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writes:I have found a new man... all is going great. We went on holiday together and got on well. I posted some pics up of our vacation as I was so happy. Anyway, my ex bf is still on my page, which I totally forgot about. He is now trying to get me back and has said so publicly on my page. The new bf is now backing off, probably because this ex is driving him nuts, and although I told the ex bf to stop and at best just be friends, it probably doesn't look that way to the new bf. Now it's left me in a horrible state of confusion as my ex is actually now doing more and showing WAY more interest in me then the new bf. I am trying to turn a blind eye to it out of respect for the new bf, but its hard not to, especially when I don't think the new bf is giving half as much attention...why?? It's making me think I need to break up with him and get back with the ex and quite frankly I don't want to do that. The ex let me down in the past and is now seeking forgiveness saying it won't happen again because losing me once was bad enough. However, the minute I think about doing that, the new bf shows interest and I am left back in limbo land. They are two different people and I try to treat them individually and separately but its bugging the life out of me. Shouldn't the new bf be showing more interest? ALSO the new bf made me publicly choose which one of them I wanted... so I was pressured into obviously saying him... so the ex inboxed with me, "he is forcing you to chose him"...which was kinda correct...but instead it just simply annoyed me.I went off my page altogether for a few days then came back to it to show neither of them attention and they had this weird thumb war to everything I posted. But for now, the new bf's thumbs are getting less while the exes thumbs are increasing...its like nearly a race. I think the wants to sabotage what I have got with the new bf - they are both telling me they love me and I am taking a step back to see which one is more worthy. STRESS. One of my close friends said neither as its more head wreck then I deserve. Can anyone shed any light to what is going on here?? THANK YOU...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): You're playing both of them and keeping your options open, no wonder your new boyfriend is backing off.
You're letting your ex seduce you again and you're not stopping him, which is very easy to do and now you're even considering getting back with him. What's your new boyfriend to do? You want him to show more interest then you stop showing interest in your ex.
You're playing games like a teenager, now your ex is your ex for a reason, once he gets you back he'll stop making the effort. If you want your new boyfriend to make an effort then stop playing him and get rid of your ex. but you want your cake and eat it too. If I was your new boyfriend I'd have dumped you ages ago. I wouldn;t be showing you any interest because I would have been gone.
You say you're confused, no your not, you're playing games. "Hmm which one will come out the winner in my little competition of fun" I bet you have a chalkboard at home and everything and give each guy points for the little things they do.
Make your decision and do it soon, because there won't be any winners in this little game of yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): Block the ex. He lost out and he is now realizing it. And your new boyfriend is seeming a little intimidated, when he should really be embracing you more.
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reader, rouge  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Decide what you want and stop messing around with them both, be faithful. cheers;)
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reader, LittleMissy  +, writes (25 January 2011):
Uh you could just delete you ex from Facebook. That would make sense, and would be the respectful thing to do.
Your new bf is distant because he doesn't trust you, and why would he you clearly don't know what you want and it looks like your enjoying the whole thing.
Either be with one or non of them, cos you can't have both, and stop playing silly little games. Your In the 30-35 age range? Oh dear I thought you must be about 15!!
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