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writes:hi guysOk so i was with this girl for 4years the minute i met her we clicked instantly and we were good frends for many months before getting into the relationship. We know eachother inside out and we are very close to each other. Just last year in november she brought on the story of going on a break. I for one did not want this and was heartbroken to hear this. We are currently doing a long distance relationship and she said she wants to experience college life because you only get that once. Well couple of weeks later i had to find out myself that she is in another relationship with this guy over there! I acted cool and said i dont mind as long as we going to be back together in summer. Recently she said the guy is falling for her deeply. It hurts me everytime to picture them together and kills to know that they are dating i dont know what to say or do i really love her. We talk to each other every single day sometimes for hours even. She said she still loves me and misses it when i dont call her. Im scared that she might end up loving this guy now,growing feelings for her.. What if she sleeps for him too? What do i do..should i wait for summer which is 4months down the line.. See how things go? I really love her and dont want to let her go so easily for some random dude..please help. She keeps telling me i should also meet people and see how it goes..She says she knows im the right person for her but i dont get it why go on a break then? Why?
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reader, Serpico +, writes (29 January 2011):
This girl wants to date other guys and is not worthy of your affections as she will not reciprocate them.
You need to move on and date others immediately.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 January 2011):
Do you seriously want to be labelled a loser who will allow girls to walk over him. Seriously.
Have some self respect, man. This girl has treated you badly, and it's like you want more of it. She won't change her mind. All that will happen is she'll lie again, make you look a fool, then leave.
It's good to have pride and respect or yourself. If you have pride, if you have respect, if you don't look like a poodle chasing some woman who thinks nothing of you, you will attract far better women who won't treat you this way.
People like other people who are confident and have pride in themselves. If you go back, you'll look a loser. Don't go back man.
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reader, djskits +, writes (29 January 2011):
djskits is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the comments guys all have made me think positivly well sort off but the htings is i have been with this girl for 4 years and i was the happiest ever i gave her everything everything that i could give..i loved her soo much!!and then she does this...i wanna go to see her in america during spring break do you think this will change her mind or something..i cant bare to lose this girl seriously!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): Thanks for all the comments guys all have made me think positivly well sort off but the htings is i have been with this girl for 4 years and i was the happiest ever i gave her everything everything that i could give..i loved her soo much!!and then she does this...i wanna go to see her in america during spring break do you think this will change her mind or something..i cant bare to lose this girl seriously!!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 January 2011):
I've seen this one before.
What she's doing is hedging her bets. Let's say it goes wrong with this guy. She'll come crawling back, say she's 'sorry' and 'made a mistake', then expect you to fall into line until such time as she wants to see someone else.
Don't waste another second of your time on this woman. She's just not worth it at all.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 First things first: "break" was Ambiguous for "I'm breaking up with you". Sorry to say it this way, but it is clear she doesn't feel she is in a relationship with you anymore. When a woman loves a man, she doesn't get involved with another man. She might not love the guy, but apparently she doesn't care enough about you either.
Sorry to say this, pal, but I'm sure she's not going back to you in the summer. Waiting for her would be such a waste of time. She's even telling you to meet other people.
"You're the right person for me" yet "see other people" are again Ambiguous for "See other people". Sorry.
It is clear you're in love, and it's very clear she has not been upfront to tell you that she's not in love with you anymore. Many women do that, and many guys work hardest to see if they can fix it, only to find that it can't be fixed but it can be made much worse. So the advice has to be that you should move on.
Sorry, pal.
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