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writes:Ok, So I don't want to live with my parents anymore. They are fine parents but they just dont understand me. So im looking into boarding schools to get away from them, but from the looks of it that won't happen. We are not the richest family out there nor the poorist, but the only way they will let me leave is with a scholarship and I am to stupid to get one. So Im thinking about asking my sister to take me in. Im currently a jr. in high school and just dont want to spend my Sr. in my current city. Now Im just scared to ask my sister because she has only been married for about six months. I know she will understand. SO my question is, should i ask my sister for help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): This is coming from the point of view of a big sister to 4 younger ones.
I would do anything for my brothers and sisters. They are always welcome to stay with me but i wouldnt be too sure about live!
Its not a selfish thing but more practical. Does your sister hav a job? I and my partner work full time and would hardly be home. Thats one con, the other is that she is ur sis not ur mum she may not be cut out to be mum to a teenager just yet! and does she have the room? I certainly wouldnt!
Maybe you should ask if you could sleep over more often, i no ud still be in the same school but u still get to see ur sis and it gets you away from home for a bit
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 January 2011):
 What don't they understand?
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Do whatever you want, but to me it seems like you just want the easy way out.
Your parents don't understand you?! - Now tell me of one teenager who has never said that..
Your parents brought you up, they know you better than you know yourself.
Your sister is newly married and her and her husband need their time alone, the first year of marriage can be the most challenging.
As for the scholarship. People get scholarships by working hard and not accepting the put downs. You think you're stupid, so what are you going to do about it?
Suck it up, be an adult, get through the last year of high school then you have the rest of your life ahead of you to live on your own. Do you really want to be paying rent etc now?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 January 2011):
You can certainly try to ask your sister for help.
But - be warned. She's a newly-wed, and whilst she might understand, that new husband of hers might not. That could lead to a major argument/disagreement and at least one person being seriously annoyed.
Instead, I would strongly urge you to try and communicate differently with your parents. They're not bad, and they DO understand you (parents were teenagers). But sometimes teenagers don't understand their parents.
I would show your parents this post and see what they have to say. Explain you're unhappy and go through the list of problems. And listen to your parents too.
Because, like I say, your sister might want to help - that new husband might be annoyed that their home is being shared 6 months into their marriage.
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