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writes:Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and in 9th grade in High School. I'm kind of new at this love stuff so I really don't know what to do. A guy friend has sent me a private message on Face Book telling me that he likes me and doesn't have the nerve to ask me out. I don't like him in that way and wouldn't go out with him but I don't want to lose him as a friend. I don't want to not respond to his message but I don't know what to say to him. I am single at the moment and I do have my eye on someone from another school that I see at youth group at church. Any advice would be helpful on how to respond. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): Stop feeling awkward and stop avoiding him!This is very immature!He doesn't do anything wrong.Why the hell are you avoiding him?!He'll feel hurt if he knows you avoid him!Just pretend that nothing has happened and keep the friendship.Talk to him as usual.
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reader, rebe88 +, writes (6 February 2011):
rebe88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have a follow up to my original question. I did message him back telling him that I was flattered and that I thought he is a nice guy and all but I only wanted to be friends. He just responded with an "OK". Now I feel really awkward and don't know what to say or do. I've been avoiding him in school because of this awkward feeling. I don't want to avoid him, just want to know what to say or do when I see him again. He is a good friend and we have fun together. This is all so confusing to me.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (25 January 2011):
 I'm be honest that you don't like him that way but like having him as a friend. Better to be honest than string him along with hope. He might be mad at first but he will appreciate it in the end.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 January 2011):
 You have to be honest. You can not go out with someone out of pity or fear of losing their friendship.
I would tell him that you are really flattered but at the same time that you don't feel the same way about him, that you regard him as a friend and would like to keep him as a friend.
(And I wouldn't tell him about he other guy you "kinda" like).
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