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writes:right now I'm feeling extremely sad. i need to know how to cope with this situation that i am in. i am living with my partner who is still married. he has 3 kids from previous relationship and we have 3 of our own. the older three are teens and the younger 3 are under 10. i have been struggling to keep this relationship together for the past 9 yrs that we have been together. the older 3 girls are very rude to me and speaks to me disrespectful, they live with us, visit their mother over the vacation. the 14yr old is having sex with older men and recently we were informed they sneaked out the window. the older cut school to go with a guy and accepted a cell phone from him which she sneaked into the house. they act as though they are women in the house. they are all under 17yrs. i have spoken to their father about the manner in which he speaks to me in from of them because they act as though they can speak to me in that same bossy disrespectful way. now since their mother has found out what they are doing she now wants to play a more active role and come around more regularly. their father even suggested her sleeping at our house at times. he lowers my self esteem when he calls me names . when i try to speak to him he interprets things the way he wants to. he embarrasses me in front of the children and it really hurts my feelings. i feel so sad and dejected please help me. i put up with a lot for the children.i cant stand his ex coming around so often but i can put up with it if he shows me some love and affection. i feel like I'm here only to babysit and clean house. the things these children did and do shock and hurt me. i wanna be happy. have anyone heard of an ex partner sleeping in the same house with him and his present? should i allow it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): oh girl. my partner has a 2 year old son and i would never allow the childs mother to stay the night MmmMM i think your in a very bad situation
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