289 words)

18 year old dating a 15 year old - would he get into trouble with the law?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - If some was 15 almost 16 and their boyfriend was 18 and their parents said that it was ok, would he get into trouble with the law?... (27 words)

My friend is getting too close! I don't want to be mean but how do I get her to back off?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Well my friend is always how you say up my butt. like when i go somewhere she says where are we going (when its not we its me) so mind you i dont want to be mean or anything but i want her to feel included in my life for example: 1) me and my boyfriend are together and she give... (122 words)

Is this wrong?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I just a question. You know that saying that a guy is never suppose to hit a girl? Well I have a friend who's dad hits her, my friend is 15 and she is to scared to tell any one. Her mom is always there when it happens and never says anything. When my friend tells her... (122 words)

Am I crazy? Or is she?

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey there Dear Cupid, im here for my third and probably final time. This issue is about me and my mental state more and my worry, I also need your intelligent thoughts on whats going on. As of two months ago my girlfriend and I broke up. Her parents made us split up. We are... (662 words)

Am I wasting my time?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So me and my ex dated for 14 months. It ended because he felt as if he was hurting me and not being there for me. The night we broke up we literally sat in my room for like six hours going back in forth. He wanted to take a break and be friends and work from there but I ... (487 words)

He wants his ex wife to sleep over at our house so she can play a more active role in the children's lives!

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - right now I'm feeling extremely sad. i need to know how to cope with this situation that i am in. i am living with my partner who is still married. he has 3 kids from previous relationship and we have 3 of our own. the older three are teens and the younger 3 are under 10. i ... (360 words)

Girlfriend drifting away? Or am I too clingy?

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone, I'm in a relationship with this girl that I like and I am facing quite a few problems. We are both students in graduate school. Firstly in a social setting, she tends to ignore me and just chat with others. She doesnt look at me when I talk to her when other... (520 words)

Was he telling the truth about his feelings when he was drunk?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - okay so my ex told me that he loves me and only me when he was drunk and that he dosnt like his new gf. also that he loves me and only me. the next day i asked him he said he dosnt rember it and ask for us to just be friends. later that week he said that our friendship is ove ... (76 words)

My partner is posessive and doesn't allow me to have friends

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - my partner is very possesive and wont allow me any friends. i dont work and am basically a recluse as im not allowed out. please could someone advice me on how i can make friends on line without my partner knowing. i feel i need company and its the only contact with th... (121 words)

I want to move the relationship to something more than casual

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy 4 months ago and we are physically intimate and have not talked about exclusivity. We don't talk everyday but we have seen each other steady, once a week. In the beginning I solely wanted to just hook up because there was a strong physical attraction that I ... (147 words)

My husband seems to be cheating on me...

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - i think my husband is cheating on me. he rarely makes love to me and is behaving in a suspicious way. he used to let me check his phone but refuses to let me near it lately. most of the time hes at home he will carry it around in his pocket which hedidnt used to do. also whe... (277 words)

I'm a bit shocked that this guy is paying attention to me!

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so what do you do when a really popular, cute guy starts talking to you? i mean i am very shy and quiet, so i dont really attract a lot of guys. So, i am a bit shocked that this really popular guy is actually even talking to me. No, i dont think he likes me in a romantic ... (122 words)

I do everything I can for my husband and he treats me badly in return

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - please could someone tell me where im going wrong. for the past 3 years i have have got up with my husband every morning to make him a cup of tea and drive him to his work(only a five minute walk away). by morning i mean varies from 1.30am to 3am. then i return to bed.i wi... (239 words)

My boyfriend is constantly texting other girls and flirting with them!

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I hate having this feeling that my boyfriend is always.. 24/7 texting girls. i have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now but me and him have known each other for over 4 years and have had an on and off relationship. he is much of a private guy.. in school we dont kiss or ... (278 words)

He found out I was pregnant and he changed his phone number!

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - so me and my ex were together for over a year and lived together for about 7 months. He broke up with me a couple of times bc things were "too stressfull" him not working ect. We've been broken up for about 3 weeks now. The last thing we talked about is that he wants to be with ... (154 words)

I can't figure out whether she likes me or not?

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - alright well this girl is giving me the hardest time I have had to figure out if she likes me or not. she seemed like she liked me and maybe seemed like she wanted to date in the future but this morning she texted me after I told her that before I knew her name she was saved ... (244 words)

She says sex is all I care about!

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm an 18 year old male and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years. The first time we had sex was on our one year anniversary and after that we did it about once a week. But we haven't had any sexual contact with each other for the last 5 months now and I'm a bit ... (84 words)

He had a way out but didn't end it and I'm really confused!

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I am so confused about a relatonship that I recently got into. I met a guy on an online dating site in September. I was really taken with him he swept me off my feet and was so romantic we spent about three days a week together and we started making plans to live tog... (536 words)

Big decision, do I sell my soul?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - im 21 years old and have found myself in a really terrible financial situation. I don't feel like explaining the whole story but I made some bad choices on who to trust. The only immediate job that is paying good is doing massages. Call me naive but I thought it was normal, ... (182 words)

Can I do anything to make twins more likely?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Can you do any thing to make it more likely to have twins if your trying to get pregnant? Thanks for your time.... (23 words)

He impulsively dumps his girlfriends, how can I be sure he'll stay with me?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Last night my boyfriend said he's been really down lately but it's not because of me. A little later he said he just needed to remind himself how good he's got it and he'll be ok in a few days. The night before last he told me he never wanted to let me go but a few days ago he ... (447 words)

Sex hungry boyfriend has got me wondering if I want to marry him!

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, i been seeing a guy in the military for a few months an by saying a few i mean 7 so its still new.. at first we where close.. like couldn't go a day with out talking to him ... well he just got orders to germany about 2 months ago.. an i was very hurt about him going all ... (478 words)

In love with my straight friend, could we ever happen?

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi I am a gay man in love with my straight friend. I have always denied it to anyone because, We are both in relationships and never strayed but we are always flirting even his missus jokes about it. Nothing has ever happened between us but everytime I go over to his he always ... (554 words)

My fiancee doesn't want to make love any more and its tearing me apart.

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been with my Fiancee for 2 years and love her with all my heart but it seems like she just doesnt wanna sleep with me anymore. Before we moved in together the passion was strong and chemistry couldnt be contained. we used to make love at least 3 times a night twice to ... (212 words)

Selfish boyfriend - porn and sex all for him and not for me

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been seeing eachother for about 7 months. I love him and want to do anything to make us work, but I feel like he's more interested in porn than me. We have sex once a week, if that, and usually I have to ask for it to get it. Then, when we do, he nearly ... (138 words)

How do you deal with bad housemates?

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25 January 2011 (F) age 30-35 - my housemates particarly one lets call her sue does not like me i get higher grades then her and the fact that i dont do what she wants i think bothers her. lets call them c1 (major annoyance) c2 (sheep) c1 went into my room switched something off thinking it was a fire h... (423 words)

Valentines day present ideas :)

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need a little advice. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 10 months and it is our first valentines day together. We have a very close emotional relationship and i really wanted to get him something special. We are still in high school and i only get so much money ... (134 words)

I just want to stay friends!

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - my close friend is ver sexy and I think that she is trying to seducing me . she has big boobs and when we are alone (studying...) she always try to show me her boobs by bending over without reasons or wearing low cut clothes(sometimes I see her nipples). then one of her frie... (152 words)

How do you talk to men and build intimacy?

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25 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So, my problem seems to be in how to talk to men. I don't know how to build intimacy. I always end up talking about politics or world issues, etc.... How do women talk to men, to make that connection? Any ideas/help would be appreciated. Thanks! ... (64 words)

Her family situation has made her push me away. I'm heartbroken!

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25 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Alright, it's somewhat of a long story here so bear with me. Before I begin, my last ex cheated on me with a buddy of mine in my own bed, at which point I was in the living room during the party and heard everything. She walked out of my room, shrugged, and said "I didn't want ... (769 words)