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writes: my housemates particarly one lets call her sue does not like me i get higher grades then her and the fact that i dont do what she wants i think bothers her. lets call them c1 (major annoyance) c2 (sheep) c1 went into my room switched something off thinking it was a fire hazard. c2 threw my paymeter key that i paid for (£10) and my money was on it too as well as theirs away. i never asked them to chip in for that key. they chucked it out without asking me first. both times they disregarded my feelings. i was upset two days after as i needed time to lick my wounds get over it. they both stormed up into my room would not leave and made me cry. i talked with them and turned out a misunderstanding. after new year i moved on , when i got back invited them to outings house parties i was invited to, club outings they said o no i dont think so. then had a birthday and deliberately excluded me, they told a mutual friend dont tell her we dont want her there. obviously i found out. at this moment i felt so hurt, i had moved on thought new start! then this. to counteract this i had my own friend night they found out. not from me from friends ( i had not told anyone dont tell them or exlude them) but after what happened my esteem was so low i really didnt want them there, they ignore me at uni, pretend im not there at home. they have then after my girly night out sucked up to me, making me tea asking me if id like a nap, can they do things for me. i have been nice expecting little but been nice like o thats nice i appreciate that thank you very much. they have now started moving my washing around, i pay for the house too, tell me if im wrong but i think that is unfair, i left if on the radiator to dry they moved it. without asking me i never touch their things!i just think all of this is unfair they were mean first i tried, but im tired of trying to be their friends. it doesnt get me anywhere!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Stop trying to be their friend, just relegate them to status of 'people you share a house with'. Maintain a level of politeness as you would with other people who are not friends but simply people you need to maintain a relationship with. And start making plans to move out, make a budget to save the moving costs, costs of new lease etc and dont let their behaviour get to you.
Good luck!
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reader, faenon +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Friends like those who needs enemies they aren't your friends with that kind of behaviour but something my late nana would always say to me avoid sunny weather friends those who only wish to be around you when its in their favour, Id probably look for another flat to move into since living with them must be unbearable at times.
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