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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I broke up with my boyfriend the other night, after I had a dream that he was all over someone else. We dated for 6 months and he was a good person. We went on trips together and we had our fights, but after we broke up in November for 24 hours, everytHing seemed so much better. We learned we needed to communicate better and we did. He told me that he was happynhe could be himself with me and how I was so good to him. He used to rub my feet and cuddle, butnit seemed like it was starting to diminish. I have a tendency to read into things way to much, so I just tried to relax and quit worrying, but then that drem happened and I realized no something is wrong. I woke him and told him about my dream and how our affection to one another seemed to be dwindling. He took a long pause and said he wasn't sure if he wanted to be here. The same thing that happened in November, but I took him back when he said it was our first fight and he was just upset and didn't mean what he said. We said back then we werent going to spend every moment together but he never wanted to leave my side, but he never did and I gave him many opportunities to have a night here and there, but the other day after my dream, he said he just felt content and not happy. I gave him so many opportunities to speak up and it was only after forced him into a corner that he finally said I guess the truth. We packed up his things and I told him he can't love me one day and not the next. It's over. I was devastated to do this but how can I go on not sure from day to the next day. I wasn't sure he was the one. He had some things he needed to grow up on, but we were good together for the most part. I thought we would grow up together, but I was wrong. I am taking this really hard, and part of me wants him to come back like the last time. He had made mention of the future recently and I was pretty happy or I thought. I feel like I'm going crazy. Any thoughts? He wanted me with him all the time and he loved that he could show me all kinds of things that interested him unlike his last girlfriends. They were really mean to him. I got along with most of the friends I met. His parents adored me. What went wrong? My family wants me to get over him like mow, but I'm so confused. My family thinks it would have never worked. We were good but apparently, not. Why am I taking this so hard?I guess I feel like even though I ended it, Im taking it harder, I assume. I wasn't sure he was the right guy either, but doesnt that take time, and if he wasn't sure like he said why did he spend every second with me? Why did he want me to be in bed with him? Why did he kiss every morning before he went to work? Why did he express his feelings on the internet? Only to days later, saying he isn't sure. He couldn't wait for me to get home from work? He even started initiating intimacy? What happened? I dont know if I was through trying, but that doesn't matter now. Do you think he will come back like last time? And what do I say to him? I think maybe he likes me more when I'm not there for his every need, but then again, that's not true. How do you one day be all love dovey and the next he's not sure. Did I do the right thing? What should I expect from him? Why isnt life like the movies? He comes back and we realize that we didn't appreciate what we had. Thanks for letting me vent! I could go on, but then I might just show how crazy I am ; )
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