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writes:I recently met a fantastic woman over the net but i made the stupid mistake of using someone elses (who looks like me a bit) pics as im a little insecure on how i look! we chatted over the phone for 4 months and we've been talking about seeing each other.....She even said one that she's fallen in love with my personality and didnt care how i look (now all she talks about is "me" looks)....im still the same person inside.i have just told her today that we shouldn't speak anymore. It's the guilt that has been eating away at me. im so confused right now. I cry all the time when I think about her. It really hurts. I still can't forget about him. This feels like its the biggest mistake of my life. i miss her terribly and i just want the chance to make things right! i think she is the one i want to spend my life with, i love her so so much. please help!It's because I'm insecure. This is the first time im guessing its because my ex-gf left me and I just felt pathetic. ive never had any problems meeting anyone in real life.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (26 January 2011):
 You need to tell her why you cut her off the quicker the better so she does not feel like you have rejected her because of something she has done. You need to tell her the truth about the pictures and make sure you explain exactly why you did it and make sure she knows how bad you feel about it and that you do really care about her.
Dont be surprised if she is a little mad at you that is understandable but after awhile if she cares like she says she does then she will calm down and understand why you did what you did.
Good luck.
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reader, nanie20 +, writes (25 January 2011):
 If you really love her and she loves you its best to just tell her the truth right now. If she doesnt understand why you did it than that means she doesnt really like you. But she already said she likes your personality so just tell her the truth its better. Plus if it was meant to be thats not going to ruin your relationship...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): I understand you feel guilty, but what I don't think you acknowledge is that it's disrepesectful to just short circuit a relationship because of your insecurities.
You may feel badly, but she may feel worse! You literally rejected her.
I suspect that you felt you had to rejected her first, because you were scared she would do the same thing to you. To have any sort of relationship with a human being means you need to be open, built on trust, and occassionally open to disappointment.
Out of respect to her, I do think you should send her an apology explaining what happened. You may want to include a real photo of yourself. This won't neccessarily bring her back (and I wouldn't rush to blame it on the photo, I would blame it on the way you treated her). But, it should help alleviate your guilt if you do the right thing and apologize.
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