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Archived questions from: January, 2011 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My sister and I just don't get along!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5068 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ugh. So much stuff has been going on. And I don't think I can handle it anymore. All that therapy I was going to; stopped. And stuff just didn't get better. Even with the Therapy. So Jan 20th, I graduated. Very happy about that. And My Birthday just came on the 29th. This w... (462 words)

What is a minor?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - dear readers, i would like to know what you people out there consider a minor? i.e a lot of the questions that are asked on here are not answered but people because they say you are a minor. but what age is really conssidered a minor? i know 15 is minor, but is 16? 17? 18? w... (193 words)

If we were to break up I have nowhere to go. Advice needed please!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5066 days ago

31 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - im with my girlfreind nearly 7 yrs, we're living together and have a 2 yr old daughter i proposed to her on her 21st birthday yr and half ago but since then we'v been fighting a lot and the sex went from occasionally to none. im only 21 and have set goals: exercising, giving ... (141 words)

I think she wants me to pop the question but I'm terrified!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5071 days ago

31 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year. We have become very close over the course of the past year. Recently, she has let me know that she is ready to move onto the next phase of our relationship, i.e. she wants me to pop THE question. The problem is that ... (169 words)

What can I say to him via text to turn him on???

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5055 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So me and my boyfriend just started sending dirty text messages and I don't know what to say to turn him on and I don't want to sound stupid. So Can you please help? ... (34 words)

Does he or does he not... like me???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i need some guy help! it's not so much a question, more just me asking for a general opinion on whether or not he might like me or if he's just nice? so i really like a guy at work. he's a bit older than me, but i'm sure it wouldn't be too much of a problem. - he a... (526 words)

How do I step over that barrier with this chap at work, as it is so pathetic, I simply have forgotten how to get a boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am a 36 yr old female. I ended a 10 year marriage that was abusive 3 years ago. My husband used to rage at me for everything, he withheld sex, he was addicted to drugs, he was addicted to porn and would push me away if I ever tried to initiate sex. We have one child together. ... (525 words)

Relationship status???

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5070 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - How do you know when you have been seeing someone on and off for 17 years, what the actual relationship status is? It started off as just sex, but now it seems to be growing into something more...or at least to me. He talks to his friends about me, but not sure of what exactly ... (115 words)

Does a life threatening illness affect your decision to enter into a relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have met a really lovely guy. We have only had two dates so far but they have both been amazing. However before our dates I found out he has a few girls on the scene that he calls just for sex. He knew I knew about it so the conversation came up. He told me he doesnt care ... (406 words)

In love with my principal...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5039 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in high school and I'm in love with my principal. Over the past summer i started messaging him on fbook and after about 2 months of no replys i decided to tell him how i really felt. So the messages went from "hey hows it goin?" to "I Love You!!!" and after about 3 weeks ... (117 words)

How do I know just where this is going without asking a lot of "feelings"

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31 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I met a man when I was 17 and he is 11 years my senior. We had sex. Then two years later, we ran into each other and nothing happened, although you could tell we wanted it too. He then got into a relationship and I met someone and married them. The someone I met was his best ... (186 words)

I need help! What can I do to make him feel better when making the first move with sex.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i'm with my bf 16 months, at the start we were both very shy, it took a lot longer for him to come out of his shyness. we'll we started having sex after 3 months, i'm very happy with our sex-life its just i always make the first move, our sex just keeps getting better and ... (118 words)

Does the army change people???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have been in this relationship for over 2 years and my boyfriend is now in the army, we both talked about it and thought it would be a good thing to do. now that he is in the military, i feel neglected and he is not the same person he was before he went in, so my question is ... (82 words)

The constant worrying is driving me insane!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5071 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - dear readers my boyfriend and i started having sex about 6 months ago and he uses a condom every time, but the thing is im always very concerned that it will break! he doesnt seem to feel the worry i do and probably thinks im being rediculous. it really freaks me out th... (141 words)

Fiance cheated, take him back or not?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5058 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently broke off my engagement with my fiancé who I have been with for three years. I found out about a month ago by going through his computer (looking for a paper I had written, not to spy) that he was looking at other girls online; not porn but girls I knew. He was ... (348 words)

Help!!! Is my boyfriend addicted to porn?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5071 days ago

31 January 2011 (?) age 41-50 - My boyfriend of one year is addicted to porn. Well I think he is. I used to think it was ok but now I'm not so sure. WE used to watch porn together and have fun with it but lately it seems that he prefers to please himself to porn rather than being intimate with me. Now that ... (218 words)

WHY does he want anal???

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4741 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - dear readers, recently by BF has taken to asking me to have anal sex, but i really dont know what to do here? i dont really want to, but at the same time i am a bit curious. i want to know does it really hurt? does it feel better for him? is that why he want it. im not ... (109 words)

I can't help but think that he's not in it for the long run.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi, I met someone, things started off shaky just cause when things get serious i start pushing people away just to see if they'l stick around and he didn't he just became distant. I felt bad because for a while he was doing and saying all the right things, so i met up with hi... (251 words)

My best friend stole the girl I love!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5070 days ago

31 January 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - So I really like this girl and my friend seems to like her too. I've thought this for awhile and I don't knownwhat to do. My friend claims to have a gf but I've never seen her so Idk if he's lying. The girl I like is really pretty smart and funny. When I was in 8th Period my ... (173 words)

Is there recovery from cybersex/emotional infidelity?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently found out about one of my boyfriend's cyber sex partners while we were vacationing together. I was using his computer to email my family when a woman named Rachael popped up on his skype to talk to him. I told she was asking for him and he went silent. Curiosity... (599 words)

He wants nothing to do with me or the child but I want him back...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F) age 36-40 - after years of dating, my boyfriend broke up with me when i told him i was pregnant. i due next month. he said at the time he was to young(25) and wanted to enjoy life but he didn't want a serious realtionship. in october 2010 i talk to him over an our asking him to give us ... (214 words)

Help! I can't seem to get past his mistakes...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - me and my boyfriend have been together for a while and he tells me all the time that he doesnt want anyone but me but i find it hard to believe. never was there actually cheating but more so expressing to others the things he wanted to do with them or to them i find out we ... (110 words)

One night stand???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - If you already knew the person from high school, got along great, then saw him at a party 10 years later, is that still considered a one night stand? Can a relationship come from it?... (35 words)

I'm getting tired of him always being busy.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5071 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm getting tired of him always being busy. So I am 17 and me and my bf have been going out for a year tomorrow actually.... The thing is his number 1 passion is snowmobiles. So of course every chance he gets he is off snowmobiling. From fixing his to selling parts to ... (276 words)

I think I deserve better than what I'm getting!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5068 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So my husband and I will be married for a year in March but we have been together for four years! We have a huge age difference! He is 40 while I am 23 mind you that he does not look a day over 30! My friends thought I was absolutely crazy but I was head over heels in love! So ... (294 words)

Closing the deal! How can I gain more confidence?

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31 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi guys Its more of a general question. I have seen that I am good at talking to women and teasing them and doing all the push and pull thing. However in some cases its later on that after I have made the initial rapport that I find it hard to close the deal and make the woma... (82 words)

Am I over thinking?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5071 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been seeing what some may call my "boyfriend" but not official for about 5 months. This gets complicated so hopefully I can make this clear enough to understand. I started working at a strip club, yes, dancing right after my 20th birthday. After only a few days of wo... (456 words)

Aargh Boyfriend... or best friend???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5071 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - During the summer, my best friend made up a serious lie about my boyfriends best friend, so i stopped talking to her. a few months on and i'd started talking to her again. my boyfriend, of 1 year, felt like i was betraying him so gave me the choice of him or her. i said i ... (185 words)

Tense kissing problem!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - There’s this guy I really like but when it comes to kissing him I just tense up. What should I do? I’m at a loss; I want to be intimate with him but cant. I’ve liked him for two years now; even though for part of that he was in a relationship I couldn’t stop thinking about him. ... (190 words)

What else can I do to make me look more like the 14 year old I'm supposed to be?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5066 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 14 but I look more like I'm 17 or 18. Most of my friends families don't approve of me because I look so much older even though they are usualy always older then me. In tired of me looking older affecting my life with my friends, so how do I change it? I'm skinny and ... (83 words)

Can you explain this lingo?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Simple question (I think). Basically I'm used to the lingo, e.g. third-base, and I know what it all means except for one thing which really confuses me - 'pull' I've been in loads of parties and events and seen people 'pulling.' One of my friends 'pulls' guys quite often. Som... (130 words)

Should I stay with my boyfriend... or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Am I wanting to stay with my him(bf)? Every time that I he gets close to me. It just doesn't feel right. I don't even let him kiss, hug etc. No more. Sometimes I will let him kiss me b4 he go to work. Cause usaly that what would a couple would do before leaving each other. But ... (106 words)

My husband has delusional thoughts of me

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband has delusional thoughts of me. He asks certain questions and twists them into something totally different. He has always done this. He has always thought i am cheating on him, that i have or will. I cant stand defending myself against things that I have never even ... (644 words)

How do you pursue? Confused...

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31 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been seeing this woman for about 2 months. We've went out, but I've been seeing her about once a week since then. At first we both were planning things, but I was taking it slow, and really didn't mention that I was interested in her. I'm not sure what she was thinking. ... (492 words)

I'm afraid of making my boyfriend bored when we have sex.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I recently become sexually active with my boyfriend. I'm in my early-twenties and it is my first time having sex with anyone. I feel kind of insecure about my body and too shy to let my boyfriend see it. Whenever we have sex (it has only been 3 times), we have to do it un... (135 words)

Is it true that overly friendly girls are the ones to watch out for?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - OK i know this is a generalization buy through my dating experience i have come to stay away from girls who are very warm and friendly when you first meet them, and instead get to know the ones who are more reserved when you first meet them. The reason is i find that girls ... (162 words)

I want to do something sweet for him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is in the Military. He is stationed in the US right now so I want to send him something sweet for Valentine's Day. I don't do sexy from a distance so nothing like that, just something sweet to let him know I am thinking of him. ... (48 words)

Is he just like every other man who gets what he wants and leaves?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5070 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi All. Theres this guy I talk to regularly on facebook and sometimes I see him out. Hes really flirty over facebook with girls, including me.. but hes all talk and never acts on it. I'd go out for random drives with him and i learnt hes pretty shy actually but then as soon as ... (254 words)

Why do I want group sex so bad?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5071 days ago

31 January 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - My wife and i have been happily married for 16 years and have 2 good kids, we tried the group thing with some friends but my wife does not want to do it again. I, on the other hand i loved it and want to try it again. I can tell the different between sex and love. I tried n... (123 words)

He says my past disgusts him...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5070 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 24 years old and I have had multiple partners some of whom know my current boyfriend. He said that my past disgusts him and he can't be with me because he can't get over the thought of people knowing what i am like in bed. Is it wrong for me to ask him to get over it? The ... (136 words)

Trust and loyalty towards family

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age - My daughter was married for 2 years. Overnight she turned into a quiet, withdrawn person. Talking to her, supporting her didnt draw her out of her shell. During the 2 years we (family/close friends) noticed that things between her and her husband were not kosher and that she ... (724 words)

Still struggling after the breakup...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5068 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi , I am going through a really tough time at the minute my boyfriend broke up with me the day before new years after nearly 4 years together and i am still absolutley devastated. things were bad for a few weeks beforehand, he felt we were drifting apart due to his hour... (226 words)

What is wrong with using someone if they use you too?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi, my question is this, I was talking with a friend who reguarly has casual sex with people. I was saying how it is bad if there is no love or commitment, but he goes, why? If i am using her for my gratification and she is using me for hers, what is the problem? I am not ... (117 words)

I don't know what to do... Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - my boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year now, and we moved in together 3 months ago, and i feel like the relationship is not what it used to be he does not cuddle with me as much as he used to does not pay attention to me as much as he used to he would rather watch ... (242 words)

My cousin wants to use me for kissing practice!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5072 days ago

31 January 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - my cousin wanted to practice kissing with me to see if she was doing it right aparently but the parts of my body she touched during it and what she said after told me it wasnt just a bit of practice she said after i enjoyed that can we practice again. i want to kiss you more ... (114 words)

Any ideas on how I could start speaking to him again?

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31 January 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I went out with this guy for a short while in the summer but then we broke up and said that we'll still be friends and stuff but now we're not even on speaking terms which pains me greatly seeing as we got really close i would just like some advice on how to begin speaking to ... (78 words)

When is too soon to move in together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5070 days ago

31 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - When is too soon to move in together? I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. We are both happy together and I feel he is 'the one' and says he feels the same. He's 34 and I'm 30, he still lives with his parents and I have my own place. He will come over one night ... (233 words)

Drinking is spoiling our nights out!

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31 January 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year now and we have a good relationship and get on great, apart from when we go on a night out and drink. We aren't violent or abusive to each other but we both wind each other up or start talking about certain issues with have ... (225 words)

He's completely avoiding me now and I don't know what to do...

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31 January 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Help Me!! I'm 23 year old and i fell in love with my classmate. He is 22 years old, and also in love with me. He was the one who first kissed me and gradually our relations got strong... v both have physical relation. Our cast is diff and even age differs so our parents will ... (174 words)

What should I get my Ex Fiancee for valentine's day?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5071 days ago

31 January 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Well i have a question to ask the community i just recently broke up with my ex fiancee i want to give some sort of background we together for 6 years we had our ups and down i was very immature and lied because she had trust issues with me i admit it was my fault i was very ... (307 words)