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writes: So me and my ex dated for 14 months. It ended because he felt as if he was hurting me and not being there for me. The night we broke up we literally sat in my room for like six hours going back in forth. He wanted to take a break and be friends and work from there but I wanted to make a clean cut or either stay together and work out or problems.We never were really were friends in the first place the day we met he got my number and we spent time together ever since. We can't go back to being something we never were in the first place. Literally 2 hrs. later he texts me saying he made a mistake and we need to talk.(As well as calling/ texting my close friends saying the same. Before the holiday break I tried talking to him bc he said he wanted to spend time with me but he blew me off bc he said he was too busy. But he was the one who said he wanted to see me before I went home. Over break when I left to go back home I decided to just cut him off all together. He went crazy because I was ignoring him. Saying he is sorry for everything and that he still loves me.I realized drawing back is the only way for me to get attention from him.The second part of break I started to let my guard down but right now I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do. When I return from break he was like I have to see you, so I went to his room and he was like i'm sorry and apologizing.He said he made a mistake and give him time to fix it. He also was like what if I said I want you back?And other what if questions. But wouldn't directly say it. I responded by saying I dunno.And now I constantly feels like he's beating around the bush. I want to work things out but I don't want to wait around for forever for him to ask me out again. Every time it seems like were getting close he pulls back.(We've been broken up for 2 months now what am I to do?) Should I give him time to get himself together or let it go? He seems like he is trying but I don't wanna wait forever. He says he is still in love with me but feels that he can make himself better to be in a relationship with me.We still spend time together and neither one of us has anyone else in the picture. Am I Wasting My Time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for everything. But I think I'm going to cut him off.I realized that I'm not a priority in his life anymore. He never has time for me but will drop everything as soon as his friends come in to play. I felt like I tried so hard to give him a chance and I'm ending up with nothing. For example, he said I don't text him anymore. I don't do it because every time we start a conversation he stops answering. And I expressed it to him and he is not making an effort to change. I'm starting to think love isn't for me.
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reader, JaZminny +, writes (26 January 2011):
 It seems like both of you want to be with each other u both already spend time together So talk to him upfront and let him now that u want a relationship with him and that u want it to be serious without all the kid s**t :)
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