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writes:Ok, so i'm 14 and I know everyone will be like 'ohh your too young for this' or something, but i'm serious. I love my girlfriend, but does she love me back? I know she does marijuana and cigarettes, and I know everyone is telling me she is cheating on me, but is it just a rumor? We txt a lot, however lately she has sent me g2g and when i ask where shes going she says she cant cause her battery on her phone will die. I know her last boyfriend and her had sex for a year, until he got tired of her. Although the guy that everyone says she's cheating on me with, does all kinds of drugs, and apparently she is dating me for love and him for sex? Honestly iv'e been worried and iv'e had a really bad pain in my gut from thinking about this. Is she really cheating, or is it a rumor? Also whenever I ask her, she freaks out saying I lied about loving her and I don't trust her and she flips! Thank you for your time, it'd be very nice if you would respond, because if she is cheating on me... I just need to know, thanks.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (26 January 2011):
 Well, so there you have it, YoungSupporter. She has serious problems, and I just hope she doesn't become pregnant or infected with an STD........she needs lots of help to address the underlying issues that make her behave the way she does.......
However, that is not your problem! You really are better off without her - and you show integrity by not having sex with her while you yourself are only 14.......
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reader, YoungSupporter +, writes (25 January 2011):
YoungSupporter is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone who answered... No point in talking to her, she was using me like a puppet, as the one she was going out with, and she was having sex almost EVERY night with another guy... I knew it in my gut all along, and this guy i don't even know him. All i know is he is her sperm doner. Turns out she's a sex addict, and because i'm not giving her my body at the age of 14, she turned to another 16 year old for 'fun sex'. I didn't even find out on my own, my friend asked her if she was cheating on me on Facebook, copy and pasted the whole conversation, and sent it to me. She was and she felt bad until afterwards, then she felt no guilt whatsoever.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (25 January 2011):
Good thought, eyes-wide-open......
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (25 January 2011):
Well, I don't know. Does "everyone" have concrete proof that your girlfriend is having sex with this other boy who does drugs? Or are they just guessing and gossiping?
It does strike me as a red flag when she texts you to say she's going somewhere and when you ask where, she can't tell you because her battery is low.....(doesn't she know, surely she must, to keep it charged??) I am not saying she IS cheating, mind, just pointing out what strikes me as someone who is not involved......
Another red flag is the fact that when you ask if she's cheating she freaks out and "turns the tables" on you, by saying you lied about loving her and don't trust her......if she is not cheating, I can see she'd be somewhat upset if you asked her, but a simple "No, I'm certainly not!" should be enough........On the other hand, is this something you keep bringing up? Because if so, I can understand she might then get really upset......You'll have to take all the "evidence" real or not, into account, and then make up your own mind.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 January 2011):
 She sounds like she needs counseling, lots and lots of it. My advice to you is to cut bait and run, just heartache and drama with this chick.
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reader, Lalalala  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Heeey,
I think you should talk to her,
cause my previous realationship was just filled with lies and rumours. The rumours wern't true but he was lieing to me the whole time and I had too find out the hard way.
If this chick honestly and truely loves you then she wouldn't even think to do any of that. :)
Alot of people have a bad past and they just need that 1 one person to save them and help and expecially not give up on them. If you truelly love her you will talk to her and get the truth outta her straight away before it's too late. :))
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reader, Dataluke  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Ok, school is no stranger to rumours, you know this, so maybe it is just a rumour.
People are always trying to discredit each other, and the fact that your girl friend smokes and stuff will add fuel to this.
So cool down about it, act like nothing is wrong but try and be more actively involved in the relationship. Take her out, do things with her. The rumours should die out and she'll be more inclined to want to be with you if she is cheating.
I hope I've helped in some way.
All the best, Dataluke
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