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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (27 January 2011):
 hi
its coz he SAYS he loves you. its just a word. a great word when its true, but unfortunately that ain't always the case.
judge him by what he does rather than what he says.
do you therefore BELIEVE he loves you?
maybe he does love you? but if THIS is the way he treats someone he LOVES; if THIS is his very best behaviour...
is it good enough for you??
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): OMG are you kidding me dump his sorry ass he don't love you if he has no problem sleeping around. Look at all the downfalls for that STD's STI's Coming home telling you he's gotten some other girl pregnant the list goes on. wake up to yourself girl find someone that will treat you right and not give you disease's
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reader, Emjo +, writes (26 January 2011):
 I'd agree with this lot, because you haven't set up boundaries perhaps? or maybe because its all too easy for him... If someone cut you a piece of cake, told you it had no calories and gave you it for free chances are you'd eat it... because there's no repercussion from it...
In my experience he isn't worth it, no one who cheats really is. Set him straight, give him an ultimatum and stick to it. No doubt you deserve better...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): Because you are letting him get away with it, that's why.
Ditch him!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Er, um, because he can?
I hope you are using condoms and practicing safe sex. No direct genital contact or mouth-to-genital contact is advisable, as you are effectively exposed to whatever nice little infections the others may be hiding. NO oral sex on his penis without a condom, for example. HPV also is starting an epidemic in cancers in the moutn, not just cervical cancer.
Then there's Chlamydia which can lurk, undetected, and may lead to infertility problems. In other words, you could wind up not being able to have your own children because of something he brings home from someone else.
Definitely go get an STD check and ask your gynecologist about ways to protect your health and fertility.
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reader, rouge +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Actiions speak louder then words. If he says he loves you but is sleeping with other girls then leave him girl. cheers;)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 January 2011):
 'cause you let him.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 January 2011):
Because he doesn't love you, I'm afraid. You can always measure someone on their actions, and his actions say that he's just using you.
The time has come to move on.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (25 January 2011):
 He doesn't love you, he is using you.
Get rid of this man wasting your time! You deserve better.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Are you telling us your boyfriend cheats on you? Or are you talking about casual sex he had before entering a relationship with you?
If he cheated on you then... it's not worth it, no matter if he claims he loves you or not. Love alone can never be enough for a relationship to work, especially when his love for you is in such a way that he does not see a problem with cheating. Then it only hurts you, and who wants that kind of love?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Because he's just using you and you believe his lies making it easy for him to cheat. His actions show his real feelings for you.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (25 January 2011):
he probably says it to try and keep you happy. Ditch him
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